anthonybs saidOkay, I'm beginning to get a little pissed off because some guys think the world is revolving around them. I mean, I send them messages, they read them but don't reply. Like, what the fuck? You say you like guys who can offer more than sex, then again you don't even make the effort to reply. Make up your mind, for God's sake. You can at least say that you don't like my appearance or something. And I thought guys here would be more polite. SMH
There is a difference between being "mean" and being "polite."
When you can't see someone's physically, you really have no idea what's happening in their life. Someone wrote me and told me that I hadn't answered them, and I was being mean. The reality? My sister died after being told her cancer was gone. It came back 3 months later, metastasized within 3 weeks and she is now dead.
Was it mean that I was in such shock that I couldn't even remember to pay my bills? Was it "impolite"? I post this, not for sympathy, but to make people aware that on the Internet, you have absolutely no idea what is happening in the life of the person you've written. Making assumptions about their intentions doesn't help you any, either, and if a person is not resilient, they tend towards anger and bitterness, neither of them very good traits to reach emotional maturity. I am not saying the original poster is not resilient, by the way, this is a statement on human nature.
I see people attacking each other on forums as though they are at war. When you walk away from the computer after writing something really nasty, you're still carrying that resonance within you: Keep that in mind. It will define how you respond to people in the world in general. It's not as though you're Mother Theresa in the physical world and Charles Manson online. You are one or the other MOST of the time. Less tearing each other apart shows you are not carrying anger/pain inside you. If you are, do what you'd do with any cancer inside you: reach out for help. In this case, therapy. The world is already full of skeptics who doubt anyone is genuine, and to come into a virtual reality and let that reality ruin your life is saying you don't know real life from virtual life.
Mean people are mean most of the time, sometimes in subtle ways, such as ignoring you (in person, when you say hello to a co-worker, for example). Conversely, nice people stay that way most of the time, too, unless they're having a really, REALLY bad day.