What if he's an "Upgrade" project?

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    Feb 05, 2009 2:17 PM GMT
    Beyonce has a song called "Upgrade U" which got me thinking about the guy I'm dating now.

    Have you ever dated a guy that was an "Upgrade" project where you were the more "well off, cultured, driven, educated" person and he wanted you to introduce him to new things, help with his career/goals/education, inspire him, etc...

    How did things turn out?
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    Feb 05, 2009 2:45 PM GMT
    I have had a few situations / relationships just like what you're describing. It is fun to share all the advantages and benefits I've had with a bf who is a good deal younger......just so long as he appreciates all that you're doing for him. In the final analysis though, for me, I prefer someone closer to my age - within ten years or so - who has acquired the knowledge, experience, and reached for those goals - before we met. Playing *teacher* has its drawbacks.
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    Feb 05, 2009 2:59 PM GMT
    If you're thinking of him as an "Upgrade" project, sounds like a waste of time to me. People don't turn into what you want them to be, no matter what you do. And they don't usually appreciate you trying to turn them into what you want them to be. They tend to get resentful and mad about it.
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    Feb 05, 2009 4:38 PM GMT

    Watch Sex and the City's "The Turtle and The Hare" Episode. x

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    Feb 05, 2009 4:50 PM GMT
    If you think you can change him you're wrong. This is what straight women try to do and it doesn't work. He's not a fixer-upper. DTMFA.