Trying to find the right FWB


  • Dec 27, 2015 9:29 PM GMT
    Hey guys i need advice. Ok i have been trying to find a FWB who is not more on the BENEFITS side. Sometimes i post an ad on craigslist seeking FWB and i often get responses from guys who are all for the benefits and no friendship. When i look for FWB i look for the whole thing. I've hooked up with one or two of them but they were rough and not friendly. Can you give me some advice? oh and is it bad wanting to try other races than your own? Those guys also said its a shame that i wanna try other flavors than black. icon_question.gificon_sad.gificon_confused.gif
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    Dec 27, 2015 9:33 PM GMT
    Basically you want no strings attached dating, nothing wrong with that.
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    Dec 27, 2015 10:34 PM GMT
    dragonichybrid18 said... find a FWB who is not more on the BENEFITS side.... and is it bad wanting to try other races than your own...
    I dont see race as a big issue, even a tiny bit. align your FWB with your interests; cooking, music, theater. You like to hike, canyon ride motorcycles, climb. try meetup.com

    all this sounds like actual dating.
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    Dec 28, 2015 12:32 AM GMT
    Sportz furst. THEN buttsecks icon_biggrin.gif


    Well, cum to think of it (ow, that hertz!) I met most of mine through hook-ups. Then, if he seemed like a keeper, "Hey, you wanna go skiing* tomorrow?"

    *Insert sport du jour.

  • Apparition

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    Dec 28, 2015 2:50 AM GMT
    people who are really not interested in sex should not have sex with people who ACTUALLY WANT SEX, in fact, stay out of their sex lives completely BEFORE you hook up with them on the pretext that you LIKE sex regularly when you DONT!
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Dec 28, 2015 4:18 AM GMT
    It is a popular misconception that friendships can be FOUND. icon_idea.gif

    Actually, no one has really ever FOUND a friend. You grew up together, spend lots of time together, faced the good and the bad together and strengthened the bonds of friendships in the process thereof. Or you bumped into someone at work, at the gym or anywhere else for that matter, and went on spending your time together, effectively building the bonds of friendships over the time. At times, such m2m friendships developed a degree of a NSA sexual dimension, and you started functioning as FwBs.

    Nope, do not really expect that you can get there by taking the CL shortcut.

    If all of the above sounds like a lot of work and lots of time, too, consider the mindgarden's approach...

    SC
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    Dec 28, 2015 4:48 AM GMT
    When I had such relationships, I had met them in bars, and "hooked up" with them, and if we liked each other, continued on along those lines, and became friends of a sort. But one can't expect that to happen very often, and I don't imagine it happens very often through CL ads or Grindr. Like Silvercloud said, you have to build bonds over time - you can't just get a "friendship" by advertising for one.
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    Dec 28, 2015 6:22 AM GMT
    ricky1987 saidBasically you want no strings attached dating, nothing wrong with that.


    Try using the "NSA" acronym?

    I had a friend with benefits that worked out and we found each other on CL, met at a bar and things went well and we hung out from there on. We didn't really text/call each other, just when either of us wanted to hang out we'd text the other, have dinner, go to a bar, spend the night together, then grab breakfast, part ways and go on with our lives until the next time.

  • Dec 28, 2015 5:19 PM GMT
    Thanks for the advice but im not talking about dating or anything like that im just saying when we say chill or hangout i really expect u to do that then when we get ready just say wanna fuck or have sex or want a bj or something and get right to it