Mentioning top/bottom on your profile?

  • type

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    Jan 15, 2016 3:20 AM GMT
    So either I am naive or something, but my friend told me once I shouldn't be mentioning my position, cuz everybody knows everybody and it also could be a turn off to some.

    What do you guys think? Honestly I don't see it that way, we are all adults and should be comfortable with such information. But hey I might be wrong.
    How do you see it? Is it a turnoff? Should I, for some reason, not mention it?
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    Jan 15, 2016 4:57 AM GMT
    Yes, it will without a doubt be a turn off to many people. And on one hand that really shouldn't concern you what other's think. But on the other hand, I have to admit I hate it when guys state their "position" in their profiles, as if they are restricted in some way from performing outside of a particular role. I think "top" and "bottom" are so limiting. And what if you reject the love of your life simply because he posted the wrong position on his profile?
  • Webster666

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    Jan 15, 2016 6:07 AM GMT
    I see nothing wrong with providing whatever information you want.
  • type

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    Jan 15, 2016 6:34 AM GMT
    Radd saidYes, it will without a doubt be a turn off to many people. And on one hand that really shouldn't concern you what other's think. But on the other hand, I have to admit I hate it when guys state their "position" in their profiles, as if they are restricted in some way from performing outside of a particular role. I think "top" and "bottom" are so limiting. And what if you reject the love of your life simply because he posted the wrong position on his profile?


    It does put a limit from meeting, you are right. I m not personality turned off if a guy mentions it. What might stop me from mentioning is maybe the fact that some guys will be turned off rather than seeing it as a simple information..
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jan 15, 2016 11:00 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidIt's your profile so do what you want.

    The only time I found a profile offensive was when some loser posted "white only" in his profile.

    You are the arbiter of your life and you determine what matters to you. If expressing that you're either a top or a bottom is important to you then be true to yourself and do it.

    If people frown upon something like that then you don't need them in your life anyway.



    Yup. As simple as this...

    SC
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    Jan 15, 2016 11:08 AM GMT
    people are soooo different. I dont see the necessity to group 50% of the men tops, the other half bottoms. I guess the assumption is there has to be a pair of them; whatever.
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    Jan 15, 2016 4:52 PM GMT
    type said
    Radd saidYes, it will without a doubt be a turn off to many people. And on one hand that really shouldn't concern you what other's think. But on the other hand, I have to admit I hate it when guys state their "position" in their profiles, as if they are restricted in some way from performing outside of a particular role. I think "top" and "bottom" are so limiting. And what if you reject the love of your life simply because he posted the wrong position on his profile?


    It does put a limit from meeting, you are right. I m not personality turned off if a guy mentions it. What might stop me from mentioning is maybe the fact that some guys will be turned off rather than seeing it as a simple information..


    Some guys will be turned off by anything. Some guys may be turned if you are out of the closet others will be turned off if you are sexually active. If mentioning you are a top or a bottom is important to you then list it. If it turns someone off they weren't worth your time to begin with.
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    Jan 15, 2016 4:58 PM GMT
    Only if they don't include their own name.

    like, hi i'm bottom.
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    Jan 15, 2016 5:18 PM GMT
    BP201 saidOnly if they don't include their own name.

    like, hi i'm bottom.


    What if their name is bottom. Sometimes these things are evident at birth icon_lol.gif
  • Chainers

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    Jan 15, 2016 5:22 PM GMT
    Despite what other people may believe, it is important information for anything other than a friendship.

    Nothing is worse than spending time with a guy to only find out that you are not sexually compatible. Putting it into your profile is a way to prevent that from happening.
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    Jan 15, 2016 5:28 PM GMT
    pellaz saidpeople are soooo different. I dont see the necessity to group 50% of the men tops, the other half bottoms. I guess the assumption is there has to be a pair of them; whatever.

    Where is this strange land of which you speak where 50% of the men are tops?
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    Jan 15, 2016 5:51 PM GMT
    It's never a bad idea to be upfront about your preferences--life's too short to beat around the bush (double entendre not intended).
  • SpruceX

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    Jan 15, 2016 6:18 PM GMT
    All these sites should have a "position option" which reads "Depends on how the guy turns me on," There's a multitude of factors -- liminal and subliminal -- which affects my "position desire."
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    Jan 15, 2016 6:34 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    Nothing is worse than spending time with a guy to only find out that you are not sexually compatible. Putting it into your profile is a way to prevent that from happening.


    Eh. Technically, all straigt men are tops and all straight women are bottoms so "sexual compatibility" is something you learn through experience... Not from finding out you're both bottoms who apparantly have nothing else sexually riveting to offer... The gheys are just so very picky, they limit themselves and they apply these one way labels to find that "sexually compatible" 1%
    It's pathetic.

    You might as well say you eat ass along with any other kinks if youre willing to tell strangers that you participate in anal sex. The fact that so many gay men think they're subject to anal sex...
  • bro4bro

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    Jan 15, 2016 6:49 PM GMT
    Are you talking about your RJ profile or your Grindr profile?

    Announcing whether you're top, bottom, or vers can send the message that you're here only for sex.

    On Grindr that's the default assumption. On RJ, if that's your goal, you're bound to be disappointed.

    Here's a rule of thumb: if you're looking to make a friend, you probably shouldn't say anything on your profile that you wouldn't say to someone's face upon first meeting him in real life.
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    Jan 15, 2016 7:01 PM GMT
    SpruceX saidAll these sites should have a "position option" which reads "Depends on how the guy turns me on," There's a multitude of factors -- liminal and subliminal -- which affects my "position desire."


    Its called verse
  • Apparition

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    Jan 17, 2016 3:55 AM GMT
    YOu could put it into a story if you are worried about it being a turnoff. If you are versatile it doesnt matter as much but if you are a top or bottom It is of UTMOST importance.

    Something along the lines of the "heartbreak of not being compatible with a boy in a year relationship because you were both tops/bottoms".

    That doesnt sound demandy, or crude, gets the information out there.

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    Personally I think it should be on line ONE of any profile. I would never waste my time dating another top. What would be the point of dating someone you would hate having sex with?
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    Jan 17, 2016 4:30 AM GMT
    Apparition saidYOu could put it into a story if you are worried about it being a turnoff. If you are versatile it doesnt matter as much but if you are a top or bottom It is of UTMOST importance.

    Something along the lines of the "heartbreak of not being compatible with a boy in a year relationship because you were both tops/bottoms".

    That doesnt sound demandy, or crude, gets the information out there.

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    Personally I think it should be on line ONE of any profile. I would never waste my time dating another top. What would be the point of dating someone you would hate having sex with?


    I have a verse friend who has a bad habit of attracting tops. He won't stay faithful to a man who won't give up the ass so it is important to verse dudes.
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    Jan 17, 2016 4:30 AM GMT
    If you're only looking for sex, sure why not?

    But don't be claiming to look for friends, and then casually mention that you're a top/bottom. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 17, 2016 4:32 AM GMT
    xrichx saidIf you're only looking for sex, sure why not?

    But don't be claiming to look for friends, and then casually mention that you're a top/bottom. icon_lol.gif


    The gays can't help themselves. icon_lol.gif