Radd saidDating positive guys is not for everyone and it's reckless to suggest there are no risks involved...
I was in a relationship with an HIV+ person for exactly one year and it really made our sex life difficult...
This. I like sex to be fun, spontaneous, carefree, and messy. I don't want to have to worry for three months just because I got his cum in my eye, or I didn't use a condom for a blow job and I forgot that I had flossed an hour before, or I had a cut on my skin. It's not so much an issue anymore since I'm married.
There (may) come a day when you can safely have sex with an HIV+ guy and not fear contracting it. So far PrEP is at almost a 100% protective rate, but I think it needs to be studied for a few more years before I would ever be comfortable doing that. People like Timm try to convince us that day is already here but I'm not willing to take that kind of chance until further studies are done.
I've provided scientific models, several studies, expert virologist opinions, CDC, WHO, ACON, Dr. Julio Montaner, Dr. Fauci......plus 16 years of my own anecdotal experience of ART and 30 years of HIV history.
Just like the early Doctors saw anecdotal evidence in 2003 of ART and my NY Bronco buddy....knowledge is on different time line. When the Swiss did their study in 2008 it was already common knowledge, in theory, and practise for many. They knew it had to at least relatively safe. Or else it would be like the Tuskegee experiments : immoral.
No I'm Not trying to "convince" anyone. But I am telling you facts. Facts I knew in 2005. Since proven time and again since then. A bulb went off in my head when I read Dr. Fauci's "Treatment as Prevention". That is brilliant, that being undetectable is part of the solution and end of AIDS.
You may not get it now. You don't have to as long as your safer sex is just that. Safe. Its a 3 prong attack: Condoms for the old school, ART for those with HIV, and PrEP for the most aware.
I'm not looking for acceptance, and I'm not looking to fuck Neg guys. I accepted my HIV status in 1986. And Neg guys, virgins and straight guys aren't my thing.