I'm finally getting this single thing

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    Dec 28, 2015 1:34 AM GMT
    Today at work I realized that not only was I happier than I had ever been since I moved to Houston. I'm happier than I have been in more than half a decade. Don't get me wrong I truly loved my ex and had some great times with him. I'm not the type to rewrite my history simply because things changed. I enjoyed the relationship while it lasted. I feel more fulfilled, secure, satisfied and accomplished being single right now. Than I ever did being in a relationship. It feels odd to say I feel more secure and fulfilled being single when I have such a nurturing personality. I do, and I'm looking forward to next year singleness and all. The longer I stay single the lower of a priority it becomes. It would be great to find love but not at the expense of my happiness, and freedom.
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    Dec 28, 2015 2:57 AM GMT

    That's cool.

    I feel like i feel the way you describe 90 percent of the time and then desperately alone the other 10.

    Of course, i often have felt that way in my relationships and that is just so much more of a trapped feeling on top of the despair.


    when I have such a nurturing personality


    Do you have any pets?

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    Dec 29, 2015 2:39 PM GMT
    MrFuscle saidToday at work I realized that not only was I happier than I had ever been since I moved to Houston. I'm happier than I have been in more than half a decade...
    you were looking how to explain your date the move to Huston.
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    Dec 29, 2015 4:27 PM GMT
    pellaz said
    MrFuscle saidToday at work I realized that not only was I happier than I had ever been since I moved to Houston. I'm happier than I have been in more than half a decade...
    you were looking how to explain your date the move to Huston.


    Lol it says a lot about you that your first inclination is to try and explain away someones happiness as opposed to accepting or celebrating it. I don't have any up coming dates nor do I plan on having any dates for a while.
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    Dec 29, 2015 4:29 PM GMT
    badbug said
    That's cool.

    I feel like i feel the way you describe 90 percent of the time and then desperately alone the other 10.

    Of course, i often have felt that way in my relationships and that is just so much more of a trapped feeling on top of the despair.


    when I have such a nurturing personality


    Do you have any pets?



    I hate cats and I don't have time for a dog nor do I have a yard so no pets. I do love dogs though.
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    Dec 29, 2015 5:59 PM GMT
    MrFuscle saidLol it says a lot about you that your first inclination is to try and explain away someones happiness as opposed to...

    dosnt say anything about ME please reference your post "how to rephrase this" http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4154285

    i dont really care only wishing you the very best...
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    Dec 29, 2015 8:11 PM GMT
    pellaz said
    MrFuscle saidLol it says a lot about you that your first inclination is to try and explain away someones happiness as opposed to...

    dosnt say anything about ME please reference your post "how to rephrase this" http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4154285

    i dont really care only wishing you the very best...


    So because I made a post days ago and then had a positive thought days later it has to be related. No your not wishing me the best. If you were you could have done so. Yes your response always says something about you. We can not control others but we can control our responses. My response to you is to think less of you, let you know, and move on.
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    Dec 29, 2015 9:35 PM GMT
    can you put me on your ignore list please
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    Dec 30, 2015 5:35 AM GMT
    pellaz saidcan you put me on your ignore list please


    last i checked you quoted me. Be a man and learn to hit the ignore button yourself.
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    Jan 22, 2016 6:51 PM GMT
    I don't see you picking fights, but over the past few weeks it seems easier and easier for other members to cross you. I don't think Pellaz meant to be hurtful, at least not consciously, yet within a few posts the two of you are completely at odds.

    Just keep working on it. Life is a balancing act, and striking a balance between the need for independence and the need to nurture is one of many exercises that prove it. I'm very glad you've found another reference point to add to the list of things that make you happy, but newfound happiness can be very brittle at first.

    Maybe try playing to your strengths and try to nurture that newly discovered side of yourself instead of trying to defend it. If I miss my guess and this is not what's going on, I don't doubt you'll figure it out yourself one way or another. Good luck! icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 22, 2016 8:04 PM GMT
    anotherphil saidI don't see you picking fights, but over the past few weeks it seems easier and easier for other members to cross you. I don't think Pellaz meant to be hurtful, at least not consciously, yet within a few posts the two of you are completely at odds.

    Just keep working on it. Life is a balancing act, and striking a balance between the need for independence and the need to nurture is one of many exercises that prove it. I'm very glad you've found another reference point to add to the list of things that make you happy, but newfound happiness can be very brittle at first.

    Maybe try playing to your strengths and try to nurture that newly discovered side of yourself instead of trying to defend it. If I miss my guess and this is not what's going on, I don't doubt you'll figure it out yourself one way or another. Good luck! icon_smile.gif


    Thanks buttercup, I don't think he was trying to be hurtful. I'm not going to allow someone other than a psychologist I'm paying, a spiritual leader I'm deferring to or a lover I trust to tell me why I'm feeling or acting the way I am. Its a lesson in humility I'm learning myself.

    With so much sadness in the world I cannot respect anyone who tries to explain away the happiness of another simply because they don't get it. Then again I guess I should just...


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    Jan 22, 2016 8:12 PM GMT
    heywhatsupbuddy saidMr Fusle,

    I actually can appreciate & understand your perspective about being in a relationship vs. being single.

    I'm currently single myself and I find that sometimes I'd rather stay single than date, but it really just depends on how I'm feeling that day.

    Thanks, for sharing your experience because I definitely can relate to how you're feeling.



    True there are days I'd love a boyfriend. Other days I'm haply I don't have to deal with one.