This should be under HIV/AIDS but it involves everyone POZ and NEG. So it is ALL things Gay
How else can I stay HIV-negative?
There are several steps you can take to reduce the chances of contracting HIV, including:
Consider dating people living with HIV who are “undetectable.” Research shows that people living with HIV who consistently take their medication can reduce the likelihood of passing HIV onto a partner by at least 96 percent. Dating people who don't know their HIV status, or who are not connected to care, can mean a much higher likelihood of contracting HIV.http://www.hrc.org/resources/is-prep-right-for-me
Sydney will call it selective posting. There are 8 others. But #6 ought to ruffle his feathers! It's a simple quote. Nothing added. Save the hate rhetoric, write to the Human Rights Campaign (HRC).
How do you KNOW someone is in fact undetectable? Should you trust in their mere word? Response: No.
You shouldn't believe someone saying they are "undetectable" any more than you should believe someone saying they're "negative".
Only trust people you know for sure, like a partner you go to the doctor to get the 'undetectable' results with.
Think of everyone else as if they were poz - remember HIV infections keep increasing in the gay community, don't let some lure you into barebacking, protect yourself.
I agree, but to go a step further, I won't even date someone 'undetectable' much less date anymore.
knowing a status is great, and getting tested together is even better, BUT the problem I find with trusting someone who is negative or positive is that how can you know if the negative person gets tested regularly and uses condoms, and how do you know the undetectable person is really undetectable, and at what levels?
I once had a HIV/AIDS educator at a drop in testing clinic at my local community college explain to me what being undetectable was because I really didn't know, and I wanted to know from someone who was educated on the matter, and not someone who was "undetectable" because everyone is "undetectable" these days.
I call bullshit.
She provided some good insight into what it was and there was even was water bottles set up to give a visual of what the undetectable HIV virus looks like in the body, or blood.
Still, that doesn't convince me that dating an undetectable person is safe.
There is a lot of stigma around HIV/AIDS, especially among gay and bisexual men, so there is no reason I should trust anyone until they can either show me some results, or go get tested with me so that I can get confirmation from someone at the clinic or wherever they go to conform their status.
Also, with that being said, testing every 3 months is recommended for NEG guys and guys who are 'undetectable' to make sure that they are taking all their medication and that the virus is at "safe" levels.
I'm just gonna stick to dating a guy(committed to just me--no outside partners) in the. Guys are liars and guys with HIV are literally nuts! especially the ones I've met in my life--and they aren't undetectable!
This post and the one below it win the forum discussion.