Problems Getting Aroused

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    Jan 07, 2016 10:14 AM GMT
    Hi,

    I've been seeing a guy for the last few weeks, it's going really well and we seem to be really into each other. Only problem is that when we're getting with each other I'm struggling to get an erection, instead I get a weird throbbing in my penis.

    We haven't done anything apart from kiss, even though we've slept in the same bed together. I really like this guy and find him incredibly attractive but why can't I get an erection when we're kissing? Is this normal? Do you guys normally need further stimulation such as oral or touching to get hard or does getting off usually do it for you?

    I should also mention haven't been with a guy for 6 months and am now worried that during that time I became reliant on porn to get me off and now when I try it in real life it doesn't arouse me anymore.

    This is really annoying because I'm really into this guy but I'm scared to move things to the next level for fear of not getting an erection and I'm worried things might end soon if this keeps happening.

    Has anyone had any experience with this? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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    Jan 27, 2016 3:02 AM GMT
    See a doctor. I've never experienced that.
  • lethlwepn

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    Jan 31, 2016 12:49 PM GMT

    I'm not a doctor but I do have some trouble getting hard sometimes:
    If a guy makes me nervous: "Can you make that harder?" is a turnoff.

    If it just won't go into his butt, for whatever reason (maybe he's scared, or just too tight??)

    If I'm in pain- have had some hip problems lately and it';s difficult to forget this and get excited, my doctor says. A good mens health doc can be helpful.

    Then some guys have the clever gift of making me relax and then they just go to work with their tongue or gentle fingers and it all happens.

    I ran into an old mate tonight and despite a bit of pain we just went at it . Had a break and he wanted more. Mmm.

    I think many guys have similar issues. The right partner gets you in the mood and it all just flows, so to speak.

    Oh and I usually get harder if I can run my hands over his hard muscles and feel his strength. A smart partner knows this and enjoys it. I get excited seeing him excited, and away we go.

    All the best and I hope you sort this out - perhaps a chat with your friend over a coffee sometime (not in the midst the sex...) and bang like rabbits.