Is being in love ever mutual?

  • Deri245

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    Dec 15, 2015 4:04 AM GMT
    Ok everyone so about two years ago I met a guy lets call him Trevor! Anyway we hung out a few times and we really hit it off wasnt about sex at first but after a while it evolved into it icon_smile.gif we hangout every Sunday and he makes me stay over until Monday.

    Its weird because when we meet he is so excited to see me and makes me give him a big hug and kiss when I get to the door, After the last month or so I have realized I like this guy a lot I think? Only issue is we only hang out at his place and its always in the later hours Sunday.

    However I feel like he is scared to admit he is gay? I know he isnt embarrassed of me because I have met a few of his friends and his mother we just told them we work together, but idk we dont really talk much during the week but for Sunday and Monday we both work a lot

    But anyway whats the best approach to say I have feelings for him? text/Person?
  • David3K

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    Dec 15, 2015 4:50 AM GMT
    The title of your thread and the content you wrote on it don't seem to be related.
  • Deri245

    Posts: 239

    Dec 15, 2015 5:01 AM GMT
    what do you mean?
  • Webster666

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    Dec 15, 2015 5:03 AM GMT
    I'm sure he already knows that you have feelings for him.
    It appears that he is afraid to come out of the closet.
    Don't think you can change him.
    Obviously, he's happy with the current arrangement.

    Don't you deserve better than this.

    Don't wait around until you're an old man.

  • Deri245

    Posts: 239

    Dec 15, 2015 5:12 AM GMT
    I tried to move on during the summer but it didnt feel right icon_sad.gif Hes a nice guy it just sucks we are nothing icon_sad.gif
  • badbug

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    Dec 15, 2015 7:19 AM GMT

    Talk to him like an adult.

    Things will change, for better or worse who can know but if you want more you need to ask for it.


    But anyway whats the best approach to say I have feelings for him? text/Person? icon_eek.gif


    Adults talk in person, or atleast they used to. Maybe i am getting old. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 15, 2015 7:22 AM GMT
    Say it with real words
    "I really think I am falling for your hard"

    Then watch his reaction
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    Dec 15, 2015 9:04 AM GMT
    enjoy the holidays with Trevor. Traditionally bad time to be making decisions.

    I suspect you have all the facts but are afraid to take any action. Relationships take work and some fail for good reasons. Both you guys need to step up.
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    Dec 15, 2015 8:42 PM GMT
    David666K saidThe title of your thread and the content you wrote on it don't seem to be related.


    I'm glad you wrote this as I thought the exact same thing. I had to re-read it and didn't know how to respond.
  • stratavos

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    Dec 16, 2015 4:15 AM GMT
    woodfordr said
    David666K saidThe title of your thread and the content you wrote on it don't seem to be related.


    I'm glad you wrote this as I thought the exact same thing. I had to re-read it and didn't know how to respond.


    to answer the topic title question: rarely.

    to answer what you ask in the actual thread: Be Loving and hOnest With My Emotions

    (BLOWME is a great way to remember that). try telling him that. And then say oughtright that you have serious feelings for him and want to meet on more than just sundays and want to have a "go out for food" date.