I'm 25 and He's 54, that's not all

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    Dec 21, 2015 4:43 PM GMT
    He has kids and is divorced, and last but not least we are 7815.5 Miles or 12577.8 Kilometers apart.

    I love him, but not our situation. He tells me everyday that he loves. However, we're so far apart and I'd like to be in a relationship but right now, I'd prefer being with someone closer or with clearer prospects of meeting soon. We've been "dating" for about 2 months (it is a long time). He doesn't really want to speak about what could be planned in 2 months or 2 years, he just wants to be in the moment of love and just continue with things as they unfold.

    If I wasn't a student or already settled in a suitable job, I would have used these holidays to go visit him and spend them with him or bring him here.

    Lol, relationships... And one of the hardest things is that I'm quite sexual and the waiting for uncertainty is certainly frustrating icon_smile.gificon_smile.gif
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    Dec 21, 2015 5:12 PM GMT
    Ah. Yes long distance relationship can harbor some difficulty. I actually met my ex via a online dating site. She was in Greenville SC, and I was in Baghdad. Thing is, what made the relationship work was the communication and planning for our eventual meet. Perhaps you should try to gauge this other fellows intent, maybe subtly find out if he truly wants to take the relationship further.

    Sorry if the advice is lackluster, Buddy.
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    Dec 21, 2015 7:47 PM GMT
    RPGFanatic saidAh. Yes long distance relationship can harbor some difficulty. I actually met my ex via a online dating site. She was in Greenville SC, and I was in Baghdad. Thing is, what made the relationship work was the communication and planning for our eventual meet. Perhaps you should try to gauge this other fellows intent, maybe subtly find out if he truly wants to take the relationship further.

    Sorry if the advice is lackluster, Buddy.


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    Hey man, thanks.. I actually just sent him the post just as it is. And he sent me a voice note, sounding a bit stunned and he told me his plans and tried to affirm the relationship.

    It is quite difficult man. I'm interested in when you guys broke it off: I hope it was not right after you guys actually met.

    Yikes..
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 21, 2015 7:58 PM GMT
    I had a couple of long distance relationships before I found my (now 8+ years) partner. But in all cases, we did manage to get together after a couple of months getting to know each other online. Most went great when we did meet but not all. Chemistry is real and if it just isn't there, there's nothing. In the cases that continued, from the initial meet on we got together fairly often, though it was expensive. And time consuming. I don't think you necessarily need to have a "forever" plan now, but ultimately, you will want to be together if it is good. 7815.5 miles is a long way.... Still, any two guys who get together and have dual careers as opposed to just jobs faces some of those same issues. Don't panic now unless you just don't think it is worth it. Things have a way of working out if you both want them to.
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    Dec 21, 2015 8:36 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidI had a couple of long distance relationships before I found my (now 8+ years) partner. But in all cases, we did manage to get together after a couple of months getting to know each other online. Most went great when we did meet but not all. Chemistry is real and if it just isn't there, there's nothing. In the cases that continued, from the initial meet on we got together fairly often, though it was expensive. And time consuming. I don't think you necessarily need to have a "forever" plan now, but ultimately, you will want to be together if it is good. 7815.5 miles is a long way.... Still, any two guys who get together and have dual careers as opposed to just jobs faces some of those same issues. Don't panic now unless you just don't think it is worth it. Things have a way of working out if you both want them to.


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    Chemistry is there, and it's strong: I think it is more encumbered by emotion, which is good and also it's not so good icon_smile.gif when it comes to speaking further about planning. Wow, 8 years is quite long and well done to you.

    Currently, I am speaking to him and it seems as though we won't see each other till May/June. So I am thinking of starting to save to go see him in the US next year.
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    >>>>>>>>>>>

    Hey man, thanks.. I actually just sent him the post just as it is. And he sent me a voice note, sounding a bit stunned and he told me his plans and tried to affirm the relationship.

    It is quite difficult man. I'm interested in when you guys broke it off: I hope it was not right after you guys actually met.

    Yikes.

    Actually, we were married for five years. Our marriage had its ups and downs, but ultimately suffered in part to the homosexual tendencies I portray. I suppose my own denial led me to be a late bloomer.
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    Dec 22, 2015 2:27 AM GMT
    Well, you have probanlby given You_know_Its_True a heart attack (he just said in your other thread, that he didn't think guys should date others who were older.)

    Good Luck. If you are such a sexual being as you state, how are you going to hold out between the intervals of 8,000 mile trips?
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    Dec 22, 2015 4:42 AM GMT
    HikerSkier saidWell, you have probanlby given You_know_Its_True a heart attack (he just said in your other thread, that he didn't think guys should date others who were older.)

    Good Luck. If you are such a sexual being as you state, how are you going to hold out between the intervals of 8,000 mile trips?


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    Hi man,

    Not clear about who you're speaking about in the first paragraph. As for sexuality, we try to keep communication strong as well. It's quite difficult, especially these pass 4 days. And I'm also on holiday and all my friends left so it's quite a tough one, because when I am done "trying to keep myself occupied" then what? Lol... Try harder.. Hahaha icon_smile.gif
  • NeweraLB

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    Dec 22, 2015 11:10 PM GMT
    Similar situation for me, the guy I've met is 46 and I've been seeing him for 3 months he's very busy all the time (his career) and travels far away as well. Also has 2 kids and one of them is my age, the other older by almost 10 years. I had to tell him today that he leads a busy life and I don't want to get in the way of that. The unfortunate part is I started caring real deeply about this person but now that I do,I know what's best. Yeah, I know relationships can be tough though they require energy and patience on both sides.
  • badbug

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    Dec 23, 2015 12:02 AM GMT

    He's 29 years older than you?


    That's just retarded. There isn't really anything to say other than you're living in fairytale land. Unless you're actually scheming to get your hands on his cash, you're just denying reality.

    How the fuck are you going to feel when he's 74 and you are 45?


    You are wasting your time, unless you are scheming to get money.


    I think you need to ask yourself why you chose this relationship? Why would you intentionally try and begin a relationship that is doomed to failure on so so so so many levels?