Courageous Beyond Words: Sex as a Sexual Healer, with Dr. Dain Heer.

  • 6packabs

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    Jan 01, 2016 10:30 AM GMT
    Dr. Dain Heer, speaks about sex and sexual healing, as well as tuning into your body on who it wants sex with (rather than your mind running that decision). I would love to know if any of you would resonate with what he recommends, where you identify with "energy" of others and get in touch with your body for sex.

    What if you as a hottie would be open to bless someone with your hotness, to give them the time of their life, to bless them with sex for which they would be intensely grateful and hold fond memories for years to come with that interaction? Are you a sexual healer?

    Could you see yourself going and giving sex to guys who otherwise aren't or wouldn't be on your "hot list" so as to watch them in total bliss, blessed by your sensuality? Hmmmm, it's interesting. It seems risky. It seems courageous.

    Just 20 seconds before the 10 minute mark:

    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HERE"Have you ever noticed that when you get into a passionate relationship or passionate love affair, that oftentimes it ends just as passionately on the other side, but with a bunch of pain and suffering?

    "What if, instead, with sex, you ask yourself---if you ask your body: 'body, who would you want to have sex with?' Cause your body is the one having sex . . . . It creates totally different possibilities, cause your body wants somebody who is not in judgement of it, who loves it just the way it is, and is grateful to taste it, and touch it, and smell it, and adore it, and be really present with it, and to just have fun.

    "Just do this: Go into a mall or a crowded place. . . Here is what you want to do. Just go to a crowded place and just ask your body to show you someone who has the energy who would be nurturing to it.

    "So if you want to have fun, ask these questions:

    1) Will it be easy, for me and my body?
    2) Will it be fun for my body?
    3) Will I learn something?
    4) Will I be happy afterwards?
    5) Will they be grateful?


    He then speaks of huge orgasms that are full body energetic experiences. That is the only way I like sex. Only localized to the pelvic region is a huge downer, it needs to be full body!

  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jan 01, 2016 1:13 PM GMT
    Nope.

    It used to be called 'sympathy sex', and it would never work for me.

    More power to the dudes who feel like doing it, tho.icon_biggrin.gif

    My sexual experience has taught me that my body enjoys what my mind tells him to doicon_biggrin.gif.

    Unless, I am physically attracted to a guy, it is a TOTAL no go for me. And that's how it is going to stay in the future, too.


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    Jan 01, 2016 1:31 PM GMT
    If some guy was having sympathy sex with me it'd be a huge turn off. Not to mention it would be really depressing.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jan 01, 2016 5:43 PM GMT
    Wyndahoi saidIf some guy was having sympathy sex with me it'd be a huge turn off. Not to mention it would be really depressing.



    Yup. I fully agree.

    I also believe that every dude tends to march to his own drums to some extent.

    I know several guys who are prone to be a tad too flexible for their own good. I have seen them going out, and flirting around with the guys in demand. If nothing comes out of it, they start to feel frustrated, and end up with someone whom they do NOT find attractive, only to regret it moments later.

    If you are out looking for a NSA hook up you must always remember that not every attempt will be successful. This comes with the territory. If you suddenly grow too flexible learn to accept the consequences and move on.

    It is both annoying and immature to get going on your on free will only to cry foul a few minutes later.

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  • Fireworkz

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    Jan 02, 2016 12:12 AM GMT
    I didn't watch the video but I tend to go more on energy than looks.
    This has been refined through energy work and yoga.
    The more I trust my body the better my sexual experience. Looks are the first attractor but the body makes the decision.
    I wouldn't do sympathy sex as the body still has to feel it.

    And the point of sex is to enjoy it, so giving without getting doesn't make sense to me unless you are a sex worker.

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    Jan 02, 2016 2:45 AM GMT
    6packabs said

    What if you as a hottie would be open to bless someone with your hotness, to give them the time of their life, to bless them with sex for which they would be intensely grateful and hold fond memories for years to come with that interaction? Are you a sexual healer?



    This is basically what porn star Allen Silver does. He calls it being a sacred intimate. I ca definitely see it having a place in society since so many people have emotional hang ups around sex they need to work through in a safe place.

    http://www.allensi.com/

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  • 6packabs

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    Jan 22, 2016 1:17 PM GMT
    Wyndahoi saidIf some guy was having sympathy sex with me it'd be a huge turn off. Not to mention it would be really depressing.



    Oh man, sympathy or charity sex is something that never even entered my mind on this one. Yeah, that can be a huge drag. I haven't done that for a long time, and it isn't good. Perhaps, though, if I looked at myself as a healer and giver, I could get into it, but why? I have limited time and energy, and I want to spend it in pursuit of intense and rewarding love. So, though the vid captured my imagination at first, the term "sympathy sex" turned me cold. Haha. Yeah, sketchy, unless you are truly selfless and truly want to heal and bless others in total giving!
  • 6packabs

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    Jan 22, 2016 1:20 PM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    6packabs said

    What if you as a hottie would be open to bless someone with your hotness, to give them the time of their life, to bless them with sex for which they would be intensely grateful and hold fond memories for years to come with that interaction? Are you a sexual healer?



    This is basically what porn star Allen Silver does. He calls it being a sacred intimate. I ca definitely see it having a place in society since so many people have emotional hang ups around sex they need to work through in a safe place.

    http://www.allensi.com/

    Azt1GwYCcAMWTvL.jpg


    If I had the look and confidence to do so, I'd pull off what he does. Finally, something I could be good at, easily focus on, and get paid for it. Lol.
  • Fireworkz

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    Jan 22, 2016 1:55 PM GMT
    6packabs said
    Just 20 seconds before the 10 minute mark:

    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HERE"Have you ever noticed that when you get into a passionate relationship or passionate love affair, that oftentimes it ends just as passionately on the other side, but with a bunch of pain and suffering?

    "What if, instead, with sex, you ask yourself---if you ask your body: 'body, who would you want to have sex with?' Cause your body is the one having sex . . . . It creates totally different possibilities, cause your body wants somebody who is not in judgement of it, who loves it just the way it is, and is grateful to taste it, and touch it, and smell it, and adore it, and be really present with it, and to just have fun.

    "Just do this: Go into a mall or a crowded place. . . Here is what you want to do. Just go to a crowded place and just ask your body to show you someone who has the energy who would be nurturing to it.

    "So if you want to have fun, ask these questions:

    1) Will it be easy, for me and my body?
    2) Will it be fun for my body?
    3) Will I learn something?
    4) Will I be happy afterwards?
    5) Will they be grateful?


    He then speaks of huge orgasms that are full body energetic experiences. That is the only way I like sex. Only localized to the pelvic region is a huge downer, it needs to be full body!



    I didn't watch the video but I'll comment on this bit, as the second part is a more interesting question.

    Here's my theory: there are various levels of attraction in the body. Mainly energy or magnetic attraction and physical or sensory attraction.

    I think some people who are very tuned into themselves radiate sexual energy. I experienced this with a kundalini yoga teacher who just had a magnetism about him. We went out dancing with a group of friends to a straight club. He was like a male siren. Even straight guys noticed him.

    Another example a friend of mine who was a bit of a stiff professional who started to do Orgasmic Meditation. After a few months he started radiating this energy. I remember meeting met him for coffee and felt horny in his presence he radiated this energy it was overwhelming.

    I'm starting to practice kundalini to develop this for myself.

    So there are people that radiate sexual energy that people almost everyone is drawn to.

    The next category are people who radiate sexual energy but that energy is more attuned to you rather than everyone. I met this guy at a dinner party who started flirting with me and I felt overcome by this sexual energy it was out of the blue.
    We've met a few times for lunch as he works near me and every time after meeting I am turned on. We've kissed and groped but never had sex, he has a boyfriend now. This attraction


    These intense experiences happen rarely in my experience and are more energetic in nature. These are attraction through energy. I find this can be sensed no matter what your sexual orientation. I've met women with powerful sexual energy and I always feel a little disturbed as they are having an unexpected effect on me.

    Then you get attraction through the senses. This is when the body needs to experience someone through the senses rather than through a magnetism.
    I find that there are guys I normally wouldn't fancy visually but when I touch them or smell them by body responds.

    So I find more and more I don't need to ask the questions as my body tells me.
    When I was younger it was all about the visuals and the mind chose more than the body would. The sex was not as satisfying as it was now. When you're in the mind sex is always less fun.
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    Jan 22, 2016 4:43 PM GMT
    Fireworkz said


    I'm starting to practice kundalini to develop this for myself.



    Are you and your brother competing here too icon_lol.gif