How Do You Sleep With Another Person Next to You?

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    Jan 09, 2016 5:17 PM GMT
    NYT: In recent years, a consensus has emerged that sleep is a critical health issue, but researchers have largely focused on individual behavior.

    One area that has lagged behind is what researchers calls dyadic sleep, or sleep concordance. Sixty percent of people sleep with another person. When one person has sleep issues, both can suffer.

    Certain sleep disorders, like snoring, have been shown to reduce the quality of relationships, largely because the person hearing the snoring experiences disrupted sleep. Insomnia has also been linked to lower relationship satisfaction.

    Research into couples’ sleeping patterns reveals that people are found to generally sleep better when they sleep by themselves than when they sleep with a bed partner.

    Yet when they’re asked about sleeping alone, people say they are less satisfied.

    http://www.nytimes.com/2016/01/10/fashion/sleep-marriage-couples.html?
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    Jan 09, 2016 6:29 PM GMT
    woodsmen said
    Research into couples’ sleeping patterns reveals that people are found to generally sleep better when they sleep by themselves than when they sleep with a bed partner.

    Yet when they’re asked about sleeping alone, people say they are less satisfied.

    http://www.nytimes.com/2016/01/10/fashion/sleep-marriage-couples.html?

    Well, I don't know how I would be "found" to sleep in a study. But I would also fall into the category that reports less satisfaction (whatever that means) sleeping alone. And my subjective observation is that I sleep less soundly alone. But the study did appear to say these were general behaviors, and not absolute for the entire population.
  • Apparition

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    Jan 09, 2016 10:34 PM GMT
    jon goes to bed with the dog at 9, i goto bed around 2. He wakes up at 5 and i wake up at 6. He wears earplugs because I snore like a freight train. so does the dog. People who snore dont have problems sleeping with others, it is not like we could hear them. He doesnt like being touched at night (too hot). I could sleep on top of someone. I steal the dog like a teddy bear.
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    Jan 09, 2016 11:20 PM GMT
    Apparition saidjon goes to bed with the dog at 9, i goto bed around 2. He wakes up at 5 and i wake up at 6. He wears earplugs because I snore like a freight train. so does the dog. People who snore dont have problems sleeping with others, it is not like we could hear them. He doesnt like being touched at night (too hot). I could sleep on top of someone. I steal the dog like a teddy bear.


    Sounds like you guys have it all worked out! Was that a happy coincidence, or the result of a concord after a long war? icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 10, 2016 1:25 AM GMT
    Apparition saidjon goes to bed with the dog at 9, i goto bed around 2. He wakes up at 5 and i wake up at 6. He wears earplugs because I snore like a freight train. so does the dog. People who snore dont have problems sleeping with others, it is not like we could hear them. He doesnt like being touched at night (too hot). I could sleep on top of someone. I steal the dog like a teddy bear.
    You snore like a freight trainicon_question.gif Probably we could place your bed and nightstand in a pup tent near a busy railroad grade crossingicon_lol.gif
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    Jan 10, 2016 2:28 AM GMT
    I can't sleep with anybody. i tend to have pretty vivid dreams and have hit my bedmates on multiple occasions....pretty violently too. I also have talked and walked in my sleep, so I don't think I would risk sleeping with anyone and submitting them to whatever it is that I do in my sleep. It's pretty bizarre to hear that I do that kind of thing, but I know of no way to stop doing it.
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    Jan 10, 2016 3:38 AM GMT
    I prefer to sleep alone, even kick my dogs out
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    Jan 10, 2016 7:32 AM GMT
    Falling asleep with my dick in my partners ass fells pretty good to me.,
  • badbug

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    Jan 10, 2016 8:26 AM GMT
    I want to sleep all cuddled up with someone but can't do it. I try and try but i just need to like put distance between us and turn my back to them. Even if i am like really drunk or really super tired and do fall asleep close to someone, i wake up an hour or two later and have to move away.

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    Jan 10, 2016 4:50 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidFalling asleep with my dick in my partners ass fells pretty good to me.

    Jammed up and jelly tight! icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 10, 2016 6:26 PM GMT
    Asheguy74 saidI can't sleep with anybody. i tend to have pretty vivid dreams and have hit my bedmates on multiple occasions....pretty violently too. I also have talked and walked in my sleep, so I don't think I would risk sleeping with anyone and submitting them to whatever it is that I do in my sleep. It's pretty bizarre to hear that I do that kind of thing, but I know of no way to stop doing it.

    I spent a few nights with a guy on a visit to a big city. I previously knew him online.

    He told me he had this sleep disorder, where his brain didn't restrain his body movements while asleep, as most of us do. WOW! Did he ever! He rolled around his bed and flung his arms like he was having fits. All night long I kept getting startled awake by hard smacks in the face.

    And then there was his dog. A US champion and totally spoiled by his owner, his normal place was on the bed. He kept trying to turn our sex into a 3-way, something I'm not into, or to block us altogether.

    When things did quiet down briefly, he'd get between me and his owner, and start pushing me with his paws, until I'd fall onto the floor. My host told me his dog didn't like visitors in bed, very jealous of his territory. Oh, fine.

    So I tried to make a bed on the floor, with a comforter and pillow. And the dog jumped down and kept nudging me awake. Evidently he didn't even want me in the same room, either.

    Well, after a few nights of that I abruptly cut my visit short and rode back home. Hated to do it, we were having great sex, when the dog didn't interfere. But obviously I was the 3rd wheel in that relationship.

    Not the kind of competition for a guy I would have expected. And as for his sleep disorder, well, I suppose if we got serious we could've always tried twin beds. But his prioritizing of his dog was insurmountable, we would've needed separate rooms, and that's not how I live with a guy.
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    Jan 10, 2016 7:54 PM GMT
    Many people with OCD can't sleep with someone else, especially if they are taking medication such as antidepressants.

    My ex tried suffocating me with a pillow one night not because I was snoring but because I was breathing.

    He was on Zanax but had been on Prozac, Zoloft and Paxil.
  • AttisXVI

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    Jan 11, 2016 4:26 AM GMT
    Blegh. I can't. I have to be on my stomach, arms under the pillow, facing off of the bed. I am not a cuddly bed buddy.
  • Lincsbear

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    Jan 11, 2016 12:29 PM GMT
    I generally sleep better alone.
    I have very vivid dreams and do move around a great deal. I also talk in my sleep and walk sometimes.
    Having said that, though, if very tired I can sleep with a guy and even enjoy the experience.
  • LJay

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    Jan 11, 2016 3:23 PM GMT
    Sleep apnea, with which a number of the behaviors described above can be associated, is serious stuff. If you or your partner is experiencing such problems you should get a referral to a doctor who specializes in sleep disorders.

    I thought things were normal when my doctor referred me. It turned out that I was having airway blockage for up to 48 times per hour and for periods of up to 30 seconds each. In other words, I was not breathing. This can mean serious oxygen deficiency and even heart attack or stroke.

    Get it checked out, guys.
  • Nakedman1969

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    Jan 11, 2016 9:47 PM GMT
    I have never slept with another man so I don't know if I can. But I have sleep apnea so I don't know how that would affect us.
  • BuggEyedSprit...

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    Jan 11, 2016 10:15 PM GMT
    I sleep badly.


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    Jan 12, 2016 1:00 AM GMT
    I can nap cuddled up, but not all night. I roll around and assume different positions.

    Plus, the last BF would get these hot flashes in the middle of the night. Like his body would suddenly get hot to the touch, and I'd get second-degree burns unless I rolled away. icon_eek.gif Another fucking alien.

    Oh, and the cat snores. The dog snores. But freight trains? THe extra (inherited) dog runs outside and barks at every freight train that goes by in the distance. (Like 5 or 10 miles away. You wouldn't even notice.) Until I get up, throw open the window and scream at him. He's all proud of his 100% record of keeping freight trains out of the yard. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 12, 2016 1:07 AM GMT
    I feed them decongestant and xanax and I sleep very well.
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    Jan 13, 2016 9:55 PM GMT
    Apparition saidjon goes to bed with the dog at 9, i goto bed around 2. He wakes up at 5 and i wake up at 6. He wears earplugs because I snore like a freight train. so does the dog. People who snore dont have problems sleeping with others, it is not like we could hear them. He doesnt like being touched at night (too hot). I could sleep on top of someone. I steal the dog like a teddy bear.


    So jelly of your man, just saying.
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    Feb 05, 2016 12:28 PM GMT
    Periodic cuddle sessions between rolling into my own space throughout the night
  • Wendigo9

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    May 08, 2016 4:41 AM GMT
    With my hunny, 45% spooning and 55% just laying there, lol. All that matters is how cozy we feel together, and if someone farts, at least your warm at night, lol.