crazycrazydoesdoes saidIf anything, older gay men have the benefit of a bear/daddy culture that makes them sexual beings, as opposed to older straight men who need to be "husband material" or rich in order to find a woman. Older straight men simply don't attract women clubbing at age 40 and acting like they're 20. Gays can get away with that. Occasionally gay men can "date" guys half their age without even having to be generous. That's impossible in the straight world. There's arguably far less "ageism" in the gay community relative to the straight one.
ummm... maybe yes & no. Older straight men are notorious for marrying women less than half their age. I don't know if they managed it clubbing, more likely from encounters at social events. Or sometimes at work, more helpful if they themselves are the boss or own the business. But it often appears they THINK they're in they're 20s again, however it happens, classic midlife crisis of trying to recapture their youth and deny their age.
As for older gays, I don't see too many May-December pairings. A gay who tries to act 20 when he's much above 40 just becomes a laughing stock. And no group can be crueler and more critical than our own venomous-tongued fellow gays. The senior will be mocked as a deluded, gullible old fool, and the junior guy as an opportunistic gold digger, regardless of the reality.
When I was in my 40s and 50s myself, BTW, I did go clubbing. But acting, dressing and representing myself as exactly my age, and looking exclusively for other guys my own age.
Not only did I find them more attractive on more levels than a kid is, but they were pretty much mine for the asking, since few others were asking them. As Benjamin Franklin so aptly observed, in extolling the benefits of dating older women: "They're so very grateful."