Do you feel better about yourself in or out of the gym?

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    Jan 18, 2016 8:35 PM GMT
    So I just left the gym and noticed something. While in the gym I didn't feel as good about myself. I'm loosing weight 3 pounds last week, 28 since mid December. With so many people looking so much better than me I didn't feel proud. I felt how long I have to go 88lbs. I felt my lack of muscles. I felt less than. I have so many things going for myself that these thoughts were not enough to ruin my mood. I cannot deny that they were there.

    After leaving I walked past a restaurant with dark tinted windows. I looked in and liked what I saw. I'm kind of shocked about how a change in environment can have such a huge impact on my thoughts. It made me think about the fact that I like what I see in the mirror when I'm naked at home. I'm a sexy fem beast. Nice dark Carmel skin accented by colorful tattoos. A beautiful white smile, almond eyes. I never really gave much thought before to the power of my environment.
  • Noeton

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    Jan 19, 2016 5:14 AM GMT
    Being in the gym itself is something to be proud of. Don't worry about not looking like some other people in the gym. If the the fit ones are not psychopaths, they will admire you for your effort. If they are psychopaths, that's their problem. I'm always happy to see a beginner making an effort. But what irks me is overweight people on the abs machine -- it's wasted effort until body fat is lower! Just be proud of yourself for making an effort and keep it up! Sounds like you've made terrific progress with weight loss! Good going! Be a manly man and go gain that muscle!

    By the way, since you are overweight, your body already has enough muscle under the fat to carry around, as you say, 88 excess pounds of fat, all the time. That's significant muscle. Remember to keep lifting weights as you lose fat in order to maintain your existing muscle. You'll be ahead of the game once you get lean.
  • 24hourguy

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    Jan 19, 2016 4:06 PM GMT
    work out at home
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 19, 2016 4:12 PM GMT
    I feel good about myself both in and out of the gym. I feel I look great when I'm there and like how I look when out of the gym. The issue arises when I'm out of the gym and have missed GOING to the gym. Then I definitely feel a bit more challenged.

    The reality is, as much as I exercise, missing can actually be helpful, giving working muscles some additional time to recoup. Always important to remember.

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    Jan 19, 2016 4:45 PM GMT
    24hourguy saidwork out at home


    Why would I do that?
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    Jan 19, 2016 4:47 PM GMT
    I feel I look my best body-wise immediately after the gym (pumped) or first thing in the morning - look leaner first thing than any other time.
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    Jan 19, 2016 4:48 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI feel good about myself both in and out of the gym. I feel I look great when I'm there and like how I look when out of the gym. The issue arises when I'm out of the gym and have missed GOING to the gym. Then I definitely feel a bit more challenged.

    The reality is, as much as I exercise, missing can actually be helpful, giving working muscles some additional time to recoup. Always important to remember.

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    I have a lot of clients who feel bad about there bodies when they can't get to the gym. I think having a schedule has a powerful affect o the mind we don't always fully appreciate.
  • Hugh_Jass

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    Jan 19, 2016 10:52 PM GMT
    Most days I always feel a lot better when I'm at the gym.

    Unless....
    When I spend more than 90 mins in the gym, cause everyone asking me questions based on the clothes I'm wearing (which I wear sweatpants and shirts now instead of tank tops)

    But don't trip off of other people physique. More likely, somebody looking at you the same way you looking at other people tooicon_wink.gif. Personally, looking at people physique is inspirational and all, but at the end of the day you gotta be stronger than yesterday for yourself.
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    Jan 20, 2016 2:44 PM GMT
    You mentioned liking your reflection when passing dark tinted windows, and I know what you mean. There are some dark windows I pass by near where I live and I look sensational when I walk by those. Conversely, some of the lighting at my gym is so industrial - so harsh - that I look like Hell in there. So I try not to look too hard at myself in that place.

    All in all, I am in the gym 3 times weekly (all these years since college) and without exception, I feel really good when I'm coming out of there. I feel the pump, the burn, and the mental 'high' of knowing I busted my ass with a great work out. I can pass by mirrors or reflecting windows wherever I go and feel good that I'm holding up very well as the years pile on.
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    Jan 21, 2016 3:29 AM GMT
    There's a good number of jacked guys at my gym who I don't measure up to. They're partly the reason I'm there.

    In my home mirrors I look great. They're part of my delusion.

    At the gym I can clearly see areas of my body that don't measure up to the big guys. So I push harder.

    Think of your mirrors as part of your journey, not your destination.
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    Jan 22, 2016 9:52 AM GMT
    For me, feeling better and stronger is the motivating factor. Of course looking good is up there as well.

    I get little to no support or words of encouragement at home or work. But, the gym is a different story. Quite a few gym members on my same workout schedule tell me that they can see a difference over the last year. That extra bit of encouragement definitely makes me feel better at the gym than at home.

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    Jan 31, 2016 3:16 AM GMT
    Hugh_Jass saidMost days I always feel a lot better when I'm at the gym.

    Unless....
    When I spend more than 90 mins in the gym, cause everyone asking me questions based on the clothes I'm wearing (which I wear sweatpants and shirts now instead of tank tops)

    But don't trip off of other people physique. More likely, somebody looking at you the same way you looking at other people tooicon_wink.gif. Personally, looking at people physique is inspirational and all, but at the end of the day you gotta be stronger than yesterday for yourself.


    I didn't mean to imply that seeing buff guys was the reason I felt bad. Part of the reason I don't feel great in the gym is because I injured my back over a year ago and put in 50 pounds. I've lost 30 of them but looking at the other hot guys its like "if only you hadn't fucked up that guy would give a fuck about you lol." Once I left the gym those thoughts of not being good enough left. The gyms I've been to in Houston are the least encouraging gyms I've ever been to. I don't think anyone notices how hard I've worked. Jesus Fuck Crust! I've busted my as and then some. The funny part is my ex friend claims to hate going to the gym because guys are always cheering him on and he says it distracts him. Its funny because I decided never to workout because I always had a sneaking suspicion his attitude would hold me back. I mean who gets mad that people around them are happy for them and cheering them on. I want in on that lol.
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    Jan 31, 2016 3:59 AM GMT
    I feel about the same everywhere because at the gym or even at work-- there's always someone fitter than me, and always someone fatter. I know it isn't a race, but that doesn't mean I don't feel pressure. I kinda think thats what we're all admitting here.
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    Jan 31, 2016 7:59 AM GMT
    A good life lesson from a college motivational speaker that I live by, is to never compare or compete with someone else's success, but rather to challenge, test and compete with only YOUR-SELF. Use the fit guys as motivation if anything, and remember they all had their beginners days, you should be happy for them. They are living proof that all that hard work pays off and you have the ability as well.

    It's a given that the gym works wonders for our mental and physical health and self esteem, so gradually I've grown to be very happy and content with being in the gym, and outside of it. Learn as much about fitness as you possibly can and you'll feel more confident to just focus on yourself and you will succeed at making a better you.

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    Mar 02, 2016 10:08 PM GMT
    I feel better both in and outside of the gym. After thirty years of trying to get fit, stay and maintain fitness, I've learned a few things about the gym. Mostly, that all of the effort I put into my training will pay me back in energy, stamina, discipline, posture, and self confidence; so I have to find my own motivations for sticking with training. Also, it's good to take short breaks away from the gym, but set a time away, and set a time to get back, you don't want to lose your hard earned muscle mass. Also, it's good to establish goals, like a pool party, parking lot party at your favorite bar, leather week in Palm Springs, look and feel your best, keep it going. And last but most important, regular training, following a healthy diet will keep you out of the doctor's office, and you will look better than most guys who do not exercise regularly. Also, don't forget the cardio, that too makes a huge difference.
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    Mar 05, 2016 4:17 AM GMT
    In the gym. I wish I could take that lighting home with me. Well, from the neck down, anyway.
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    Jun 16, 2016 4:54 AM GMT
    My gym is brimming with hot, young professionals, and many are gay. It's a mixed bag of emotions for me. I feel OK there most days but I wish I was better at talking to strangers. I know basically no one there in 2 years :/

    eagermuscle saidIn the gym. I wish I could take that lighting home with me. Well, from the neck down, anyway.


    LOL. I joke that I'd like to have my home bathroom lighting following me around.
  • Svnw688

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    Jun 21, 2016 11:20 PM GMT
    I'm going to convert 'gym' to 'ballet studio' because that's the physical activity I regularly perform.

    I feel better in the gym/ballet studio. Even though there are guys and girls there who are more fit, strong, and/or better at dancing (technique), I don't judge myself against them so much as I aspire to imitate and to be like them. They literally embody a goal as opposed to a threat or enemy.

  • Jul 03, 2016 11:50 AM GMT
    The only way I can go to gym and not lose my mind is by not playing the comparison game with those around me. It's a game you will always lose. Comparing myself to others really plays on my insecurities. Insecurity is an interesting beast, the more you feed it, the hungrier it gets.

    I don't use others as a benchmark for what I'm supposed to look like. I use the scale, the fit of my clothes, my endurance improvement in cardio and increase in strength with weights and how hard I have worked to achieve it. I compare me to myself of a week ago or a month ago.

    We all had to start somewhere, and so do you. We are all reading from the same book, those people you see at the gym are just on a different chapter. You just got to keep on flipping the pages cos the story gets bettericon_biggrin.gif

    Feeling good about your achievements in gym can spill to other parts of your life. Once you've got your confidence locked in and you know who you are and what you can do, the environments can change but your mood won't because you have a strong sense of self.