Not happy with myself


  • Dec 06, 2015 7:21 PM GMT
    Knowing that gay media is all about promoting youth and that anyone over 40 is as good as dead, and that I missed my chance to get with a young guy when I was young discuss
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    Dec 06, 2015 9:10 PM GMT
    Lame troll is lame. Try harder.
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    Dec 06, 2015 10:30 PM GMT
    I don't have that problem.
    Not bragging tho because I have many
    problems. Looks or age aren't any yet.

    You probably have a far better piece of mind
    than i have.

    You're White, so cheer up.

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  • ABPinDallas

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    Dec 06, 2015 10:40 PM GMT
    seekingyounger saidKnowing that gay media is all about promoting youth and that anyone over 40 is as good as dead, and that I missed my chance to get with a young guy when I was young discuss


    The key to your answer is right here - you wrote it yourself - NOT HAPPY WITH MYSELF.
    Yeah, well, we can't change media promoting youth and good looks. It is across the board of all genders and ages and is certainly nothing new or trendy.
    You say you missed your chance to get with a younger guy - what? Do we only get ONE (1) chance in life?
    Get into some talk talk counseling to help your depressing I am down and out attitude. There are usually quite a few counselors or counseling groups that are free. If you have medical insurance, a portion of it will go for counseling. This is a deep rooted issue with you. It just needs some tweaking, a dose of reality, and a box of self confidence to help you connect with younger guys. Believe it or not, there are a bunch of younger guys looking for older types for a lot of reasons. Cheer up!
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    Dec 06, 2015 11:12 PM GMT
    Whyehot's sock account strikes again. icon_lol.gif
  • christastic

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    Dec 06, 2015 11:19 PM GMT
    A bear version of Matthew56 icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 06, 2015 11:26 PM GMT
    ABPinDallas said
    seekingyounger saidKnowing that gay media is all about promoting youth and that anyone over 40 is as good as dead, and that I missed my chance to get with a young guy when I was young discuss


    The key to your answer is right here - you wrote it yourself - NOT HAPPY WITH MYSELF.
    Yeah, well, we can't change media promoting youth and good looks. It is across the board of all genders and ages and is certainly nothing new or trendy.
    You say you missed your chance to get with a younger guy - what? Do we only get ONE (1) chance in life?
    Get into some talk talk counseling to help your depressing I am down and out attitude. There are usually quite a few counselors or counseling groups that are free. If you have medical insurance, a portion of it will go for counseling. This is a deep rooted issue with you. It just needs some tweaking, a dose of reality, and a box of self confidence to help you connect with younger guys. Believe it or not, there are a bunch of younger guys looking for older types for a lot of reasons. Cheer up!


    You clearly mean well and I'm glad for that, but when somebody ends an emotionally charged statement (usually poorly disguised as a halfhearted search for empathy but really mocking a locally stereotypical expression of angst) in the RJ forums with a directive to "discuss", they're trolling for arguments and in general trying to stir up bad mojo. They often start a new copy of the thread every time the old one fades from the first page of the "All Things Gay" forum for lack of interest.

    I think most of us have been fooled by sock accounts somewhere here, which is why I point it out. I don't fault you for assuming the best, and I hope I'm wrong here, but just don't be discouraged and give up on RJ when you do inevitably fall for it.

    Welcome to the RealJock metagame. ;)
  • christastic

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    Dec 06, 2015 11:33 PM GMT
    like I said, the syntax is exactly the same as with Matthew56, right down to the "discuss" thrown in for good measure lol.

    Matthew's last thread title:
    "To be happy complete as a Gay man you have to be attractive, body of an Adonis and have men falling down on you're feet discuss"
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    Dec 07, 2015 12:16 AM GMT
    Lose some weight.
    Get a new fuckin wardrobe.
    Acquire a chill and ageless personality....

    and then start your shit over again.
    40 ain't super young, but it aint that old either. yeeeesh icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 07, 2015 1:46 AM GMT
    I didn't come out until I was 50. Everyone I've been with has been younger. Guys 40 yo and older want young guys and there is no shortage of young guys who want them provided they have taken care of themselves. It's actually harder to find older guys who want guys their own age.
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    Dec 07, 2015 1:47 AM GMT
    Hottie26_ said

    chris-brown.gif

    Anyone else think Chris Brown is totes cute in this pic?
  • badbug

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    Dec 07, 2015 2:26 AM GMT
    "Anyone else think Chris Brown is totes cute in this pic?"


    Totally, he could beat my sister any day.

  • Oceans_of_Flo...

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    Dec 07, 2015 4:52 AM GMT
    You wish you'd dated young guys when you were young and now its too late? LOL, you obviously don't know how magical Gay Life is. You date older when you're younger and younger when you're older. As ideal as it would be for mature gay men to find the same traits they hope young guys will find attractive in them, attractive in mature men, most don't. What to do? Play the game.

    There are scores of older gay men who bag more young ass than a detention center. How? First off, they have confidence. Young men find confidence very sexy - because they are honing their own and expect an older suitor to be unshakable.

    Own your belly: Tuck in your shirt, belt that sucker and be proud of your gut because it speaks to confidence and ANY attribute when embraced by its owner is sexy.

    Once you nail confidence, work on pride. Don't be prideful, but have pride. You being proud of your maturity is good for you in general, but it also denotes exclusivity associated with your level in life. The mature guys captivate the younger guys by showing pride because they appear to be part of a kick ass member's only club into which young gays will want to gain admittance.

    Dress well. You dress well when you go to Church, dress well when you pursue younger; it flatters them. They realize you're not only interested, but putting your best foot forward. I was at The Eagle last week and this bartender was wearing nice fitted jeans, a belt, leather boots, a plaid button up, rolled up sleeves, and a leather vest - very nice. I mostly see older men in a leather/bear setting so I consider that sensible: masculine, put together, but rugged and casual. You could never go wrong with a neutral, check, or plaid button up, kakis or jeans, a belt, and shoes that aren't tennis shoes. You aren't young, you can't be put together in that way, but you can be impeccably dressed.

    Accessories: work the bike and that Lincoln town car you drive, work the side burns, the stache, your bed room eyes, the base in your voice - to reiterate, realize what you have as positives and woo yourself first before you go after the chickens. Young guys do it - they'd bone themselves if they could. You should want to at least have cocktails with yourself.

    Don't seek younger; let them come to you. Get to know the bartenders, the bar flies, and other patrons your own age, try to sit with a group and occasionally break off and do your rounds, then go back. Engage men of all ages and races/types too even if they aren't your type. You are portraying affability and you are trying not to appear as an older man just there to pursue/stalk younger guys. Again, you are making yourself as exclusive to them as they are to you. They see you engaging most people and then when you make it to them, they feel included, not targeted. Don't seek younger because they are hotter than older either - find the traits that make them them, attractive.

    I get hit on at the gym by younger and at the bar by older (not bragging, just bolstering) and they both use similar lines when they are successful. They open with having seen me and noticing my discipline, that I was put together, or complimenting something I was wearing or my smile. They never go straight in on my aesthetic appearance. Eventually, once I relax, they'll throw out a "man, nice arms" or "you're sexy too." Never open with that. You want to engage him on a deeper level and that takes appreciating other traits beside his hotness and youth.

    My fingers hurt - hope this helps. Mostly, be confident in yourself, have pride, and put your best foot forward. Conduct yourself as a confident and friendly man who allows people into his exclusive world. Love younger guys for them and show them all of your attributes. They'll love it. Good luck.



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    Dec 07, 2015 5:00 AM GMT
    Oceans_of_Flowers said
    You wish you'd dated young guys when you were young and now its too late? LOL, you obviously don't know how magical Gay Life is. You date older when you're younger and younger when you're older. As ideal as it would be for mature gay men to find the same traits they hope young guys will find attractive in them, attractive in mature men, most don't. What to do? Play the game.

    There are scores of older gay men who bag more young ass then a detention center. How? First off, they have confidence. Young men find confidence very sexy - because they are honing their own and expect an older suitor to be unshakable.

    Own your belly: Tuck in your shirt, belt that sucker and be proud of your gut because it speaks to confidence and ANY attribute when embraced by its owner is sexy.

    Once you nail confidence, work on pride. Don't be prideful, but have pride. You being proud of your maturity is good for you in general, but it also denotes exclusivity associated with your level in life. The mature guys captivate the younger guys by showing pride because they appear to be part of a kick ass member's only club into which young gays will want to gain admittance.

    Dress well. You dress well when you go to Church, dress well when you pursue younger; it flatters them. They realize you're not only interested, but putting your best foot forward. I was at The Eagle last week and this bartender was wearing nice fitted jeans, a belt, leather boots, a plaid button up, rolled up sleeves, and a leather vest - very nice. I mostly see older men in a leather/bear setting so I consider that sensible: masculine, put together, but rugged and casual. You could never go wrong with a neutral, check, or plaid button up, kakis or jeans, a belt, and shoes that aren't tennis shoes. You aren't young, you can't be put together in that way, but you can be impeccably dressed.

    Accessories: work the bike and that Lincoln town car you drive, work the side burns, the stache, your bed room eyes, the base in your voice - to reiterate, realize what you have as positives and woo yourself first before you go after the chickens. Young guys do it - they'd bone themselves if they could. You should want to at least have cocktails with yourself.

    Don't seek younger; let them come to you. Get to know the bartenders, the bar flies, and other patrons your own age, try to sit with a group and occasionally break off and do your rounds, then go back. Engage men of all ages and races/types too even if they aren't your type. You are portraying affability and you are trying not to appear as an older man just there to pursue/stalk younger guys. Again, you are making yourself as exclusive to them as they are to you. They see you engaging most people and then when you make it to them, they feel included, not targeted. Don't seek younger because they are hotter than older either - find the traits that make them them, attractive.

    I get hit on at the gym by younger and at the bar by older (not bragging, just bolstering) and they both use similar lines when they are successful. They open with having seen me and noticing my discipline, that I was put together, or complimenting something I was wearing or my smile. They never go straight in on my aesthetic appearance. Eventually, once I relax, they'll throw out a "man, nice arms" or "you're sexy too." Never open with that. You want to engage him on a deeper level and that takes appreciating other traits beside his hotness and youth.

    My fingers hurt - hope this helps. Mostly, be confident in yourself, have pride, and put your best foot forward. Conduct yourself as a confident and friendly man who allows people into his exclusive world. Love younger guys for them and show them all of your attributes. They'll love it. Good luck.






    Exactly and your my weenie...opps I mean ....jeannie in a bottle too!! You're my new personal life coach/stylist now!! So in other words...get your shit together!! lol
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    Dec 07, 2015 10:28 AM GMT
    Hottie26_ saidI don't have that problem.
    Not bragging tho because I have many
    problems. Looks or age aren't any yet.

    You probably have a far better piece of mind
    than i have.

    You're White, so cheer up.

    chris-brown.gif


    I agreed up until I heard the "you're white"

    That killed it for me. icon_sad.gif
  • Nakedman1969

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    Dec 07, 2015 10:52 PM GMT
    Seekingyounger I'm with you. I put a post and man did I get some nasty feed back from the guys on here. I understand where your coming from.
  • Fireworkz

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    Dec 08, 2015 1:07 AM GMT
    Oceans_of_Flowers said
    You wish you'd dated young guys when you were young and now its too late? LOL, you obviously don't know how magical Gay Life is. You date older when you're younger and younger when you're older. As ideal as it would be for mature gay men to find the same traits they hope young guys will find attractive in them, attractive in mature men, most don't. What to do? Play the game.

    There are scores of older gay men who bag more young ass then a detention center. How? First off, they have confidence. Young men find confidence very sexy - because they are honing their own and expect an older suitor to be unshakable.

    Own your belly: Tuck in your shirt, belt that sucker and be proud of your gut because it speaks to confidence and ANY attribute when embraced by its owner is sexy.

    Once you nail confidence, work on pride. Don't be prideful, but have pride. You being proud of your maturity is good for you in general, but it also denotes exclusivity associated with your level in life. The mature guys captivate the younger guys by showing pride because they appear to be part of a kick ass member's only club into which young gays will want to gain admittance.

    Dress well. You dress well when you go to Church, dress well when you pursue younger; it flatters them. They realize you're not only interested, but putting your best foot forward. I was at The Eagle last week and this bartender was wearing nice fitted jeans, a belt, leather boots, a plaid button up, rolled up sleeves, and a leather vest - very nice. I mostly see older men in a leather/bear setting so I consider that sensible: masculine, put together, but rugged and casual. You could never go wrong with a neutral, check, or plaid button up, kakis or jeans, a belt, and shoes that aren't tennis shoes. You aren't young, you can't be put together in that way, but you can be impeccably dressed.

    Accessories: work the bike and that Lincoln town car you drive, work the side burns, the stache, your bed room eyes, the base in your voice - to reiterate, realize what you have as positives and woo yourself first before you go after the chickens. Young guys do it - they'd bone themselves if they could. You should want to at least have cocktails with yourself.

    Don't seek younger; let them come to you. Get to know the bartenders, the bar flies, and other patrons your own age, try to sit with a group and occasionally break off and do your rounds, then go back. Engage men of all ages and races/types too even if they aren't your type. You are portraying affability and you are trying not to appear as an older man just there to pursue/stalk younger guys. Again, you are making yourself as exclusive to them as they are to you. They see you engaging most people and then when you make it to them, they feel included, not targeted. Don't seek younger because they are hotter than older either - find the traits that make them them, attractive.

    I get hit on at the gym by younger and at the bar by older (not bragging, just bolstering) and they both use similar lines when they are successful. They open with having seen me and noticing my discipline, that I was put together, or complimenting something I was wearing or my smile. They never go straight in on my aesthetic appearance. Eventually, once I relax, they'll throw out a "man, nice arms" or "you're sexy too." Never open with that. You want to engage him on a deeper level and that takes appreciating other traits beside his hotness and youth.

    My fingers hurt - hope this helps. Mostly, be confident in yourself, have pride, and put your best foot forward. Conduct yourself as a confident and friendly man who allows people into his exclusive world. Love younger guys for them and show them all of your attributes. They'll love it. Good luck.






    Good advice.