Anal - non?

  • oldfart

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    Jan 01, 2016 6:26 PM GMT
    Yes, it's that topic again...

    My new year starts not with a bang but a whimper:

    I know I'm not the only non-anal guy out here, but right now I feel like it.

    Sanity check: Talk to me, guys.
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    Jan 02, 2016 5:53 AM GMT
    How apropos for the new year and myself! I had originally posted a few months ago that I didn't really care for anal even though I had never really experienced it. Well, last night I bottomed successfully with my bf (who has a beautiful penis, btw) and I loved it. I was fairly loose I guess from the alcohol so it didn't hurt once it was in. He jacked me off while he was thrusting into me and I had the most intense orgasm. It was so amazing that I began to think that I could do this regularly.
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    Jan 02, 2016 7:52 AM GMT
    No anal for me either. Just not interested in it. Kissing, caressing, frotting, cuddling, and mutual j/o are good enough for me. icon_confused.gif
  • Suetonius

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    Jan 02, 2016 8:32 AM GMT
    There is absolutlely too much hype on RJ about anal sex/tops/bottoms. I can take it or leave it. Oral is underrated here. Sex is all about orgasms - eventually - and it matters little how one gets there.
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    Jan 02, 2016 7:56 PM GMT
    Suetonius saidThere is absolutlely too much hype on RJ about anal sex/tops/bottoms. I can take it or leave it. Oral is underrated here. Sex is all about orgasms - eventually - and it matters little how one gets there.

    I would argue that sex doesn't have to be about orgasms. Most of the time when my bf and I are fooling around I don't even orgasm. (That's not involving penetration.) At least for those in relationships, I think it's more about the shared experience and connection (as sappy as that sounds.)
  • Suetonius

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    Jan 02, 2016 10:16 PM GMT
    runner1701 said
    Suetonius saidThere is absolutlely too much hype on RJ about anal sex/tops/bottoms. I can take it or leave it. Oral is underrated here. Sex is all about orgasms - eventually - and it matters little how one gets there.

    I would argue that sex doesn't have to be about orgasms. Most of the time when my bf and I are fooling around I don't even orgasm. (That's not involving penetration.) At least for those in relationships, I think it's more about the shared experience and connection (as sappy as that sounds.)

    Maybe it depends on what your definition of "sex" is. (remember Bill Clintion --"depends on what the defintion of "is" is.") For most of us, cuddling, lying together, caressing, while pleasurable and important in a relationship, don't themselves aconstitute "sex". IMHO, vanilla sex, even for guys in relationships, as much as it involves "shared experience and connection," (and intimacy) many more times than not involves an orgasm by at least one partner. (B&D, SM, etc, have their own paths, and I'm no expert there.)