when ur secret crush wants to fuck... what to do?

  • strawbeary

    Posts: 6

    Dec 20, 2015 3:07 PM GMT
    hey there

    I met this boy, he's 23 and I'm 22. he's actually the guy I've been always looking for; creative, smart and good looking.

    Since a couple of days we've been texting more and more and things get pretty serious.

    Yesterday he asked my for help regarding a software and since I'm a tech geek I was able to solve his issue. easy

    he was like "oh man, thank you so much, how can I make up for this?"

    me "its not necessary, a thank you is enough. I'm glad I could help..."

    he "ahh now I owe you some... like when you're horny hahah..."

    I was like "haha good I'll keep that in mind..."


    What do you think I should do??
    I'm actually more interested in him as person than his meat. But I'm not sure if he's up for dating or if he just wants a fuckbuddy. But my objective is to make him mine.. i dont know... should I ask him directly? or should I just take up his offer and then "get to know eachother"?

    Oh, and its also my first time with a boy in my age. I'm a bit embarassed/shy to be honest :p

    thx and churrs



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    Dec 20, 2015 3:16 PM GMT
    When my secret crush wants to fuck, what do I do?

    Drop trou of course.
  • ManHunt

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    Dec 20, 2015 3:41 PM GMT
    Just get into a relationship already! icon_redface.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 20, 2015 3:50 PM GMT
    Invite out on a date. Dinner and a movie. There's nothing wrong with him being cool about sex-- especially with you. You seem to need a more restrained approach but it is certainly fun to start a relationship with sex. And it in no way means the relationship will be only about sex. Dinner, movie, sex. A trifecta. You're just freezing up because you have a crush. Best way to start a relationship ever!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 20, 2015 5:14 PM GMT
    If a "secret crush" said something like that to me, I think my response would have been, "I'm horny now." icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 20, 2015 5:19 PM GMT
    It all sounds lovely. I'd be careful though about your stated wish to "make him mine." I know you're probably joking around using that expression. Still, I think you have a better shot of developing some sort of relationship with him if you don't think of him (or of any other person) as a potential possession. Good luck and I hope it to goes well!
  • Apparition

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    Dec 22, 2015 12:48 AM GMT
    kids these days....
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    Dec 22, 2015 2:10 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIf a "secret crush" said something like that to me, I think my response would have been, "I'm horny now." icon_lol.gif

    That's what you should have done.

    Too late now - the moment has passed,

    But go out on a date with him - movie/dinner - whatever. And see what happens. If he wasn't just kidding you, you should get a nice time out of it.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Dec 23, 2015 4:41 AM GMT
    Your secret crush may very well be one of those dudes who first and foremost wants to check the sex bit before going any further into the dating, dinners, movies, and long walks together.

    You lost a momentum here, but you can regain it, too. You are seriously texting each other, so do whatever it takes, and yeah, feel free to call in a favor owed, if everything else fails:shockicon_sad.gifJust kiddin'!).

    The dude looks like a sexually very positive person. As a rule, such guys are interested dating similar guys. Project a sexually positive attitude, and get there already!

    SC