Sydneyrugbyjock73 saidWhat are you positive experiences both in the Gay or Mainstream and where you out to people who were also involved with what you were doing.
Not a lot when I was younger. As a teen my prep school had us each "adopt" a needy family, to whom we'd personally deliver food at the holidays. I guess to make these privileged, spoiled rich kids see how the other half lives, and develop at least some degree of social responsibility.
I know I'd never seen anything like those conditions myself. Back in the days of Kennedy-Johnson liberalism, that's a bad word today in US politics.
Then I entered the Army, and for 25 years I was in a different type of social isolation. Our military installations were a different kind of closed and "gated community" and I had only limited contact with the civilian world outside. For one thing we were never there for very long before reassignment, you didn't want to put down "roots" and get too involved locally.
But 6 months after retirement I came out, and all that changed. Today LGBT community involvement takes a large part of my time, and money. Much of it focusing on HIV/AIDS work, but also issues like LGBT hunger and homelessness, especially among the young.
We do meet many people this way, but frankly a lot of them we already know from other circles, who were already our friends. Nevertheless I do agree this kind of community outreach can be more rewarding and worthwhile than bar-hopping and hook-up apps.