Tops: Do you usually expect a bottom to have douched before sex?

  • phonehome123

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    Dec 19, 2015 1:48 AM GMT
    I'm a bottom, and I have never douched.

    There has been the occasional problem with something extra on the condom, but nothing major.

    Most of my gay sex has been with my ex-boyfriend so I dont have a huge amount of experience outside of that, and he never minded.

    But I hear all the time on here that guys are douching. So is it expected?
  • David3K

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    Dec 19, 2015 2:12 AM GMT
    It is expected for you to be clean, how you achieve that is your business.
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    Dec 19, 2015 2:15 AM GMT
    Yes.

    When a guy shows up with a turd locked and loaded, it's Game Over.
    Or at least Time Out while he goes and takes care of it. (Theme from Jeopardy plays...)
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    Dec 19, 2015 2:26 AM GMT
    Its almost a given, even in the instruction for 'self anal play' with a prostate stimulator, is that before you use this, you empty your bowel. Aneros manufacturer also indicate that an empty bowel during use makes for a more pleasurable, less messy experience. I would assume, anyone who has used a dildo for anal self play, top or bottom, knows this as well. icon_idea.gif


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    Dec 19, 2015 2:37 AM GMT
    It is expected, if only as a courtesy.

    If you are unsure of what steps to take, there are plenty of instructional videos, articles, and posts you can reference on the topic.
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    Dec 19, 2015 2:49 AM GMT
    YES

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    Dec 19, 2015 3:10 AM GMT
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  • phonehome123

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    Dec 19, 2015 3:14 AM GMT
    Ok so it's a resounding yes!

    What about when it's unplanned sex? You meet someone in the club and go home for the night. I'm guessing it's not expected then? Or is it? (and how would that be done)

    Side note: ... after switching from girls to guys one thing that surprised me a lot was the amount of preparation that went into having anal sex... you can't just have a sneaky fuck when the inspiration hits. This just adds another level of preparation! haha
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    Dec 19, 2015 3:14 AM GMT
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  • Timbales

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    Dec 19, 2015 3:17 AM GMT
    This might help:

    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HEREA: Butt sex, or anal sex, can be and is an important and pleasurable part of many people’s sex lives. In order to prepare for anal sex, many people choose to douche as a way to have peace of mind that their boink is going to be good, clean fun. There are many pros and cons to anal douching; it is up to the individual to decide whether or not to douche.

    In anal douching, a stream of water is passed through the anal canal to clean out the rectum. This is different from an enema, which is used to stimulate a bowel movement due to constipation. It is important to remember, however, that the rectum is relatively empty most of the time. Think of the rectum as a passageway between your body and your toilet; it is not a storage unit.

    While douching does decrease the risk of any “accidents” from happening during anal sex, there are some negative side effects douching can cause. For instance, douching can irritate the inner linings of one’s rectum, making one more susceptible to HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) if condoms are not being used and the partner is infected. Passing the tube or nozzle through the anal opening can also cut and scratch the sensitive tissues, increasing the risk of infection.

    There are plenty of alternatives to anal douching. One suggestion would be to use the bathroom before you plan on engaging in anal sex. Doing this will likely help rid the body of any extra fecal matter (poop). Not eating 2-3 hours before you plan on engaging in anal sex can also cut down on the urge to poop, as well as reduce the risk of a less than clean boink.

    Due to the potential for damage to the rectum and colon from improper douching practices, this sexpert does not advocate anal douching. If you do choose to douche, here are some generally accepted tips for safer douching:

    Be sure to use a nozzle or hose that does not have any sharp edges, as these can cut or scratch you (spend a little extra to get a nicer douching device – your butthole and partner will thank you)
    Use some lubricant when using the douche. This can help with insertion and minimize the risks of cuts and scratches
    Make sure to use luke-warm water – you don’t want to burn your bum or shock your system with cold water
    Moderation is key when douching, both in amount of water and how often you douche – usually one round of douching is sufficient (about ½ a cup of water) and only prior to an anal sex event are recommended
    Avoid too much “water pressure” – remember, you only need to clean the rectum; too much pressure will force water up into the colon which can increase the chances of a messy boink
    If at any time you notice any bleeding, discharge, fever, or changes in your normal bowel habits, be sure to check with a medical provider
    Whether you choose to douche or not, a properly fitted condom and some silcone- or water-based lubricant can help you and your partner to have a Better Boink! Check out the rest of our website for condom fitting tips and where to find a variety of free condoms.




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    Dec 19, 2015 3:22 AM GMT
    phonehome123 saidOk so it's a resounding yes!

    What about when it's unplanned sex? You meet someone in the club and go home for the night. I'm guessing it's not expected then? Or is it? (and how would that be done)

    Side note: ... after switching from girls to guys one thing that surprised me a lot was the amount of preparation that went into having anal sex... you can't just have a sneaky fuck when the inspiration hits. This just adds another level of preparation! haha




    Being spontaneous is nice but a bottom guy, that went out for the evening, should have done his preparation before he left the abode. There could be the occasional "accident" while out on the town.

    During the throws of hook up passion, there is always the line "I am not prepared" for that, then just get yourself a blow job, 69 instead icon_lol.gificon_wink.gif

  • Apparition

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    Dec 19, 2015 4:57 AM GMT
    you should go to the bathroom an hour before, douching is bad for you. suck it up.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Dec 19, 2015 5:59 AM GMT
    David666K saidIt is expected for you to be clean, how you achieve that is your business.


    This.

    Let's face it: you are hooking up for sex. If you are a bttm dude you would want your top guy to be able to perform. If he has just shot three times in a row, and is now not able get it hard anymore, a bttm dude would probably not find this all too amusing.

    Equally so, if you are top dude, locked and loaded and ready to go, you do expect that the bttm dude has done his bit to make sure that nasty accidents do NOT happen. This would just be his end of the bargain.

    Now, accidents do happen in real lifeicon_rolleyes.gif This is where everyone has to keep their cool, and move on. This simply comes with the territory.

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    Dec 19, 2015 6:09 AM GMT
    phonehome123 saidOk so it's a resounding yes!

    What about when it's unplanned sex? You meet someone in the club and go home for the night. I'm guessing it's not expected then? Or is it? (and how would that be done)

    Side note: ... after switching from girls to guys one thing that surprised me a lot was the amount of preparation that went into having anal sex... you can't just have a sneaky fuck when the inspiration hits. This just adds another level of preparation! haha


    I keep a shower-shot subtly (not) hanging in the master shower. Use it.
    (If I have to show you how to use it, I start to suspect that you live in your parents basement...)

    And many of the bars have Fleet in the vending machines. And the toy catalogs carry clever little bulbs and things.



    ... And girls still spend more time "getting ready."
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    Dec 19, 2015 6:18 AM GMT
    "Tops: Do you usually expect a bottom to have douched before sex?"

    Yes, unless you're really into chocolate mousse.
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    Dec 19, 2015 6:28 AM GMT
    mindgarden saidYes.

    When a guy shows up with a turd locked and loaded, it's Game Over.
    Or at least Time Out while he goes and takes care of it. (Theme from Jeopardy plays...)


    "turd locked and loaded,"

    Hilarious
  • David3K

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    Dec 19, 2015 6:29 AM GMT
    JuanPablomv89 saidI'm so sad because I don't a hole that smells like rotten tuna between my legs. I won't have a FREE FINACIALLY LIFE WITHOUT WORRIES BECAUSE MY GAY CLOSETED HUSBAND WILL SUPPORT MEN UNTIL HE GET SICK OF ME DUMPing MY ASS FOR A ILLEGAL MEXICAN YOUNGMAN.



    HAHAHA! Also you should know the only pussy that smells like fish is a yeast infected pussy, normal pussy smells nice not like tuna.
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    Dec 19, 2015 6:32 AM GMT
    David666K said
    JuanPablomv89 saidI'm so sad because I don't a hole that smells like rotten tuna between my legs. I won't have a FREE FINACIALLY LIFE WITHOUT WORRIES BECAUSE MY GAY CLOSETED HUSBAND WILL SUPPORT MEN UNTIL HE GET SICK OF ME DUMPing MY ASS FOR A ILLEGAL MEXICAN YOUNGMAN.



    HAHAHA! Also you should know the only pussy that smells like fish is a yeast infected pussy, normal pussy smells nice not like tuna.


    Especially when that loaf of sourdough cums popping out.
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    Dec 19, 2015 7:19 AM GMT
    David666K said
    JuanPablomv89 saidI'm so sad because I don't a hole that smells like rotten tuna between my legs. I won't have a FREE FINACIALLY LIFE WITHOUT WORRIES BECAUSE MY GAY CLOSETED HUSBAND WILL SUPPORT MEN UNTIL HE GET SICK OF ME DUMPing MY ASS FOR A ILLEGAL MEXICAN YOUNGMAN.



    HAHAHA! Also you should know the only pussy that smells like fish is a yeast infected pussy, normal pussy smells nice not like tuna.




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    Dec 20, 2015 3:05 PM GMT
    David666K saidIt is expected for you to be clean, how you achieve that is your business.


    ^^This. As long as you're clean. There are more ways to get clean down there than douching.
  • Timbales

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    Dec 20, 2015 3:47 PM GMT
    Expect your top to be clean around his naughty bits, too. Especially if he likes to be rimmed.
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    Dec 20, 2015 4:58 PM GMT
    Apparition saidyou should go to the bathroom an hour before, douching is bad for you. suck it up.



    Ummm.......NO. I sincerely hope you are not a bottom! icon_eek.gif Going to the bathroom is NOT enough. And a quick rinse is not bad for you. We are not talking about High Colonics here. Just enough of a rinse to clear the rectum.
  • Apparition

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    Dec 22, 2015 12:53 AM GMT
    Radd said
    Apparition saidyou should go to the bathroom an hour before, douching is bad for you. suck it up.



    Ummm.......NO. I sincerely hope you are not a bottom! icon_eek.gif Going to the bathroom is NOT enough. And a quick rinse is not bad for you. We are not talking about High Colonics here. Just enough of a rinse to clear the rectum.


    no i'm a top, and not little sissy that needs to purel the world. get over yourselves.