Correlation between Top/Bottom and Older/Younger?

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    Dec 09, 2015 11:54 AM GMT
    Folks,

    I have always self identified as a Top, and consider myself masculine but not a Neanderthal.

    I've lived most of my life in rural areas and only come to the Tampa Bay (Big City) area a few years ago. In the rural deep south, meeting any Gay male locally was a big deal in and of itself, so exact ages or other characteristics were not such a big deal. Looking at the profiles on here, I seem to see a pattern and want to know if you see it as well.

    Many men say they want are interested in bottom their age or younger, or a top their own age up to a few years older.

    In a "Top & Bottom" style relationship, is it expected that the "Top" be older?

    Has it occurred to anyone that younger men might be "better performers" in the Top role due to better health?

    Does this have something to do with the fact that older men tend to have more money or power and are hence the "husband" in a traditional, pre-1970's world view?

    Just a question,
    FloridaRugyBear
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    Dec 09, 2015 1:14 PM GMT
    My own experience tells me that tops will be tops, and bottoms will bottoms, regardless of where they are on the age spectrum. That's because sexual preference, as is the case with virtually all preferences, is innate and often doesn't change. I submit that, when we observe gay coupling in which the older guy is the top and the younger guy is the bottom, what we're actually seeing is a manifestation of innate sexual preference that has nothing to do with age. Of course, there will always be exceptions and outliers--e.g., people who adopt a role different from their innate preference because of their particular circumstances, but ultimately they revert back to their innate preference.
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    Dec 09, 2015 1:33 PM GMT
    Since you mentioned this site specifically, I'll give my two cents on what I noticed.

    Please don't flame me, I'm only typing the truth lol.

    This is primarily a bodybuilding forum first and foremost.

    I noticed this board has lots of twinks and queens and non masculine guys in their 20s myself included, and the masculine guys who are by average slightly older than that, are slowly but surely becoming more open minded and widening their horizons and wouldn't mind a non masculine guy to partner up with seuxally.

    You kinda get in where you fit in.

    So for example if a white gay guy from America moves to Japan, a country that is 98% asian, he would more than likely date an asian guy and only asian men possibly.

    Get it now?

    Also times are changing.

    As with in the past, masculine guys stuck with masculine guys, and feminine guys stuck with fem guys. No matter what role they played sexually.
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    Dec 09, 2015 1:39 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidMy own experience tells me that tops will be tops, and bottoms will bottoms, regardless of where they are on the age spectrum.


    Agree with this. In my own experience it's not linked at all.

    My first sexual experience was with a man 20 years older (who I had a relationship with) and I bottomed, and then topped. I instantly knew I was on the top end of the spectrum (I had suspected I was beforehand but the actual event confirmed it).

    It's not changed at all in the 14 years since.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Dec 09, 2015 6:01 PM GMT
    FloridaRugbyBear saidFolks,

    I have always self identified as a Top, and consider myself masculine but not a Neanderthal.

    I've lived most of my life in rural areas and only come to the Tampa Bay (Big City) area a few years ago. In the rural deep south, meeting any Gay male locally was a big deal in and of itself, so exact ages or other characteristics were not such a big deal. Looking at the profiles on here, I seem to see a pattern and want to know if you see it as well.

    Many men say they want are interested in bottom their age or younger, or a top their own age up to a few years older.

    In a "Top & Bottom" style relationship, is it expected that the "Top" be older?

    Has it occurred to anyone that younger men might be "better performers" in the Top role due to better health?

    Does this have something to do with the fact that older men tend to have more money or power and are hence the "husband" in a traditional, pre-1970's world view?

    Just a question,
    FloridaRugyBear


    The truths is probably somewhere in the middle.

    Indeed, a dude who happens to be top, may or may not be used to his role, is always going to lean towards topping. A few guys are total tops, and would not consider any other scenario.

    Yet, a number of tops will agree to bottom 'for the right guy'. You hear that pretty often.

    An older dude may have more power and money on his side, and he may be calling the shots in a relationship. A younger dude who may be lacking the power and money, but would want to date an older top may see his partner as 'the right guy', and may agree to bottom for him.

    Once out of that particular relationship, the younger dude is likely to revert to his original preference, and would be seeking guys who are bottoms.

    In practical terms, if the two tops bump into each other, and have a degree of versatility, the likelihood is that a 'bigger' dude would top with the usual, NSA, hookup context.

    SC
  • takashi

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    Dec 19, 2015 10:11 PM GMT
    When you are young, say 20s, 30s, 40s, age does not matter too much, younger or older by 10 years, no problem, bottom or top. But once you go past that 50 mark, it does seem to change. I am a mature bottom and younger men are not interested in me. I have not had a younger partner for ages. It may be different for older tops, still the older you get the less stamina, etc. Gosh I do love my mature top men.