how to relight the fire?

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    Feb 04, 2009 10:24 AM GMT
    hi, i have recently split up with my bf of 15 years. we really are a good team and have a lot of things in common, but we have not had sex for ages.. and I mean ages, like 10+ years. we ahd an open relationship, but i recently had a crush on a guy and sex was so much more fulfilling. Any thoughts? Has anyone been in a similar situation? has anyone ever succesfully rekindled the passion after such a long time of abstinence? any advice is welcome!
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    Feb 04, 2009 7:56 PM GMT
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    Feb 04, 2009 8:02 PM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidPhotobucket


    That's hot!
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    Feb 04, 2009 8:03 PM GMT
    drakutis said
    GuerrillaSodomite saidPhotobucket


    That's hot!

    Hawt even!
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    Feb 05, 2009 10:04 AM GMT
    such helpful replies and insight... what would i do without you?icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 05, 2009 10:22 AM GMT
    Communication is the word of the day.

    Sexual preferences evolve. Have you two explored different options? Do you find each other sexually attractive, but the flame's gone, or is there simply no more sexual attraction?

    I hate to say this, because it seems that so many feel that sex and love are bound together, but that's not always the case. If you both still love each other, but there's no sex, so what?

    Talk with your partner. I wouldn't be trolling for feedback in a forum from a bunch of complete strangers.
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    Feb 05, 2009 10:32 AM GMT
    Why did y'all stop having sex? Why did you "branch out" from your own bedroom? Answer those questions and maybe you can find an answer? I don't know, I've never been in your situation and don't fully understand why people have open relationships. Good luck, though.
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    Feb 06, 2009 9:15 PM GMT
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    GuerrillaSodomite saidPhotobucket


    or This:

    Tapper saidCommunication is the word of the day.

    Sexual preferences evolve. Have you two explored different options? Do you find each other sexually attractive, but the flame's gone, or is there simply no more sexual attraction?

    I hate to say this, because it seems that so many feel that sex and love are bound together, but that's not always the case. If you both still love each other, but there's no sex, so what?

    Talk with your partner. I wouldn't be trolling for feedback in a forum from a bunch of complete strangers.


    I vote the latter. icon_smile.gif Talk it out, methinks. Though the former was quite hawt indeed.
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    Feb 06, 2009 10:27 PM GMT
    Oh... I just read this, after creating this:
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    Coincidence? Well, goodluck to you if it's still applicable! icon_cool.gif
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    Feb 06, 2009 10:32 PM GMT
    You could try duct tape. It fixes everything!

    (Use your imagination icon_biggrin.gif)