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    Jan 17, 2016 10:28 PM GMT
    I have a very loving and supportive boyfriend, who I cheat on. I don't feel good about it but I can't seem to stop it. Just this morning I sucked a guy off, who i wasn't attracted to and instantly felt regreat about doing. I believe I am doing it to feel validated or to "know" that other guys find me attractive. It's something I really want to stop doing, and am sure i'm not the only one inn this situation.

    What i am hoping for is someone to email regularly with updates on what we're doing, how we're feeling and to be annonomously supportive. I imagine that having someone to explore our feelings with could help change behaviours and make us all happier.

    Anyone interested in trying to change some bad habits in 2016?
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    Jan 17, 2016 11:55 PM GMT
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    Jan 18, 2016 10:20 PM GMT
    Sounds to me like you're just wanting to hookup with other guys.

    If you have ability to separate sex from love (as it should be) then you need a boyfriend who understands and doesn't consider it as cheating. Apparently you're with the wrong guy if you feel guilty for getting laid.
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    Jan 18, 2016 11:04 PM GMT
    Maybe you're just not as attracted to your bf and you think you are. Maybe you're just infatuated with the fantasy of having a bf and relationship.
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    Jan 19, 2016 10:34 PM GMT
    beachbro saidAnyone interested in trying to change some bad habits in 2016?


    Even your request is unbalanced and selfish. I'm not going to say that it's entirely your fault; who knows how you were raised?

    But like your relationship with your boyfriend, which sounds pretty one way on the give-take spectrum, you're asking for a sponsor/friend/therapist for--basically--free.

    Now, there are people out there who can help you, for real. Real sponsors. Real friends. Real therapists. Every one of them will ask you to give up something in return as collateral on your request, be it housework, polyamory, or cash. If they don't ask for payment of some sort from you they are not an honest or capable sponsor.

    So ask again, but make your request mean something by offering real collateral.
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    Jan 20, 2016 11:35 PM GMT
    beachbro saidI have a very loving and supportive boyfriend, who I cheat on. I don't feel good about it but I can't seem to stop it. Just this morning I sucked a guy off, who i wasn't attracted to and instantly felt regreat about doing. I believe I am doing it to feel validated or to "know" that other guys find me attractive. It's something I really want to stop doing, and am sure i'm not the only one inn this situation.

    What i am hoping for is someone to email regularly with updates on what we're doing, how we're feeling and to be annonomously supportive. I imagine that having someone to explore our feelings with could help change behaviours and make us all happier.

    Anyone interested in trying to change some bad habits in 2016?



    You need a real therapist. Sexual addiction (not a true addiction but a compulsion) is rampant in the gay community, but it is treatable. But you're not going to get treated by emailing strangers.
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    Feb 18, 2016 8:15 PM GMT
    Justme99 said
    Radd said
    beachbro saidI have a very loving and supportive boyfriend, who I cheat on. I don't feel good about it but I can't seem to stop it. Just this morning I sucked a guy off, who i wasn't attracted to and instantly felt regreat about doing. I believe I am doing it to feel validated or to "know" that other guys find me attractive. It's something I really want to stop doing, and am sure i'm not the only one inn this situation.

    What i am hoping for is someone to email regularly with updates on what we're doing, how we're feeling and to be annonomously supportive. I imagine that having someone to explore our feelings with could help change behaviours and make us all happier.

    Anyone interested in trying to change some bad habits in 2016?



    You need a real therapist. Sexual addiction (not a true addiction but a compulsion) is rampant in the gay community, but it is treatable. But you're not going to get treated by emailing strangers.


    Radd,

    You're right that the OP needs to seek professional treatment from a licensed therapist. As of right now, Sexual Addiction is NOT classified as a mental disorder. The debate continues on whether or not it's really an addiction.

    I have my Master's degree in Psychology, so I know about mental health.



    My post made that very clear that it is not a true addiction. Please reread. And you may have a degree but you're also one of the biggest trolls here so a degree apparently does not make you an emotionally healthy person.