OK RJ. What are you tips for how a top should please a bottom guy in bed?

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    Jan 12, 2016 1:36 AM GMT
    Bottoms and tops are welcomed to answer.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 12, 2016 2:50 AM GMT
    ^It's so hard to find a top who really gets it!icon_lol.gif
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jan 12, 2016 5:36 AM GMT
    The chances are that whenever you set out to 'please' someone in any way or fashion, he or she will just raise the bar a bit higher just to deny you the sense of accomplishment. icon_lol.gif

    Sure, because it COULD always be better and the guy you are trying to please belongs to the small group of 8 billion or so for whom even the best is not good enough. You know, because they, too, are 'very special'. Yup. Whatever. icon_rolleyes.gif

    I see m2m sex as being very different from the m2f 19/20 century Victorian to James Bond variety which made it somehow mandatory for a male to 'please' his female.

    Instead of a top trying to please a bottom, as the heteronormative concept would suggest, you are talking two men here who are hopefully keen on pleasing each other, and enjoying themselves in the process thereof. A dude who bottoms is not a passive female but an equal partner, and actually has as much obligation to please his top, and other way round.

    Now add to the equation that there are relatively very few tops, and even fewer really endowed tops, and you'll see that there is hardly any logical reason for a top to go to great lengths to please his bottom. If we want to be really honest, the bottom dudes out there are a dime a dozen...

    You talk a bit. You try various things, and you see what works best in sync for BOTH of you. It is always a bit of giving and taking, but if both dudes are happy, the goal has been achieved. As simple as that. The biggest fun is actually trying, sometimes achieving it, sometimes not, and hence, having a good reason to try again.icon_lol.gif

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    Jan 12, 2016 9:54 AM GMT
    Something I sometimes feel isn't widely understood is that good topping isn't just about ramming your dick in and pumping systematically for 10 minutes until you cum.

    Vary the speed, angle, depth of penetration - pump 5 times really fast and shallow, and then twice slower and deeper then repeat, for example. Push all the way in (or as far as they can take you) and then just hold it there and pulse. Tease the outside of their hole with your dick without quite pushing it in until they are going crazy to be filled and then slam it in balls deep.

    Switch up the positions too and don't be afraid of pulling out and sucking the bottom's dick for a while, or kissing them, or working on their tits. Sling his legs over your shoulders, support their thighs and piledrive that fucker. Flip him over and slide into his ass while you nibble and kiss his neck and rub his nipples. Get him up on all fours so you can bang away doggy style while he has access to jerk himself off.

    I guess the overall message I'd give is make sure there is variety. This is what I do and I've always been praised for my skills as a top icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 13, 2016 12:39 AM GMT
    http://www.thegailygrind.com/2015/07/04/how-to-top-like-a-stud-a-penetrating-guide-to-gay-sex/

    http://www.thegailygrind.com/2015/07/14/how-to-bottom-like-a-porn-star-best-position-and-pain-free-angle-of-entry/
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    Jan 13, 2016 1:03 AM GMT
    PulseFit saidSomething I sometimes feel isn't widely understood is that good topping isn't just about ramming your dick in and pumping systematically for 10 minutes until you cum.

    Vary the speed, angle, depth of penetration - pump 5 times really fast and shallow, and then twice slower and deeper then repeat, for example. Push all the way in (or as far as they can take you) and then just hold it there and pulse. Tease the outside of their hole with your dick without quite pushing it in until they are going crazy to be filled and then slam it in balls deep.

    Switch up the positions too and don't be afraid of pulling out and sucking the bottom's dick for a while, or kissing them, or working on their tits. Sling his legs over your shoulders, support their thighs and piledrive that fucker. Flip him over and slide into his ass while you nibble and kiss his neck and rub his nipples. Get him up on all fours so you can bang away doggy style while he has access to jerk himself off.

    I guess the overall message I'd give is make sure there is variety. This is what I do and I've always been praised for my skills as a top icon_twisted.gif


    icon_eek.gif Wow, you sound like an expert. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 13, 2016 10:22 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said^ Ten minutes?!

    When I make plans to top I ask my bottom to pencil me in for at least two to three hours.


    I think you misread my comment - I said it ISN'T about 10 minutes of ramming it in until you cum.

    That said, 2-3 hours? Ain't nobody got time for that! Unless you're single and the sex is 'an event'.
  • takashi

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    Jan 23, 2016 6:36 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle
    Lots of bottoms like the feeling of being used during sex.
    Lots of bottoms like extra long, from urethral tip to balls deep poking and prodding.
    Manhandled, left sore and put away slippery and sopping wet.
    Bottoms generally like to feel like their top is in total control.
    Ultimately communication is key. I tell a bottom to let me know if I do something that he doesn't like while we go at it. It's up to him. Other than that I'm pillaging at my own pace.

    Uggghhh. This! Totallly what I am and want.
    I am a total bottom, very submissive when it comes to sex.
    But I am a enthusiastic participant, not someone that just lies down for my top.
    Not a power bottom though, but maybe I am for those lazy tops.
    I love being used, completely. I love it soft and slow but it inevitably goes to hard and fast, I enjoy that too.
    No matter how many times I have it, I am amazed that I have some one deep inside my body. I have allowed someone to enter my body, to penetrate my barriers. Once it starts I have little control to stop him until he takes his pleasure using my body.
    MMTM has revealed something that I secretly enjoyed. I love it afterwards when its all over and its time for a shower, when I get up and walk to the restroom it still feels like I have something up inside me and I love the squishy feeling of having body fluids and lube running down my thighs, the evidence of our love making.
  • mybud

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    Jan 23, 2016 9:23 PM GMT
    You press your hungry,hot,man tongue, in their ass like it's a ripe peach. Eat until they squeal. Roll em on their stomach, part their legs. Then press in 7 fat, hairy, inches of man meat in their waiting hole. Ride him like your having a seizure...done and DONE.
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    Jan 24, 2016 8:52 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidLots of bottoms like the feeling of being used during sex.

    But then you have those annoying, directive power bottoms which are a a total boner killer for me. icon_rolleyes.gif

    A few hard slaps to the face, along with a gag, generally gets them to stop resisting, and accept your total control. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 24, 2016 9:47 PM GMT
    I usually like rough play/wrestling/teasing at first, and then submerging into deep sensual sex. Just exploring each other bodies, to stimulate the senses. Also.. NIPPLES + NECK = satisfies the Nerves.

  • mjlikeaboss

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    Jan 25, 2016 5:12 AM GMT
    I agree with SilverRRCloud. It doesn't have to be about one person "pleasing" another where one is active and the other passive. I am versatile and when I bottom sometimes I am more active than my bf. He'll be laying on his back and I climb on top and ride him. That way I control the speed and depth and position and whatever.
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    Jan 25, 2016 12:53 PM GMT
    It is important to remember that Gay male bottoms are not the same as Hetero women. Women are taught to be modest and "hard to get" in order to be "ladylike" and not appear "cheap". A Gay male who acts this way will probably get passed over for someone who is more enthusiastic or eager to fall to his knees or have his shorts hit the floor.

    Stimulating the prostate is very important. I've heard that you can even make a straight male climax involuntarily if you stimulrate his prostate properly. I have also heard that this sometimes happens during fraternity initiations or hazing and is probably pretty humiliating for the young man in question.

    Regardless of Top or Bottom roles, if someone is sharing their body with you, you are sort of obligated to make sure they also have an orgasm. This may require that you help them have a "happy ending" with your hands or mouth even if you are the Top.

    I knew a Pinoy male nurse who was a bottom only and he was actually very demanding and pretty mean spirited. He would always be very critical of the top's performance afterwords. I believe this is what's called "topping from underneath."
  • rockjockCA

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    Jan 26, 2016 2:13 AM GMT
    As MuchMoreThanMuscle pointed out on his first post to this thread, the key is Communication. As I bottom, I fit what he described : I prefer my tops to take control and use me … but this may not be something all bottoms like.

    However, prostate stimulation (and perhaps having our cum fucked out of us hands free) is probably something that most bottoms do crave. As a bottom, I would love for my top to tease my ass with his fingers when he takes a break between fucks to keep my prostate stimulated (and to get me horned up for the second round …)

    And going back to the link GAMRican shared
    http://www.thegailygrind.com/2015/07/14/how-to-bottom-like-a-porn-star-best-position-and-pain-free-angle-of-entry/
    Does anyone have any experience on whether "the closer the legs you are to your torso, the more your S curve will be straighten" (so that the cock in you will be gliding across the rectal wall rather than stabbing it)?
  • mjlikeaboss

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    Jan 26, 2016 2:33 AM GMT
    It's the same principle as the squatty potty. www.squattypotty.com