A question and a point:
Point: Gay people are just as guilty, if not more so, of speculating on whether someone is gay or not than straights are and are usually tickled pink when some celebrity does come out, as if gives them some sort of validation. It's as if, at some gut level, we really believe there is something wrong with us and we take comfort in knowing we aren't alone and it's even better when in our company are celebrities and high profile sports figures.
If we expect straights not to judge, we gays need to not be so quick to judge either. We are just as guilty as straights.
Question: Why oh why is every subject matter black vs. white issue? Aren't there other ethnic/racial groups? Why when a black person writes about a situation in their community they have to compare it to the white community and talk about it as if they are an authority?
The author says, "In my own experience, a lot of my gay white friends are damn near distraught when someone calls them a “faggot.” I’m not good at consoling them since I hear it at least once a month—as a black man, if a white guy and I are going out in the same exact outfit, strangers will read him as “artistic” while I’m just “gay.”"
He can't find empathy with his own gay brothers because he feels he is called faggot more often? How does he know for sure? Why does he feel his "cancer" is worse than his white friends'? And really it's just his perspective that outfits are perceived differently on black guys as opposed to white guys. It's been my experience that black men, both gay and straight, tend to dress more flashy than their white counterparts and when white men (my perspective which with I have first hand experience) wear something other than black, navy blue, and brown are viewed as light in the loafers by other whites but not by blacks who seem to appreciate a more individualistic sense of fashion style.
He then goes on to say, "For every Prince wearing heels and ass-less pants while unabashedly pursuing some of the most beautiful women on the planet, there are 10 black fathers telling their sons they can’t take ballet because it’s for “sissies,” or black women passing up black men deemed “too soft” for listening to Beyoncé, or black fans calling a celebrity “suspect” for wearing pants that are too tight. We’ve always had to be a little bit stronger, a little bit tougher, and a little more resilient than our white counterparts, and it has made us hypervigilant against any sign of weakness."
Does he not think there are white, Asian, and other native peoples whose fathers tell their sons they can't do certain things for fear their sons will appear to be sissys or too soft? So why have blacks had to be anymore hyper vigilant than anyother group? That's only his perspective. For every white, Asian or Latino father that gives his son an Easy-Bake Oven for Christmas there are ten who wouldn't dream of doing so.
Can we stop the Them-Versus-Us attitudes? We are all gay and have experienced the same prejudices from society based on our sexual orientation, our melanin levels notwithstanding.
P.S., I can only presume that the video of Odell is more suspect than the video of Channing is because Channing is dancing (goofing) alone while Odell is doing the same thing (dancing/goofing) with another man and shirtless. I'm not saying this is right or fair. I'm just saying it's probably the reason.