Gay Athletes Are Using A Different Way to Come Out

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    Dec 31, 2015 5:15 AM GMT
    NYT: In professional sports, where slurs are still tolerated, acting as if your homosexuality was never a secret is a bold counteroffensive move.

    http://www.nytimes.com/2016/01/03/magazine/why-self-identifying-is-different-from-coming-out.html?ref=sports
  • leanandclean

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    Dec 31, 2015 4:13 PM GMT
    I think the author of the article is trying too hard.
  • jeepguySD

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    Dec 31, 2015 4:19 PM GMT
    Part of what got me down about Bill Kennedy’s situation is also what moved me. He traded a useful job protection to advocate for other gay people in sports to feel safer while doing their job. It’s easy to hate whom you can’t see and harder to hate whom you can. I’m gay. But I’ve never self-identified to a barber or the men in the shop. Nor have I seen any other man do the same. We should.

    Very good piece. Thank you for posting. The concept of "self identifying" is thought provoking.

    I think most of us feel pretty comfortable "self identifying" around other gay men, but how many still feel awkward doing so in front of straight strangers, especially when overhearing homophobic slurs?
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    Dec 31, 2015 6:23 PM GMT
    jeepguySD said...

    I think most of us feel pretty comfortable "self identifying" around other gay men, but how many still feel awkward doing so in front of straight strangers, especially when overhearing homophobic slurs?


    I have no problem "self identifying" to anyone. However, I do nothing when overhearing homophobic slurs on the part of total strangers. It's not that I feel awkward; it's just not my responsibility to police another adult's behavior or speech. If I were to do so I would rightly be told to mind my own business and probably not in polite terms.