Feeling unattractive

  • anthonybs

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    Dec 22, 2015 11:15 PM GMT
    Okay, I've been told I'm handsome yet I don't really feel that way. I only see the negativity in myself. Is there something wrong with that? How can I get it fixed?
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    Dec 22, 2015 11:17 PM GMT
    kill yourself
  • anthonybs

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    Dec 22, 2015 11:19 PM GMT
    bonaparts saidkill yourself


    Thank you for the extremely profound comment.
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    Dec 22, 2015 11:22 PM GMT
    anthonybs said
    bonaparts saidkill yourself


    Thank you for the extremely profound comment.


    you're welcome :-)
  • FuerteC

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    Dec 22, 2015 11:26 PM GMT
    bonaparts saidkill yourself


    No, do not kill yourself. I think Bonaparts should be reported.
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    Dec 22, 2015 11:27 PM GMT
    FuerteC said
    bonaparts saidkill yourself


    No, do not kill yourself. I think Bonaparts should be reported.



    how is that going to help him feeling more attractive?
  • NeweraLB

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    Dec 22, 2015 11:27 PM GMT
    I've felt that way for a long time before, I had issues with my self esteem/Depression. All I can tell you is it's in your head and it's a process but you have to ignore all the negativity in your head and say positive things about yourself out loud until you convince yourself those negative thoughts about yourself are untrue. Simple as that, it takes time but you have to empower yourself many times throughout life.
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    Dec 22, 2015 11:28 PM GMT
    NeweraLB saidI've felt that way for a long time before, I had issues with my self esteem/Depression. All I can tell you is it's in your head and it's a process but you have to ignore all the negativity in your head and say positive things about yourself out loud until you convince yourself those negative thoughts about yourself are untrue. Simple as that, it takes time but you have to empower yourself many times throughout life.


    you are pretty, YOU ARE PRETTY, and now repeat, 50 times
  • NeweraLB

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    Dec 22, 2015 11:30 PM GMT
    bonaparts said
    NeweraLB saidI've felt that way for a long time before, I had issues with my self esteem/Depression. All I can tell you is it's in your head and it's a process but you have to ignore all the negativity in your head and say positive things about yourself out loud until you convince yourself those negative thoughts about yourself are untrue. Simple as that, it takes time but you have to empower yourself many times throughout life.


    you are pretty, YOU ARE PRETTY, and now repeat, 50 times
    Appreciate you. But what you posted wasn't cool just read it.
  • badbug

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    Dec 22, 2015 11:31 PM GMT


    Seeing the negative aspects of yourself is bad. Seeing it in others is a lot worse. As critical as i am with myself, i am 5x as bad with romantic partners...I have also known a few people with the same issues or worse and it's extremely hard for them to maintain relationships of any length.


    As i have gotten older, it has gotten better. The 34 year old me, kicks/laughs at the old (younger) me for the types of people i chased out of my life.


    As for fixing yourself, i wouldn't say it's just time. You have to really work on finding value in yourself and in others. Finding equanimity within your relations to others, be they in magazines or on forums or in real life.


    Basically, we're all just a bunch of molecules. It's kind of absurd to think some piles so much better than others. It's fun, when it is fun, but when it isn't fun, don't hold onto that illusion so hard.
    Kind of like drugs. Drugs are great until they aren't. That doesn't mean don't use drugs, it means use them properly. I seriously feel sorry people who have never had a great opioid binge.


  • FuerteC

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    Dec 22, 2015 11:33 PM GMT
    bonaparts said
    FuerteC said
    bonaparts saidkill yourself


    No, do not kill yourself. I think Bonaparts should be reported.



    how is that going to help him feeling more attractive?


    Are you listening to yourself? How would suicide help? It does not.

    Learn to love yourself. Improve and it will get better.
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    Dec 22, 2015 11:36 PM GMT
    FuerteC said
    bonaparts said
    FuerteC said
    bonaparts saidkill yourself


    No, do not kill yourself. I think Bonaparts should be reported.



    how is that going to help him feeling more attractive?


    Are you listening to yourself? How would suicide help? It does not.

    Learn to love yourself. Improve and it will get better.


    suicide will end his misery
  • anthonybs

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    Dec 22, 2015 11:37 PM GMT
    bonaparts said
    FuerteC said
    bonaparts said
    FuerteC said
    bonaparts saidkill yourself


    No, do not kill yourself. I think Bonaparts should be reported.



    how is that going to help him feeling more attractive?


    Are you listening to yourself? How would suicide help? It does not.

    Learn to love yourself. Improve and it will get better.


    suicide will end his misery


    I'm considering it right now. I'm totally serious.
  • FuerteC

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    Dec 22, 2015 11:47 PM GMT
    Well don't. You have plenty of time to improve yourself!
  • NeweraLB

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    Dec 22, 2015 11:48 PM GMT
    He's not being cool here man, I wouldn't pay him much attention. What about the people who love you? That would kill them, It's an open online forum I can't tell you much because I don't know you well enough. But depression is a bastard it will lie to you and eat you alive, I encourage you to talk with someone , maybe a professional about this. I don't know if you're religious or not. But you are loved by God and people that put others down or tell them to harm themselves, have issues themselves. I wish you the best, anything you think is wrong I don't see it. Your thoughts are temporary death is permanent.
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    Dec 23, 2015 1:10 AM GMT
    I'd feel unattractive, too, if I looked like the first responder to your thread.
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    Dec 23, 2015 1:16 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidI'd feel unattractive, too, if I looked like the first responder to your thread.


    I am one ugly motherfucker
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    Dec 23, 2015 4:46 AM GMT
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    paulflexes saidI'd feel unattractive, too, if I looked like the first responder to your thread.


    I am one ugly motherfucker


    Well, whoever the guy is in the pics you have posted sometimes on your profile isn't. Not you?

    Whoring for sympathy?
  • mystery905

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    Dec 23, 2015 6:07 AM GMT
    You are only 18.

    At that age, everyone is insecure in their looks.

    You will gain more confidence as you mature.

    Looking at your pictures, I think you're cute, so don't sweat it icon_wink.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 23, 2015 11:08 PM GMT
    It kind of surprises me that people always take bonaparts so literally.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 23, 2015 11:10 PM GMT
    mystery905 saidYou are only 18.

    At that age, everyone is insecure in their looks.

    You will gain more confidence as you mature.

    Looking at your pictures, I think you're cute, so don't sweat it icon_wink.gif

    He's young so it probably only matters what his peers think.
  • Webster666

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    Dec 24, 2015 2:20 AM GMT
    NeweraLB saidI've felt that way for a long time before, I had issues with my self esteem/Depression. All I can tell you is it's in your head and it's a process but you have to ignore all the negativity in your head and say positive things about yourself out loud until you convince yourself those negative thoughts about yourself are untrue. Simple as that, it takes time but you have to empower yourself many times throughout life.


    ____________________________________
    This is a great response.
    It may seem simplistic, but it really is true, and it works.