Can you take a compliment?

  • bigtits

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    Dec 24, 2015 10:42 PM GMT
    I saw this in an a profile of a guy on another site:
    Not a big fan of men contacting me just to tell me how great I look.

    It got me wondering .. Does it bother you if someone sends you a compliment on how good you look?

    I've sent compliments to guys here and a lot never acknowledge me.
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    Dec 24, 2015 10:45 PM GMT
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  • Webster666

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    Dec 24, 2015 11:50 PM GMT
    bigtits saidI saw this in an a profile of a guy on another site:
    Not a big fan of men contacting me just to tell me how great I look.

    It got me wondering .. Does it bother you if someone sends you a compliment on how good you look?

    I've sent compliments to guys here and a lot never acknowledge me.

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    --Social media messages don't require an acknowledgement.
    --That said, no, it doesn't bother me if someone sends a compliment to me, and I almost always respond with, at least a, "Thank you."
    --Anyone who would go to the trouble of putting up a wall by saying, "Not a big fan of men contacting me just to tell me how great I look," deserve to be ignored.
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    Dec 24, 2015 11:55 PM GMT
    No it doesn't bother me if the person is respectful. I think highly of the guys who simply respond with a thank you. I find it hilarious when you hot list a guy and he checks your profile out without saying a word. It reminds me of a high school mentality but some people never grow out of that.
  • bro4bro

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    Dec 25, 2015 1:18 AM GMT
    I can take a compliment - try it and see.

    But I don't respond to everyone who puts me on his "Hot List" - and I don't think everyone expects it (I certainly don't). It may be a compliment of sorts but it's a single click; giving a personal thanks is a much bigger investment than the original compliment was.
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    Dec 25, 2015 1:22 AM GMT
    bro4bro saidI can take a compliment - try it and see.

    But I don't respond to everyone who puts me on his "Hot List" - and I don't think everyone expects it (I certainly don't). It may be a compliment of sorts but it's a single click; giving a personal thanks is a much bigger investment than the original compliment was.


    Lol, I don't expect a response when I put someone on my hot list. I just find it funny when they take the time to see "who" found them hot and then don't say thanks. To me its like peaking your head out the door because you heard your name. I'm not sure why but I find it funny.
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    Dec 25, 2015 2:37 AM GMT
    bigtits saidI saw this in an a profile of a guy on another site:
    Not a big fan of men contacting me just to tell me how great I look.

    It got me wondering .. Does it bother you if someone sends you a compliment on how good you look?

    I've sent compliments to guys here and a lot never acknowledge me.

    Probably because you only have private pics, and your profile has no info about you. Also, "bigtits"? They probably think you're a troll account.
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    Dec 25, 2015 2:43 AM GMT
    MrFuscle saidNo it doesn't bother me if the person is respectful. I think highly of the guys who simply respond with a thank you. I find it hilarious when you hot list a guy and he checks your profile out without saying a word. It reminds me of a high school mentality but some people never grow out of that.

    This is a kind of a touchy subject. I used to thank the guys that hotlisted me, either here or on gay apps. I believe in politeness when someone gives me a compliment. However, some guys interpret that thanks as a sign of mutual interest. And will start asking you a million questions, or start sending nudes, or start asking for nudes. So I stopped. I may look at their profile and see if we have anything in common, and to see if they're crazy. Then I decide if I want to say thanks or whatever. icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 25, 2015 2:44 AM GMT
    bigtits said
    It got me wondering .. Does it bother you if someone sends you a compliment on how good you look?

    Yes. Because I don't look good. Not lately, anyway. Maybe a little less than awful a few years ago, but never worth a compliment.

    So I know I'm being played. At least it makes it easy to know who's trying to get something out of me. If somebody tells me I look good, including guys in person, I immediately know I'm about to be scammed. I cut them off faster than if they tell me they're a Trump supporter.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Dec 25, 2015 3:59 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]Webster666 said[/cite]
    bigtits saidI saw this in an a profile of a guy on another site:
    Not a big fan of men contacting me just to tell me how great I look.

    It got me wondering .. Does it bother you if someone sends you a compliment on how good you look?

    I've sent compliments to guys here and a lot never acknowledge me.

    ____________________________________________________
    --Social media messages don't require an acknowledgement.
    --That said, no, it doesn't bother me if someone sends a compliment to me, and I almost always respond with, at least a, "Thank you."
    --Anyone who would go to the trouble of putting up a wall by saying, "Not a big fan of men contacting me just to tell me how great I look," deserve to be ignored.

    This...

    Dudes writing from a distance of several thousands of miles are kind guys and all... and I thank the compliments very gratefully, but see very little benefit from starting a cyber convo over it!

    SC
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    Dec 25, 2015 4:31 AM GMT
    In real life, I used to have a hard time accepting a compliment. I have since learned. On social media a compliment is meaningless, yet somehow makes us feel better. Go figureā€¦
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    Dec 25, 2015 7:31 PM GMT
    Send them my way.
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    Dec 25, 2015 9:46 PM GMT
    It seems shallow. I understand that it's meant as a conversation starter, but, from my point of view, it's boring..... I already know I'm very built, decent looking (I've put myself on rating sites a number of times..9.5 on facethejury..9.8 on hotornot...got my trophies.was top pic on VGL instagram for quite a while.) Stating the obvious, in my view, is stupid. Don't say I have short man complex, or Napoleon. You gotta' have confidence to walk on stage in less than underwear and saying "judge me." Creepy guys LOSE.

    Terry, who owns half of The Dallas Voice, and I, were talking one day. I was complaining about no one ever approaching me in The Gayborhood. His remark...no one feels worthy. Now, age comes into play, and, my confidence frightens many...I'm Chuck Gudgel...I'm out...you see my smiling face...yeah..I look nice, but, I pay my dues...and...I'm brilliant and make lots of money. Make me laugh.. I already know my strong points. DOH!

    If you want to appeal to me, get some fucking social skills...like an athlete..Christ...there's nothing wrong with you. You may not be my type, but, show me a smiling face..shake my hand..talk to me..tell me your full name...exude confidence, and trust. Trust is the first part of any kind of relationship building. Google me up if you want pictures, my occupation, where I live, where I work, my passions, etc. I'm just a regular with attention to discipline, detail, and execution. I don't wanna' hear how I'm hot and then get sent an asshole pic, followed by a dick pic, followed by a torso pic. Get some fucking social skills. Introduce yourself, and, if it goes well I'll have you call me and have some real interchange.

    The Millennials are clueless around inter personal skills. Introduce yourself, shake a hand, talk about something interesting..a common interest. I don't wanna' hear that you're not as big as me. I ALREADY KNOW THAT. EEK. Drives me fucking nuts. Some folks are so clueless.

    And, if you're fat, out of shape, smoke, etc. No amount of "you're so hot" is going to get you into my bedroom. There's a thing called mutual attraction. You don't have to be perfect, and don't apologize for being less than.

    I had a guy the other day...apologize.."Sorry my dick is so small." Get used it, Bud. It is what it is.

    Folks thing gay guys are creepy because MANY ARE. Don't be that creepy torso guy, or discreet, or pictureless. If you think you're less than, then, clearly other folks will, too. QUIT BEING CREEPY.

    Ever been in team sports? Or, at a gym with lots of true athletes? They walk over and introduce themselves, shake hands, smile, and chit chat. THAT'S WHAT NORMAL FOLKS DO. STOP BEING CREEPY.

    Accept yourself. When you do..the rest will follow.

    If you're a pictureless creep...go fuck yourself. Taker. Mooch. Little baby. Everyone knows you're gay..or bi...get used to it. Join us in LIVING.
  • davidchill45

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    Dec 26, 2015 6:38 PM GMT
    gudgelcl saidIt seems shallow. I understand that it's meant as a conversation starter, but, from my point of view, it's boring..... I already know I'm very built, decent looking (I've put myself on rating sites a number of times..9.5 on facethejury..9.8 on hotornot...got my trophies.was top pic on VGL instagram for quite a while.) Stating the obvious, in my view, is stupid. Don't say I have short man complex, or Napoleon. You gotta' have confidence to walk on stage in less than underwear and saying "judge me." Creepy guys LOSE.

    Terry, who owns half of The Dallas Voice, and I, were talking one day. I was complaining about no one ever approaching me in The Gayborhood. His remark...no one feels worthy. Now, age comes into play, and, my confidence frightens many...I'm Chuck Gudgel...I'm out...you see my smiling face...yeah..I look nice, but, I pay my dues...and...I'm brilliant and make lots of money. Make me laugh.. I already know my strong points. DOH!

    If you want to appeal to me, get some fucking social skills...like an athlete..Christ...there's nothing wrong with you. You may not be my type, but, show me a smiling face..shake my hand..talk to me..tell me your full name...exude confidence, and trust. Trust is the first part of any kind of relationship building. Google me up if you want pictures, my occupation, where I live, where I work, my passions, etc. I'm just a regular with attention to discipline, detail, and execution. I don't wanna' hear how I'm hot and then get sent an asshole pic, followed by a dick pic, followed by a torso pic. Get some fucking social skills. Introduce yourself, and, if it goes well I'll have you call me and have some real interchange.

    The Millennials are clueless around inter personal skills. Introduce yourself, shake a hand, talk about something interesting..a common interest. I don't wanna' hear that you're not as big as me. I ALREADY KNOW THAT. EEK. Drives me fucking nuts. Some folks are so clueless.

    And, if you're fat, out of shape, smoke, etc. No amount of "you're so hot" is going to get you into my bedroom. There's a thing called mutual attraction. You don't have to be perfect, and don't apologize for being less than.

    I had a guy the other day...apologize.."Sorry my dick is so small." Get used it, Bud. It is what it is.

    Folks thing gay guys are creepy because MANY ARE. Don't be that creepy torso guy, or discreet, or pictureless. If you think you're less than, then, clearly other folks will, too. QUIT BEING CREEPY.

    Ever been in team sports? Or, at a gym with lots of true athletes? They walk over and introduce themselves, shake hands, smile, and chit chat. THAT'S WHAT NORMAL FOLKS DO. STOP BEING CREEPY.

    Accept yourself. When you do..the rest will follow.

    If you're a pictureless creep...go fuck yourself. Taker. Mooch. Little baby. Everyone knows you're gay..or bi...get used to it. Join us in LIVING.


    Wow.
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    Dec 26, 2015 11:09 PM GMT
    When I check out a guys profile and he inspires me to work harder in the gym I hot list him. Nothing more. An inspirational body is an inspirational body!

    While I don't expect a response it certainly is appreciated. Seeing that it's a compliment I wrongly assume that the receiver would appreciate the compliment. That being said, many guys are narcissistic and have an inflated ego.

    I'm not looking for a deep conversation. It just makes me feel better knowing that the guy isn't a complete douchebag.
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    Dec 26, 2015 11:21 PM GMT
    For a long time, from long experience, I always assumed that compliments = sarcasm.
    (I wonder what he meant by that remark... icon_confused.gif )

    Eventually, I decided that it's less effort to just accept them at face value. Sometimes it's better to be the clueless but happy rube.
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    Dec 27, 2015 8:27 PM GMT
    Do not hesitate to compliment me even if you are lying ;)