Matchmaking

  • Fireworkz

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    Jan 04, 2016 12:36 AM GMT
    I got inspired after watching The Millionaire Matchmaker.

    After discussing with a friend of mine we considered setting up a gay matchmaking service ( a budget version not for millionaires), then discovered that a couple already exist.

    So I went to do some market research and met with one of the agencies to see how they work, posing as a prospective client.

    I found the whole concept interesting and was tempted to sign up myself. I had got bored with the dating game and liked the idea of outsourcing the searching to someone else. And they seemed very professional.

    I wasn't convinced to spend a few thousand dollar (pounds) on the service as although I'm sure they could connect me to some interesting people I wasn't convinced the chemistry would be there. And that's a lot of money spent if it doesn't lead to anything.



    Has anyone used a gay matchmaking service before? Was it useful?

    Or would you consider paying for a matchmaking service.

  • Suetonius

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    Jan 05, 2016 12:18 AM GMT
    Not me, but I know two couples that met via OKCupid. OTOH, have heard that the same guys on OKC are on other sites.
  • badbug

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    Jan 05, 2016 12:37 AM GMT

    If i had money, i would probably use one. Why not?



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    Jan 05, 2016 12:58 AM GMT
    I used a service about 12 years ago [I doubt it's still around, given the explosion of apps today]. I paid for 12 introductions over a year. Only 2 of them led to a second date; often the attempted commonalities were stretched beyond credibility. What was amazing tho was that it reconnected me with a college classmate I hadn't seen in 35 years who was married with kids the last time we saw each other in the '70s.
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    Jan 05, 2016 2:51 PM GMT
    keep in mind the gay population is small 2-5%

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    Jan 05, 2016 3:06 PM GMT
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    MarathonManiac saidI used a service about 12 years ago [I doubt it's still around, given the explosion of apps today]. I paid for 12 introductions over a year. Only 2 of them led to a second date; often the attempted commonalities were stretched beyond credibility. What was amazing tho was that it reconnected me with a college classmate I hadn't seen in 35 years who was married with kids the last time we saw each other in the '70s.


    Yours is the first time I've heard a story similar to mine. I was on AOL a lifetime ago, in a m4m room, when I noticed a screen name that resonated with me for whatever hints or clues it contained. So I IM'd the guy. Turns out he was my roommate for a year from 20 years earlier at school.

    Freaked us both out, not just because we'd lost touch yet wound up chatting to each other all those years later, but especially because neither knew the other was gay up until that moment online. So much for gaydar!
  • akapaolo

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    Jan 06, 2016 12:18 AM GMT
    Suetonius saidNot me, but I know two couples that met via OKCupid. OTOH, have heard that the same guys on OKC are on other sites.


    I am on multiple sites, but it is because there are not that many local members on each site,so it brings the odds of meeting someone that you may connect with.
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    Jan 06, 2016 10:55 AM GMT
    I don't believe in matchmaking, and with all these sites and apps, there is not really a very high chance that you will meet someone for what you want--if it's a relationship or marriage you are looking for.

    The best way to connect with someone and get to know people is to get out and do it the old fashioned way. Apps and sites like these are for sex; although I have never met anyone on here from Portland for anything, and not anyone for sex.

    So these sites are more for connections and to see what people are talking about and maybe some about their interests. Not much else comes from these sites really.

    As for matchmaking, be your own and get out there and meet people, or just put yourself in a situation where you are more likely to meet someone unexpectedly. Apps or certain sites will just lead to one time hook ups or short conversations.

    I don't go looking anymore, especially in my area where I live.
  • BloodFlame

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    Jan 06, 2016 11:09 AM GMT
    jjohnson88 saidI don't believe in matchmaking, and with all these sites and apps, there is not really a very high chance that you will meet someone for what you want--if it's a relationship or marriage you are looking for.

    The best way to connect with someone and get to know people is to get out and do it the old fashioned way. Apps and sites like these are for sex; although I have never met anyone on here from Portland for anything, and not anyone for sex.

    So these sites are more for connections and to see what people are talking about and maybe some about their interests. Not much else comes from these sites really.

    As for matchmaking, be your own and get out there and meet people, or just put yourself in a situation where you are more likely to meet someone unexpectedly. Apps or certain sites will just lead to one time hook ups or short conversations.

    I don't go looking anymore, especially in my area where I live.


    Good point but considering gay men don't make up a majority of the population, it's understandable why a lot opt for online connection over offline.

    What if the matchmaking service was held in a real place like hetero mixers, do you think that would be better?
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    Jan 06, 2016 6:23 PM GMT
    pellaz saidkeep in mind the gay population is small 2-5%

    expand your companies reach; do an Ashley Madison matchmaking situation.


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