So My Priest...

  • BerkleeBoy118

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    Feb 04, 2009 8:42 AM GMT
    ........From when I was kid Friended me on facebook today...and I was like omg what the hell. because he moved up here to Boston like at LEAST 8 years ago. His message along with the friend request said...

    "Jeff I didn't realize you were in Boston! It's a great town, don't you think? And, I love your music - the songs online are terrific! Lookin good there as well!"

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    like...what the hell. First of all. my first song that pops up is DEFINITELY about a sexy boy. second of all. this priest if judging my looks. super creepy. but what do I do? Like he was a part of my life obviously for years back home, and now I'm in school in Boston where he was transferred to. I havn't denied or accepted his friend request. because I don't know what to do. I would feel REALLY weird accepting his friend request.....especially with the message he attatched...but then...do I really deny a priest's friend request? idk. its creepy. One of the weirdest situations Ive ever been in lol......so.... what the hell should I do?! Like...he's a PRIEST for Gods Sakes....lol
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    Feb 04, 2009 9:02 AM GMT

    Dear BerkleeBoy118,

    There are some elements in our past that should just remain there: in the past. Access his page and block him. Problem solved.

    Yours truly,
    ZiMsTeR, formerly O.D. in Dubai
    Facebook Addict


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    Feb 04, 2009 1:16 PM GMT
    Agreed. Do not make him a friend, at the least. At the most, block him. No way would I tolerate that...
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    Feb 04, 2009 1:51 PM GMT
    These lines from your x priest seem so innocent to me. You may want to be a little less quick to judge unless you think you really do not want the guy as a friend.

    Sometimes I tell my friends, both male and female, that they are "looking good", especially if I have not seen them in a while. It is just a way of passing on a complement about a persons appearance.

    If you take a look at his profile on facebook you might be able to tell if he has had any life style changes in the last 8 years or something else that you could relate to. Any connection that you might make with another human being can be rewarding. If you do not like it, you can always break it off at a later date.
  • ShawnTX

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    Feb 04, 2009 1:53 PM GMT
    I don't see it as being a big deal, but that's just me. If you're not comfortable adding him as a friend, don't.
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    Feb 04, 2009 1:57 PM GMT
    if it freaks you out de-friend him...


    otherwise I dont see the problem. You should always do what you think its right in these situation, and act under common sense. It is a if-I-touch-a-fire-will-I-get-burn situation.
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    Feb 04, 2009 2:11 PM GMT


    There's so much 'no info' there I'm not sure what to say.

    Are you out to all friends and family that he knows?
    What is it about this that's creepy?
    Did you know the guy well way back then?
    Is there a reason you may not want him to know you're gay? (reference to first question)

    thanks! -Doug
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    Feb 04, 2009 2:21 PM GMT
    A gay priest befriended me through my group of friends. Although I disagreed with his hypocritical choice to remain in the closet his company was enjoyable. It's all about tolerance for one another.

    Unfortunately, he removed any comments I posted on his Facebook wall since I was likely too controversial for his fear of retribution from the Catholic church.

    We are no longer friends. However, you may want to befriend this priest people are people, just make it clear that religious beliefs will not judge this friendship. You do not need affirmation from religion.
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    Feb 04, 2009 2:21 PM GMT
    SIGH; why do people not have their profiles on private already; it on facilitates the facebook stalkers.


    <------------- is a facebook stalker.
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    Feb 04, 2009 2:28 PM GMT
    I would say that you need to learn to take adult responsibility. Right now you seem to be jumping to conclusions. By accepting his friend request you are only establishing that you are "friends" with him. If he tries an inappropriate behavior that is where you can to put your adult behavior into practice and politely turn him down and set the boundaries of your "friendship."
  • Tiller66

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    Feb 04, 2009 3:01 PM GMT
    Well I would give it a few more contacts and if they continue to be creepy cut ties with him.Good Luck and Be Safe
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    Feb 04, 2009 3:27 PM GMT
    Sounds like he is just trying to be nice. Priests are people too, this is a way for him to make a connection with an old aquaintence.
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    Feb 04, 2009 3:32 PM GMT
    Um. I'm friends with my childhood pastor/priests on facebook. What's so wrong about it?
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    Feb 04, 2009 3:32 PM GMT
    I am a godless atheist, but my parents, particularly my mother, are super hardcore Catholics. She is a lay Franciscan, prays twenty times a day, the works. Over the years they have had dozens of priests, a couple of Bishops, and hundreds of nuns and monks. Many of whom I have met.

    Over the years I have discovered that religious people are people. They may have religious orders and vows (something all Catholics have after a fashion) but they still sin with the best of us. A bit of research I red shows that only 2% of priests ever keep their vow of chastity and between 50-60% of priests are gay. How does 98% of the priesthood, and particularly the queer among them reconcile their calling and their intrinsic self? The point of all this stuff is not to be without sing but forgiveness.

    If you don't want to friend him, fine. But in your interactions with the religious just remember that behind the outrageous clothing is a human being with the same emotions and expectations as any of us.

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    Feb 04, 2009 3:34 PM GMT
    26mileman saidUnfortunately, he removed any comments I posted on his Facebook wall since I was likely too controversial for his fear of retribution from the Catholic church.

    It used to hurt mah feelungz when 'facebook friends' clean up my innocent attempt to facerape them... but thanks to RJ, I became arrogant so I deleted their arses off of mah feyz!!! icon_lol.gif

    Fable saidSIGH; why do people not have their profiles on private already; it on facilitates the facebook stalkers.


    'Cos they're stupid and cannot read simple instrucshunz

    Fable said<------------- is a facebook stalker.


    Thank you.
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    Feb 04, 2009 3:37 PM GMT
    Hmmmm. You're a grown man. If you don't want to be bothered by him then don't be. The whole online thing where anyone can find you with a address isn't really uncommon. He found you so now you're asking yourself "What should I do?" Simple. If you wanna be friends then be friends and if not then I'm sure he'll get over it.

    If he's not someone you see yourself talking to everyday or doing any activities with then I seriously wouldn't call him a friend. I'd call him an aquaintance and treat him as such. You aren't obligated to be his friend simple because he's a priest and you knew him way back then.

    I say reply back with kind words and just leave it a that. No harm, no foul.
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    Feb 04, 2009 4:33 PM GMT
    Well it's a little disconcerting if it was MY priest, but then, if he was cute, I'd be meeting him in the confessional every day!
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    Feb 04, 2009 4:36 PM GMT
    The joy in Facebook has died for me.. about 6 months ago.. and stories like this keep it very dead. That's creepy.icon_eek.gif
  • EricLA

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    Feb 04, 2009 5:11 PM GMT
    Yup, add me to the he-is-creepy category. Do not friend him. You aren't going to go to Hell for it. ;-)