Who's the ideal person for you to spend your life with?

  • NeweraLB

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    Dec 23, 2015 1:44 AM GMT
    Is it money that matters to people? Personality? Looks? Talents? Does this person need to have certain ambitions? does he/she need to hold a certain belief? Just making discussion.
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    Dec 23, 2015 2:12 AM GMT
    how about yourself? you started a thread, maybe you can share your own view on this
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    Dec 23, 2015 2:13 AM GMT
    My best friend, who's not even gay. Everyone around us thinks we're dating. icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 23, 2015 2:18 AM GMT
    My best friend. I haven't met him yet.
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    Dec 23, 2015 2:23 AM GMT
    The love of my life.. he fits the bill.
    Cooks, cleans, awesome lover, treats me well, shows his love daily and looks forward to you coming home every day so he can show you again and again that you're the only one he wants.
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    Dec 23, 2015 2:24 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidThe love of my life.. he fits the bill.
    Cooks, cleans, awesome lover, treats me well, shows his love daily and looks forward to you coming home every day so he can show you again and again that you're the only one he wants.

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    Dec 23, 2015 2:27 AM GMT
    J. Howard Marshall would have been my ideal but that ho Anna snagged him first...

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    And I would have had MUCH better pre-nup attorneys...icon_evil.gif
  • NeweraLB

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    Dec 23, 2015 2:51 AM GMT
    Awesome replies so far and some funny ones lol. Well for me somebody that's Caring , respectful , encouraging, intelligent. That's ideal
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    Dec 23, 2015 2:53 AM GMT
    NeweraLB saidAwesome replies so far and some funny ones lol. Well for me somebody that's Caring , respectful , encouraging, intelligent. That's ideal


    nobody has only those characteristics
  • NeweraLB

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    Dec 23, 2015 3:01 AM GMT
    bonaparts said
    NeweraLB saidAwesome replies so far and some funny ones lol. Well for me somebody that's Caring , respectful , encouraging, intelligent. That's ideal


    nobody has only those characteristics
    Damn stop trolling , shit
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    Dec 23, 2015 3:20 AM GMT
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    Dec 23, 2015 3:25 AM GMT
    Ideal person to spend my life with is myself, which is not really a person, just my body
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    Dec 23, 2015 3:27 AM GMT
    All my gay best friends fit the bill.
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    Dec 23, 2015 5:46 AM GMT
    It's hard to list the traits. I'll know when I meet him.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Dec 23, 2015 7:31 AM GMT
    I do have a list ... But honestly I have no clue
  • eM_Jay

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    Dec 23, 2015 7:33 AM GMT
    Not so much a 'type' of person with/without certain traits or characteristics. I generally look more at the individuals themselves. The general ideal things though are what everyone wants i guess. Someone who's good, funny, loving, sincere, blah blah blah...
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    Dec 23, 2015 2:26 PM GMT
    Most importantly I want someone who is kind and accepts me for who I am, flaws and all. Someone who would be happy to spend an evening together at home watching a DVD and making popcorn.
  • LostSailor

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    Dec 23, 2015 6:02 PM GMT
    My wife.
  • badbug

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    Dec 23, 2015 6:18 PM GMT

    Ideally, a cute interesting girl that gets along with my cute interesting guy. Also, if they were both like super into doing all the chores that would be good.

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    Dec 24, 2015 1:55 AM GMT


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    Dec 24, 2015 1:44 PM GMT
    Who's the ideal person for you to spend your life with?

    First and foremost, a man who wants to spend his life with ME, not an easy requirement. And then after that it's an assorted bag of things, no one of them terribly vital or a deal breaker, with money not part of them.

    Other than he not be a shiftless moocher who can't support himself on his own, and who only wants me to live off MY limited money. And no drugs, drunkenness, maladjusted personalities or criminals. (Line from the movie Priscilla, Queen...: "Well, that doesn't leave us much to talk about then, does it?")

    But it's nice to have similar interests & tastes in various ways (music, food, furnishings, entertainment, vacations, cars, etc), all the things you share and do together. And a true partner, a teammate, the guy you do everything alongside, without whom you feel incomplete when he's not with you.

    And finally, a similar sense of humor is high on my loose list. Compatible with my silly and absurdist sense of comedy, who maybe can play along. People used to tell my late partner & me, and now my current guy, that we'd make a great professional comedy team. We actually go into ridiculous spontaneous comedy routines together.

    Our improvised banter is a surprise to many couples, especially the younger ones, who think old guys like us have no humor left in them, and certainly aren't supposed to openly express it. While we are amazed how dull, unimaginative and actually staid some of the younger couples are, kinda a role reversal. Yeah, they can get wild, but that's not humor, that's just behaviorally letting off steam. The last few generations seem about as funny to me as an evening at a wake.
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    Dec 24, 2015 1:57 PM GMT
    I can tell you from experience there are two sides to a relationship emotional and sexual. If you don't have both it will never work.

    The emotional piece is fulfilled by someone who you feel like is your best friend. A person who you can talk to about anything. A person who you enjoy doing things with. A person to laugh with. A person who values who you are and what you have to offer.

    The sexual piece, well, that person also has to drive you wild. You crave being intimate with them. Just smelling them makes you weak in the knees.

    Those things combined make most people really happy.
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    Dec 25, 2015 5:22 AM GMT
    My man.He is very handsome,Latino,black hair,perfect nose.Very kind,incredibly talented,great cook and an amazing artist.We are very different.I am a conservative Catholic and he is a more liberal atheist.We celebrated 5 years together in October and he is the love of my life.I love guys with black hair and a kind nature is non negotiable.Although my fiancée is very handsome...I would rather have an avg looking sweet guy than a handsome dickhead.Looks fade and then you are stuck with just a prick.
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    Dec 25, 2015 6:26 AM GMT
    My ideal man is emotionally available, he is not into silly games, he shares how he feels openly, and he has a heart of gold. He loves his mother, doesn't have a lot of emotional baggage, has a cute butt (lol), is honest and sincere, he loves God and will wait for sexual intimacy. He does not gossip about others and he is protective of "us." He wants to get married and believes in til' death do us part. We connect spiritually and emotionally. He takes care of himself physically, and mentally, and he's not high maintenance.

    The thing about relationships, is that it's not about "you." You have to assume the role of parent in an emptional way, but we think it should be reverse. That the other person is supposed to make you feel a certain way and loved. That's partly true, but the idea is that both parties come together with the mental belief that they are to take care of the other.
  • metta

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    Dec 25, 2015 7:29 AM GMT
    I actually enjoy the time I spend on my own. Even so, thankfully, I have some wonderful people in my life. I don't feel the need for anyone else. I'm not saying that there is not room for another person. Nor am I saying that I'm not open to the possibility. But, I'm fine the way things are now.