Black/non white men do you feel insecure around white men

  • Matthew56

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    Dec 26, 2015 5:33 PM GMT
    When you are in gay envioroments such as gay bars, clubs and saunas seeing as black and non white men unless they are caucasiod or have caucasiod features are seen as unattractive and not good enough compared to white men

    I do as I cannot approach white men directly. As I always think they would be like how dare you approach you are Black second class and beneath me and face rejection. So its they that would have to approach me and not the other way round
  • Purrimalion

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    Dec 26, 2015 11:14 PM GMT
    tbh I do feel that.

    Especially if I am alone.

    Then again, there is always exceptions.

    I guess anyone will approach us if we are welcoming enough.
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    Dec 26, 2015 11:34 PM GMT
    Matthew56 is probably Radd in disguise.
  • Matthew56

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    Dec 26, 2015 11:49 PM GMT
    Aqueerius saidMatthew56 is probably Radd in disguise.


    I am not its how I feel
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    Dec 26, 2015 11:53 PM GMT
    Fuck no.
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    Dec 27, 2015 4:53 AM GMT
    I used to feel insecure and nervous around white people because English is my 2nd language. I was too conscious about my accent too. icon_redface.gif That was many, many years ago. I'm over that now (though I still speak with an accent, I don't care anymore).

    Now when I'm around attractive men (regardless of their race), yes, I feel nervous around them. icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif
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    Dec 27, 2015 5:43 AM GMT
    The more cogent or compelling question might be whether white men feel insecure around black men.
  • Matthew56

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    Dec 27, 2015 8:43 AM GMT
    bon_pan saidThe more cogent or compelling question might be whether white men feel insecure around black men.


    Why would they know they are considerd to be superior to black men
  • eM_Jay

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    Dec 27, 2015 12:21 PM GMT
    Many things make me nervous. Terrorism makes me nervous. Kids knowing how to use iphones makes me nervous. My vegan roommate mistaking my cows-milk for his soy-milk makes me nervous. Many, MANY things take up enough room in my life by making me nervous.

    Being in the vicinity of someone with a different skin-tone is NOT one of them.
  • Fireworkz

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    Dec 27, 2015 1:35 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidWhen you are in gay envioroments such as gay bars, clubs and saunas seeing as black and non white men unless they are caucasiod or have caucasiod features are seen as unattractive and not good enough compared to white men

    I do as I cannot approach white men directly. As I always think they would be like how dare you approach you are Black second class and beneath me and face rejection. So its they that would have to approach me and not the other way round




    Definitely not. I don't get my clues of attractiveness from the media or anything outside of my head.

    However when I was young I used to feel intimidated being in white English upper class environment. Like formal dinners where everyone had gone to private school or boarding school. I was unfamiliar with the environment and didn't speak like they did. However after working with these kind of people I became use to them.

    I think the way to overcome this is just exposure. The more you become familiar the less there is to fear.
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    Dec 27, 2015 3:47 PM GMT
    Look! A caucasiod sitcom
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    Dec 27, 2015 6:35 PM GMT
    I'm pretty indifferent to all of that. There's no reason for me to feel insecure.
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    Dec 27, 2015 8:05 PM GMT
    Never felt that!
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    Dec 30, 2015 2:26 PM GMT
    Not really. If the crowd is diverse, I feel more relaxed. If the crowd is mostly all white, I feel a little more alert but also more prepared to be the aggressor in having conversations just because I like being in control.
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    Dec 30, 2015 5:19 PM GMT
    LMFAO no.....

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    Dec 30, 2015 5:25 PM GMT
    BlackCat saidFuck no.


    +1

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  • BloodFlame

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    Jan 01, 2016 11:28 AM GMT
    This is funny because I can feel that way if I'm the only black person ins a room full of white men/women. It's like "Oh man do I stick out..."

    The reason I say this is funny is because I recently went to one of my brother's friend's wedding last month and other than the wedding MC, we were the only black guys there. It felt very awkward truth be told lol

    Anyway, I try not to let this kind of thing psych me out because really, we're all people at the end of the day.
  • mystery905

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    Jan 01, 2016 12:25 PM GMT
    No one likes an insecure man....
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    Jan 01, 2016 6:23 PM GMT
    yes I do since I feel a bit out of place among such company but I try to just not think about it. Somehow I feel more comfortable in a black club or bar.
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    Jan 01, 2016 8:33 PM GMT
    BloodFlame saidThis is funny because I can feel that way if I'm the only black person ins a room full of white men/women. It's like "Oh man do I stick out..."

    The reason I say this is funny is because I recently went to one of my brother's friend's wedding last month and other than the wedding MC, we were the only black guys there. It felt very awkward truth be told lol

    Anyway, I try not to let this kind of thing psych me out because really, we're all people at the end of the day.


    You have to learn how to control the room. If all eyes are on you, make those bitches PAY ATTENTION to you and not just notice you...
  • BloodFlame

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    Jan 02, 2016 12:41 AM GMT
    BlackCat said
    BloodFlame saidThis is funny because I can feel that way if I'm the only black person ins a room full of white men/women. It's like "Oh man do I stick out..."

    The reason I say this is funny is because I recently went to one of my brother's friend's wedding last month and other than the wedding MC, we were the only black guys there. It felt very awkward truth be told lol

    Anyway, I try not to let this kind of thing psych me out because really, we're all people at the end of the day.


    You have to learn how to control the room. If all eyes are on you, make those bitches PAY ATTENTION to you and not just notice you...


    Haha I'll have to remember that.
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    Jan 02, 2016 12:44 AM GMT
    I'm Hispanic, do I feel insecure around whites? No. Do I feel like they relate to non-whites? Not always... Gay guys are a little better about it though I think.