Dec 14, 2015 6:06 AM GMT
Hello men. I was wondering if someone could give me perspective. I have been dating a complicated guy with lots of baggage for over a year now. The majority of the time things are great between us. In over a year we have maybe had 5 or 6 arguments... And several of those arguments were in a short span of time several months ago. So I would say the situation is more good than bad. My guy has had a traumatic past and is definitely moody and tends to look at the glass half empty. He has a demanding job and is ALWAYS stressed out. Generally this does not come into play in our relationship.
Background info aside, today we were supposed to hang out and he did not appear to be in a very good mood when we talked earlier. In a later phone conversation he was snappy with me and rude on the phone, so I told him that we should just hang out another time because I do not want to piss him off or irritate him further. I do not enjoy being around him when he is like that. Because of that he has now come to the dramatic conclusion that I am a "fair weather friend" and I want a "perfect person" and he is not perfect so he doesn't think we should be together. He says that he is always going to have bad days and I obviously can not handle that, so I do not need to be with him.
Does this seem like a rational and logical thought process on his behalf? Do you think I was in the wrong for canceling plans with him because he was snappy with me on the phone?
Just curious to get another perspective on this other than his and my own.
Background info aside, today we were supposed to hang out and he did not appear to be in a very good mood when we talked earlier. In a later phone conversation he was snappy with me and rude on the phone, so I told him that we should just hang out another time because I do not want to piss him off or irritate him further. I do not enjoy being around him when he is like that. Because of that he has now come to the dramatic conclusion that I am a "fair weather friend" and I want a "perfect person" and he is not perfect so he doesn't think we should be together. He says that he is always going to have bad days and I obviously can not handle that, so I do not need to be with him.
Does this seem like a rational and logical thought process on his behalf? Do you think I was in the wrong for canceling plans with him because he was snappy with me on the phone?
Just curious to get another perspective on this other than his and my own.