Please guys, let him be... Its not nice to critic so much... one post on the naive and sheltered thing is enough. If he is naive, time will allow him to grow and develop. Keep in mind tho, that he only expressed his preference on dating/relationship/sexual desire... He says to him it is a turnoff to see guys act like that. If seen in this sense, it is not offensive--he can't help what he likes. I mean some people here like people of a certain ethnicity, twins, muscle, jocks, femmes, masculine guys, etc... Yes the way he said may have been a little rude, but he apologized already. and take this thread as what kind of guys turn you off with regards of personality and appearance... is it masculinity or something else? and what does that tell you of your own behavior?
Well let's see... I dont mind people who act less masculine, and I dont mind the lisp on people. They can be who the are... The only thing I may mind, and may be a turn off for me, is an overwhelming indulgence in pop culture so over the top that it looks fake. And I dont mind them because of masculinity, but because the first impression they give you is that of being shallow (you know like wearing designer clothes just because they are expensive rather than wearing them because they are a kind of art and appreciating the fabric etc), and first impressions are very important.
Regardless, masculine men can appear shallow too and very ignorant by portraying the over the top "I am not gay" stereotype. This is because they usually become on-track minded and take pride on not knowing things: they know about sports, and "street" smarts, but refuse to learns anything else that is culturally stimulating. and I know this cause I have dated these kind of guys who they also tend to be young--not that I am old by any means but dating has allowed me to know what I like in a man.
regarding my own masculinity in my behavior...
Well I don't act girly, but I don't act manly either.
Due to my career (film/theater/arts) I tend to be childish and playful most of the time. I guess it can be confused with a girly attitude, but I dont do anything a girl does.
I dated many women, and and the best description I got about "courtship" was "you seem like a very determined gay man. You looked at me like a prey and I looked at you like an adorable lion that I wanted to be devoured by."
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oh yeah! =D well, there you go... but thats just my opinion.