Flirting with guys you don't want

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    Jan 17, 2016 8:26 PM GMT
    Have you ever been in such a good mood you wanted to flirt with someone you didn't want? I was just in a store and wanted to flirt with this old broke down looking cashier. He's a nice dude but I'm not interested. I so wanted to walk up to him and say, "how you doin?" I decided not to send a false signal and just joked and laughed with him instead. I was tempted however.
  • Fireworkz

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    Jan 17, 2016 8:31 PM GMT
    Flirting is fun. I wish I did more of it.
    I think innocent flirting is good for people. I'd rather flirt with people I like though.

    I love going to Paris because it seems to be the most flirtatious place in the world.
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    Jan 18, 2016 1:15 AM GMT
    I don't do it. That's called being a tease. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 18, 2016 1:33 AM GMT
    Fireworkz saidFlirting is fun. I wish I did more of it.
    I think innocent flirting is good for people. I'd rather flirt with people I like though.

    I love going to Paris because it seems to be the most flirtatious place in the world.


    I use to do it all the time in Florida. I've clammed up a bit in Houston. The idea of a gay man flirting with a straight guy isn't as welcome here.
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    Jan 18, 2016 1:34 AM GMT
    xrichx saidI don't do it. That's called being a tease. icon_lol.gif


    Sir are you saying that if he rapes me I deserve it icon_sad.gif I must him know, like a squid I tend to paint when threatened.
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    Jan 18, 2016 4:11 AM GMT
    Isn't that how you get "tips?"
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    Jan 18, 2016 4:43 AM GMT
    mindgarden saidIsn't that how you get "tips?"


    No, it is unethical and unprofessional. How can I expect a man to respect me as a professional idiom flirting with him while providing body work. Also my straight clients trust me not to cross that boundary. I honor and respect that trust.
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    Jan 18, 2016 4:58 AM GMT
    Never. That would be cruel.
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    Jan 18, 2016 5:09 AM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    mindgarden saidIsn't that how you get "tips?"


    No, it is unethical and unprofessional. How can I expect a man to respect me as a professional idiom flirting with him while providing body work. Also my straight clients trust me not to cross that boundary. I honor and respect that trust.


    I didn't mean "you" you. I meant service industry in general. Maybe that's why I never get tips.
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    Jan 18, 2016 5:50 AM GMT
    Radd saidNever. That would be cruel.


    I've had guys flirt with me who I know did not want me. Some guys are just flirts and some just love the attention. That's what I loved about home. Flirting wasn't this big thing. It was just fun.
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    Jan 18, 2016 5:51 AM GMT
    mindgarden said
    MrFuscle said
    mindgarden saidIsn't that how you get "tips?"


    No, it is unethical and unprofessional. How can I expect a man to respect me as a professional idiom flirting with him while providing body work. Also my straight clients trust me not to cross that boundary. I honor and respect that trust.


    I didn't mean "you" you. I meant service industry in general. Maybe that's why I never get tips.


    I think you can be nice without flirting. Treat people like a family member you like. Unless you flirt with grandma lol.
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    Jan 18, 2016 5:55 AM GMT
    My Grandma always gave huge tips to guys who flirted with her. Especially when she got carded.

    (Well, "huge," considering that she grew up when a quarter was a big tip.).
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    Jan 18, 2016 2:23 PM GMT
    Minor flirting is OK, but flirting to the point of giving someone blue balls and not delivering isn't OK. I've always thought that chronic flirting is a sign of low self-esteem and a need for validation.
  • rocketfish229

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    Jan 18, 2016 4:51 PM GMT
    I do it all the time because I'm bored and no one in my town is cute lol
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    Jan 18, 2016 5:30 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidMy Grandma always gave huge tips to guys who flirted with her. Especially when she got carded.

    (Well, "huge," considering that she grew up when a quarter was a big tip.).


    Yeah older women love being told they look younger than they are. It boost their self esteem in a world where the worst thing a woman can do is age.

  • Jan 19, 2016 1:00 AM GMT
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    lol Nothing wrong with being friendly...but being a deliberate tease is something else. There is a line IMHO.

  • Unnamed6

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    Jan 19, 2016 1:22 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    StrangerinParadise said
    lol Nothing wrong with being friendly...but being a deliberate tease is something else. There is a line IMHO.



    I find, more often than not, that people stupidly mistake my being polite as a way of flirting. It's really annoying when they make it evident that they're put off by it. In nearly every instance these are people I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole. And, of course, when women start rolling their eyes and more than likely assuming I'm trying to get in their panties...

    I be awl like:

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    It's actually sycophany that you would be guilty of, which would be an egregious sin in my book. Dante saw it as worse than murder. You remain one of the few remaining sycophants on this website, but like I said, I'll treat you no different than how I would treat anyone here.
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    Jan 19, 2016 1:31 AM GMT
    xrichx saidThat's called being a tease.
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    Jan 19, 2016 1:56 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    StrangerinParadise said
    lol Nothing wrong with being friendly...but being a deliberate tease is something else. There is a line IMHO.



    I find, more often than not, that people stupidly mistake my being polite as a way of flirting. It's really annoying when they make it evident that they're put off by it. In nearly every instance these are people I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole. And, of course, when women start rolling their eyes and more than likely assuming I'm trying to get in their panties...

    I be awl like:

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    I have know idea why anyone would be put off by you flirting with them. Then again people take things too seriously sometimes.
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    Jan 19, 2016 2:37 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    MrFuscle said

    I have know idea why anyone would be put off by you flirting with them. Then again people take things too seriously sometimes.


    It tends to happen mostly at the gym. There are times when I have to ask people how much longer they're going to be using some equipment. My only conclusion is that people might be thinking that I'm looking for an excuse to talk to them. I try to be pleasant and smile when I interact at the gym. Who knows?

    But I can tell when women think I'm flirting with them more easily. If they're very attractive, wearing gobs of makeup, wearing those skin tight outfits like only some floozy would they must think some bald headed tattooed man is gonna try and "get some." And they're just shooting me down with condescending eye rolls to make it clear I have no chance. Naturally, I'm laughing inside because these women are assuming I'm straight.

    IO get t
    he gym thing. This happens a lot if i give my card to unattractive black guys. They get so confused like I just offered to suck there dick.

    Those women would instantly get salty if they found out you were gay and found them completely unattractive. I know the type you are talking about.
  • Unnamed6

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    Jan 19, 2016 2:54 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Unnamed6 said

    It's actually sycophany that you would be guilty of, which would be an egregious sin in my book. Dante saw it as worse than murder. You remain one of the few remaining sycophants on this website, but like I said, I'll treat you no different than how I would treat anyone here.


    That would be sycophan"c"y with a "c."

    I'm on the fence as to whether I should write you off as loquaciously pretentious OR....pretentiously loquacious. Or perhaps, insufferably too much of both.

    But before I forget:

    Allow me to express my sincerest gratitude for assuring me that you'll treat me equally as everyone else as you sloppily an poorly attempt to paint me as someone worst than a murderer.

    Untamed6, you always did have flair for hubristic garrulousness.

    You're the best...!



    Whatever it is, but thanks for the correction, I meant a noun that specifies that a person says insincere nice things to another person in order to gain an advantage over them. And as I've stated before you are almost shameless in your sycophancy. Many ancient religious texts, including The Bible treated the origin of evil, in this case crimes like murder to conscious immorality.
  • Unnamed6

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    Jan 19, 2016 3:02 AM GMT
    Before Osama Bin Laden justified his terrorism on religious, practical and philosophical pretexts (or is it pretenses?), which I think no one really took the time to understand, in reviewing as much as I can about why things like 9/11 happened, I think such things really amount to as revenge. We essentially betrayed the mujaheddin in Afghanistan, abandoned them and left them for dead. And how can I say this, the feelings left in a person after using them in this way, may not be that pleasant... Bin Laden failed in the communication department, but if he described his terrorist activities as amounting to his wrath, I think some of those who he victimizes may feel a level of sympathy and accept the occasional spill of blood as a way to atone for mistakes and the sins they make. The same way in which people atone to God if something bad happens...

    But perhaps that explains Bin Laden's own motivations to recruit terrorists, but like the CIA, he appeals to the most disaffected and vulnerable for recruits. I think the largest number of recruits for Al Quaeda had been orphans. See all this taking advantage of people's vulnerabilities, using them, building their trust, lying to them, repeating the cycle to other people, eventually has murderous implications.
  • Unnamed6

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    Jan 19, 2016 3:07 AM GMT
    But that's just one way to look at things when it comes to terrorism, and I can very much consider any number of theoretical or practical reasons for terrorism, but a simple moral understanding of what we do to others may be sufficient at understanding some of the reactions of people that want to kill you or others.
  • Unnamed6

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    Jan 19, 2016 3:41 AM GMT
    MrFuscle saidHave you ever been in such a good mood you wanted to flirt with someone you didn't want? I was just in a store and wanted to flirt with this old broke down looking cashier. He's a nice dude but I'm not interested. I so wanted to walk up to him and say, "how you doin?" I decided not to send a false signal and just joked and laughed with him instead. I was tempted however.


    If you want short term thrills, and have someone falsely think you're a good person, proceed with whatever you want to do, but this is an action, and not what MuchMoreThanMuscle has called "harmless flirting" as what he often does and what you intend to do is to lead someone on, and you will essentially lose whatever respect you might have had with a person like me and don't be surprise if the person you are leading on reacts in a negative way eventually.
  • badbug

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    Jan 19, 2016 4:52 AM GMT

    I think organised religion is stupid and believing in anything written in the bible as coming from above is borderline insanity.

    That being said,

    If you do take that shit seriously, Bin Laden or Isis have an equally intellectually honest reading of their religion. It says to kill infidels, it's pretty fucking clear about that. You can argue it says peace is good, but do you just ignore the part about killing infidels?

    If you got an instruction book from Ikea, and page after page was telling you the most glorious thing to do was use a hammer.....would you just ignore that? "they don't really mean use a hammer"

    i think it's only logical, to

    A) use a hammer
    or B) assume whoever wrote the instructions is an idiot

    And seeing how B) is the clear choice in that equation, doing bat shit crazy things is equally as bat shit crazy as thinking you can pick and choose which passage to follow and which to ignore.


    That's the sycophancy here.....all rational people, that let otherwise rational people get away with sticking to these beliefs, these iron age fantasies, without calling them on it...... it leads to shit like this, shit like denying science, because it allows the superstitious mind a sort of equality with the rational one.

    Science does not have all the answers....but it does have a decent method of searching for them. Science begins with the premise, "i don't know but lets find out"

    Religion begins with the premise " i am pretty sure i already know, anything that gets in the way of that, lets struggle to fit it in somehow"