Gay and Proud, what Positive experiences of being involved in social and community building activities have you had in your life??? Please Discuss

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    Dec 14, 2015 2:55 PM GMT
    I have been involved with many Gay Community and wider mainstream social groups from community sports to volunteering with the homeless population. I have made a lot of friends through these activities, far more than I could hope for on the Gay bar/S.O.P scene or online dating and hookup apps. What are you positive experiences both in the Gay or Mainstream and where you out to people who were also involved with what you were doing.
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    Dec 14, 2015 3:47 PM GMT
    Sydneyrugbyjock73 saidWhat are you positive experiences both in the Gay or Mainstream and where you out to people who were also involved with what you were doing.

    Not a lot when I was younger. As a teen my prep school had us each "adopt" a needy family, to whom we'd personally deliver food at the holidays. I guess to make these privileged, spoiled rich kids see how the other half lives, and develop at least some degree of social responsibility.

    I know I'd never seen anything like those conditions myself. Back in the days of Kennedy-Johnson liberalism, that's a bad word today in US politics.

    Then I entered the Army, and for 25 years I was in a different type of social isolation. Our military installations were a different kind of closed and "gated community" and I had only limited contact with the civilian world outside. For one thing we were never there for very long before reassignment, you didn't want to put down "roots" and get too involved locally.

    But 6 months after retirement I came out, and all that changed. Today LGBT community involvement takes a large part of my time, and money. Much of it focusing on HIV/AIDS work, but also issues like LGBT hunger and homelessness, especially among the young.

    We do meet many people this way, but frankly a lot of them we already know from other circles, who were already our friends. Nevertheless I do agree this kind of community outreach can be more rewarding and worthwhile than bar-hopping and hook-up apps.
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    Dec 14, 2015 4:07 PM GMT
    I've had less of a carbon footprint by never getting anyone pregnant.
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    Dec 14, 2015 5:28 PM GMT
    I was very lucky to have a gay community center around with a youth group when I came out at 15/16. I would lie to my mom and say i was going to a footbal game lol. It really helped me come to terms with my sexuality. Yes there were feminine gay guys like me there and masculine gay women. There were also masculine guys and feminine women. No one seemed like a pervert or a predator. My mother had tried to fill my head with horrible ideas of what gay people were as i grew up. I guess she wanted me to fear and and to try to be straight. Going there I quickly realized gay people were like everyone else. I probably would have killed myself or injured myself had I not sought out the truth and depended on the hate my mother was spewing.
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    Dec 14, 2015 5:29 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidI've had less of a carbon footprint by never getting anyone pregnant.


    I fucking love the shade in this statement.
  • JackNNJ

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    Dec 14, 2015 10:14 PM GMT
    My experience:

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    Dec 15, 2015 5:34 AM GMT
    I put my stethoscope on the chest of a dying man with AIDS...because nobody else wanted to.

    I sutured a laceration on an HIV positive man...because nobody else wanted to.

    At then end of the day, and in spite of all the bickering, I love my gay brothers more than anyone else in the world and I would do anything I could to help them out...because nobody else wanted to.
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    Dec 15, 2015 5:58 AM GMT
    I fuck a lot of porn stars. Sean Duran is currently my "it" boy...icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 15, 2015 2:14 PM GMT
    For several years I provided pro bono legal services to gay men who were HIV positive or had full-blown AIDS. It was depressing for a variety of reasons, and as much as I wanted to continue doing it I simply did not have the emotional fortitude to carry on. My particular experience exposed me to the misfortunes of this particular segment of the gay population, many of whom had no financial assets, no emergency contacts, no families or friends, no homes, etc.
  • SkeletonKey

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    Dec 15, 2015 4:16 PM GMT
    I havent been involved with too many groups. But i met a great guy off of here. I'm actually going to meet him in a few days for a short mini-vacation together.
  • SuntoryTime

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    Dec 15, 2015 9:53 PM GMT
    I wish I had the power to tell every gay kid out there to avoid gay dating sites and apps like the plague. Yes, you might still run into some bitchy bullshit while volunteering, but people tend to be a lot more considerate in person.
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    Dec 15, 2015 11:18 PM GMT
    Good to hear there are some people a little community minded around. Thanks to all the respondents who actually answered the question I put forward, as for the others, all I can say is very funny but high school ended for all of you a long time ago.

    I happen to believe getting involved in something that doesn't involve pickups online and bars or just between you and your lover/s. It gives people a real sense of being wanted and a chance to feel a level of fullfilment the scene or dating apps can never do. Plus you can make friends and better still, you don't have to stop online dating or going to gay bars if you don't want to. Many gay men struggle with mental health and addictions from not feeling connected to anything and so they end up getting caught up in lots of drama and can't figure out why that is. I did a lot of volunteering for Gay Youth then sexual health and later helping to provide Gay men with Sports and cultural activity opportunities where they would feel supported not left out. The good will and confidence it provided for the participants and me is still binding us into a mini community and many life long friendships formed and mainly stayed after the activity was no longer attended by the people who became friends. It's called shared experiences and being part of something that isn't just about yourself. Try it everyone, participate, volunteer or start a new activity and invite others yourself if your motivated. You won't regret it and will lead a happier life