Gays Are Rude

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    Dec 22, 2015 5:19 AM GMT
    Gay Guys Are RUDE!

    Damn, we are among the most highly stuck up shits. And you would think that this occurs when we are outside, but even among each other, it's ridiculous how incredibly rude we are. Granted, we are the minority and we've been through oppressive cisgendered systems which treated us terribly. But are these experiences not suppose to make us kinder or at least aware how it makes someone feel when they are being mistreated?!

    Yikes, this is probably sounding judgemental or whatever; but I look at myself and when I, for instant am inboxed by someone who I have already checked their profile and pitied it against what they say. And from there, how I begin treating them because of whom I've assumed they might be. Even if I'm not interested, it doesn't mean I should disregard anyone. If you're not interested say so, kindly. Your ass knows exactly how it feels to be disregarded, you know, treated like a non-entity, as though you don't matter; which is why you're probably doing the same to other people..

    The Culture of being gay is being impersonable, and if we are anything else; we jump from being incredibly rude to putting up these larger-than-life "social characters" (not just feminine or crossdresser, rich guys or socialites). Or we are kind to peole we know, hence society has this idea that gay guys are "nice" (people and probably we are) deep down icon_smile.gif

    Be kind, and not just to the guy you are interested in. Check if your rude demeanour comes from you protecting yourself, shit, if it is, we are all out here hurting as well dude. We don't need another ass on the street or online actling like a dick.

    Okay, I said my shit icon_smile.gif

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  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 22, 2015 5:30 AM GMT
    Humanity in general sucks ... it's not a gay thing
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    Dec 22, 2015 5:35 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidHumanity in general sucks ... it's not a gay thing


    >>>>>>>>

    Imagine if we could use that excuse for everything icon_smile.gif
    Point is, it might not be a "gay thing" but it's identified with the gays.
  • metta

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    Dec 22, 2015 5:47 AM GMT
    onbase said


    SOME Gay Guys Are RUDE!


    SOME Straight Guys Are RUDE!

    SOME Gay Girls Are RUDE!

    SOME Straight Girls Are RUDE!

    SOME PEOPLE Are RUDE!

    Fixed it!
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    Dec 22, 2015 5:55 AM GMT
    It is what it is. Just don't let it get you down. Having lost weight then gaining some of it back I have noticed this first hand. When I lost weight gay guys suddenly started speaking to me. The second I gained some of it back those same gay dudes. Started ignoring my presence. Not just not talking but actively pretending i didn't exist. It was shocking to handle at first especially since I didn't expect it to be so obvious. I would think guys would at least try not to be so blatant that they are only friendly to dudes they want to fuck. I think the worst response is to internalize that attitude and give it back to the world. Just be the change you want to see and let the chips fall where they may.
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    Dec 22, 2015 5:57 AM GMT
    metta said
    onbase said


    "SOME"

    Fixed it!


    >>>>>>>>

    Hi man,

    I get what you mean. But I think it is clear this is a generalization and blanket statements are made. Hence the usage of "probably" and "if" etc... But trust me, I get your point.

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    Dec 22, 2015 5:58 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidHumanity in general sucks ... it's not a gay thing


    Your smile is too beautiful for you to feel that way buttercup
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    Dec 22, 2015 6:03 AM GMT
    MrFuscle saidIt is what it is. Just don't let it get you down. Having lost weight then gaining some of it back I have noticed this first hand. When I lost weight gay guys suddenly started speaking to me. The second I gained some of it back those same gay dudes. Started ignoring my presence. Not just not talking but actively pretending i didn't exist. It was shocking to handle at first especially since I didn't expect it to be so obvious. I would think guys would at least try not to be so blatant that they are only friendly to dudes they want to fuck. I think the worst response is to internalize that attitude and give it back to the world. Just be the change you want to see and let the chips fall where they may.


    >>>>>>>>

    Word man, that's quite something. It's true what you say, it best that one is just happy with themselves and doesn't internalize.

    We can't pretend it doesn't exit, that it's not an issue: and seek to divert the issue than taking the responsibility. I find it quite interesting that both the people who have choose to divert the issue, the problem are white. It is quite telling.

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    Dec 22, 2015 6:26 AM GMT
    Many politicians are rud also.

    I guess having good manners is a thing
    of the past??
  • metta

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    Dec 22, 2015 6:36 AM GMT
    2Bnaked saidMany politicians are rud also.

    I guess having good manners is a thing
    of the past??


    Not at all. I have plenty of friends, gay and straight that have good manners.

    Admittedly, there are also some people that are UOTI (ugly on the inside)...one of my friends granddaughters told us that they call them salty in the high schools.... anyways, I choose not to have those people in my life.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 22, 2015 6:40 AM GMT
    Humanity sucks ... Get used to it
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 22, 2015 6:44 AM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    AMoonHawk saidHumanity in general sucks ... it's not a gay thing


    Your smile is too beautiful for you to feel that way buttercup

    Reality bites, but it is better than living in delusion ... Happiness comes from within ... Thanks ....icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 22, 2015 7:06 AM GMT
    So what's happening right now..

    Patient: I'm having a heart attack
    Dr: ALL organs matter
    Patient: but it's my heart
    Dr: are you saying ALL organs don't matter??!

    Point is that we are speaking about Gays.
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    Dec 22, 2015 1:51 PM GMT
    Ahh. You must've read some of the forum posts on here lmfao.
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    Dec 22, 2015 2:31 PM GMT
    Fundamental principle of evolution is that bottoms are much more selective than tops... bitch

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  • tazzari

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    Dec 22, 2015 6:40 PM GMT
    It's been a long time since I saw anyone paint with a brush that broad. Man, you must hang with the wrong people; I've got a large group of gay friends who are kind, polite people who support and encourage each other and are the kind of people anyone would treasure as a friend.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 22, 2015 6:46 PM GMT
    I think people should be nicer, less cliquish and not pick on others, but this thread seems to be more about how to deal with unwanted advances. In my experience, the trouble with being "nice" to men when you're not interested/not available is that SO MANY men don't take no for an answer. They're worse than telemarketers!! They just pursue relentlessly, like they're up to the challenge of trying to steal you from your significant other, or they think if they can get you to cave to them then the ends justify the means. I swear, just opening an email from someone I don't recognize is like opening Pandora's box. More often than not, it makes the sender think they have their foot in the door for sex.
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    Dec 22, 2015 6:52 PM GMT
    Yea, straight men are perfect. They respect us so much.
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    Dec 22, 2015 7:38 PM GMT
    The silent majority of gay guys that I know are normal guys. Many of them aren't even online and many aren't fully out. I do think there are certain subgroups within the gay population that are rude, just like there a certain subgroup in the straight population who are douche bags. For every gay jerk story there is, my female friends could tell you 3 straight jerk stories.
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    Dec 22, 2015 7:52 PM GMT
    I think some of them act *Rude because of having a huge ego or they're masking some sort of underlying hurt like a defense mechanism. They block everyone out. Unfortunately, there are mean rude gay guys out there as straight guys. I think it comes down to your personality though, either live miserably and be rude or just act nicer, kinder and have a better healthy normal social interactions with people.
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    Dec 22, 2015 8:52 PM GMT
    Gay people are just like everyone else. It's the urban Gay subculture that's rude.

    The urban Gay culture is rather elitist. If you are closeted, physically unattractive (due to age, weight, genetics, accidents,) not left wing politically, don't have this year's fashions on, or otherwise fail to live up to it's ideals, then you are snubbed.

    Basically if you are old enough to rent a car, then you are probably too old for most Gay dance clubs. You might do better getting involved in the local arts community instead.

    Ironically a successful business man, a philonthropic doctor who saves children from cancer, or a tenured university professor are all treated as sub human because they are "trolls" (too old) by people who will then faun over a 19 year old who works at Starbucks and has lost his driver's license due to a DUI. Ironically the 19 year old may be too self absorbed to actually care about anyone else, but he looks cute for the time being so he is revered.

    Don't let this negativity and shallowness pull you down.

    Just my two cents,
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    Dec 22, 2015 9:23 PM GMT
    FloridaRugbyBear saidGay people are just like everyone else. It's the urban Gay subculture that's rude.

    The urban Gay subculture is rather elitist. If you are closeted, physically unattractive (due to age, weight, genetics, accidents,) not left wing politically, or otherwise fail to live up to it's ideals you are snubbed.

    Ironically a successful business man, a philonthropic doctor who saves children from cancer, or a tenured university professor are all treated as sub human because they are "trolls" (too old) by people who will then faun over a 19 year old who works at Starbucks and has lost his driver's license due to a DUI. (This comes from personal experience.) Ironically the 19 year old may be too self absorbed to actually care about anyone else, but he looks cute for the time being so he is revered.

    Don't let this negativity and shallowness pull you down.

    Just my two cents,
    FloridaRugyBear

    Isn't it elitist to think that being a businessman or doctor would make someone more desirable than a Starbucks barista??? Anyone in any profession can be nice, or a jerk, depending on the person.

    In the hetero world, men can use money and power to attract a woman, but that's not a two way street. An average straight male would be more interested in the young cute female barista than an older female CEO.

    I think you need to be a heterosexual male if you want people to consider your career to be of value in the dating world... At least in general. There are of course snobby people of all walks of life who will frown upon people who work at Starbucks, as if they are lower class, but if those people also feel entitled to gay sex then they don't seem to realize what makes men tick.
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    Dec 22, 2015 9:29 PM GMT
    HottJoe said


    Isn't it elitist to think that being a businessman or doctor would make someone more desirable than a Starbucks barista??? Anyone in any profession can be nice, or a jerk, depending on the person.

    In the hetero world, men can use money and power to attract a woman, but that's not a two way street. An average straight male would be more interested in the young cute female barista than an older female CEO.

    I think you need to be a heterosexual male if you want people to consider your career to be of value in the dating world... At least in general. There are of course snobby people of all walks of life who will frown upon people who work at Starbucks, as if they are lower class, but if those people also feel entitled to gay sex then they don't seem to realize what makes men tick.


    I wasn't really talking or thinking about expectations of Sex: I'm a bit old fashioned about that sort of thing. I was thinking about how people are treated in general. Its very difficult to make gay friends if you relocate to new city if you are over 30. Many people seem to only want to spend time with someone if they find them physically attractive.

    I was trying to talk about contribution to society, not earning power. Professors and Pediatric Oncologists are not that well paid and work long hours to help people. To be honest, a children's cancer doctor is probably a lot more important than most of us.


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    Dec 22, 2015 9:40 PM GMT
    FloridaRugbyBear said
    HottJoe said
    FloridaRugbyBear saidGay people are just like everyone else. It's the urban Gay subculture that's rude.

    The urban Gay subculture is rather elitist. If you are closeted, physically unattractive (due to age, weight, genetics, accidents,) not left wing politically, or otherwise fail to live up to it's ideals you are snubbed.

    Ironically a successful business man, a philonthropic doctor who saves children from cancer, or a tenured university professor are all treated as sub human because they are "trolls" (too old) by people who will then faun over a 19 year old who works at Starbucks and has lost his driver's license due to a DUI. (This comes from personal experience.) Ironically the 19 year old may be too self absorbed to actually care about anyone else, but he looks cute for the time being so he is revered.

    Don't let this negativity and shallowness pull you down.

    Just my two cents,
    FloridaRugyBear

    Isn't it elitist to think that being a businessman or doctor would make someone more desirable than a Starbucks barista??? Anyone in any profession can be nice, or a jerk, depending on the person.

    In the hetero world, men can use money and power to attract a woman, but that's not a two way street. An average straight male would be more interested in the young cute female barista than an older female CEO.

    I think you need to be a heterosexual male if you want people to consider your career to be of value in the dating world... At least in general. There are of course snobby people of all walks of life who will frown upon people who work at Starbucks, as if they are lower class, but if those people also feel entitled to gay sex then they don't seem to realize what makes men tick.


    I was trying to talk about contribution to society, not earning power. Professors and Pediatric Oncologists are not that well paid and work long hours to help people. To be honest, a children's cancer doctor is a lot more important than most of us.

    I agree. I'm just saying if a female doctor saved lives of children it wouldn't necessarily mean that straight men are blowing up her phone for a date, whereas a straight male doctor would definitely appeal to the opposite sex based on what he does for a living. It's a double standard, it's not just an urban gay issue. It's more like women and men appreciate different things.
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    Dec 23, 2015 12:17 AM GMT
    It's not that gay men are more rude than most of the population, it's that their rudeness is underrated. Also, too many gay men think that because they like dick they suddenly don't need to follow social customs and be different, or "the gay guy", which just pisses people off.