My faith plays a large role in who I associate with. I don't want, or have any conflict with my friends/family, so I wouldn't invite anyone who'd cause such in my life. I'm not going to date, or even befriend anyone who thinks I'm stupid, crazy, evil, ect, for being Christian. If the person isn't a Christian, and or was an atheist, and wants to learn about my faith, or just accepts, and respects me, my values/faith that's all well and good, because Jesus never turned anyone away, no matter what walk of life they came from, especially if they were seeking god's love and all. However ultimately, I'm not going to disrespect my values, or who I am, to accept anyone into my life, who has no respect for my values, or faith.
My faith has always been more to me, than something to "cling to" when times were rough. I believe the teachings of my faith, is a large part of why my family, especially my father, brothers, and sons, are the good people they are, and by no means do we think we're perfect. Everyone makes mistakes because man is not perfect and god knows this. You live your life the best you can, and try to follow the teachings and all, and when you make a mistake you ask god for forgiveness and he will, since he's all about the love, and forgiveness. God doesn't reject anyone, unless they reject him, and have ill will to those who have love for him.
Though you do respect the position, and even seek guidance from those who are head in your house of worship. Their position doesn't always mean that they know god better than anyone else, or are without fault. Only god knows a man's heart, and soul, and only god can judge a man's heart and soul, any other man who tries to do so, and condemn that man, does not know anything about god period, and I don't care what position in the church they are. There are a lot of people who misinterpret the bible, present the faith in a wrong way, or sometimes even use the faith to justify the evil they do to others, or use it to make others feel guilt, shame, or fear for their imperfections, because they themselves full of them, and sin like mad, they of course are hypocrites, who know nothing of god, and will no doubt be punished by god, because they punish/condemn others, to make themselves feel better.
I was raised pretty traditionally, and raise my sons the same. I grew up knowing that there was nothing wrong, or abnormal for two men to have a strong love/bond with each other. I've seen such relationships between men in my mythology books, my warrior culture books, and even in the bible with David, and Johnathan who clearly had that very same relationship. If it were wrong in the eyes of god, no doubt would he have destroyed them instantly, but certainly would have never blessed David enough to allow him to become a king. The bible says man shouldn't lay with man as he would a woman. Which basically means man shouldn't treat a man, as he would treat a woman, a man shouldn't seek another man to treat him as a woman. This is also what ancient cultures before Jesus was even around believed, for a few reasons.
Though many believe that the Greeks were all well and fine with men running around penetrating other men, or boys, they were not. To some Greek men, it was viewed as a right of passage, and MOST of the time the whole practice was done between father, and son (which is just gross). Those who did practice this, believed it wasn't to be done after the man boy reached a certain age, however there were men who continued to do so, and they were frowned upon, because the man doing the act, was seen as feminizing the boy, or man. The man having it done to him, was then no longer seen as a man, as he let another man treat him as a woman. The soldiers, fighters, and warriors viewed the role of being penetrated as the woman's role, and while these warriors, soldiers, and fighters would have male lovers, the relationship was not for, or about sex, it was always about the whole strong bond, and love they shared as warriors, and equals.
If stuff got all hot and heavy between them, basically both men wanting sex, and they were out on the battlefield away from home, away from women, the two of them would do their whole little frot thing, which in a lot of Greek pictures/art concerning that stuff, you see them more engaged in that position with another man, and never really the positions a man would be in with another man, to do anal sex with him. Part of the other reason men did this with each other were because they always wanted their women to be virgins, and well chances are, your not getting a virgin when you marry, if all the guys were running about boinking every girl, which did happen yes, but it just was something not favored.
The Spartans always made fun of the Athenians for allowing the whole penetrating practice to go on between men, or men and boys, and they believed it made them weak, the whole feminizing another man. The Persians actually tried to use that against the Greeks, believing that they would make the young men, not so interested in fighting, being that they'd all be feminized, and of course easily conquered. So basically what the bible is saying with that is, its abnormal for men to wish other men to treat them as women, and for men to treat other men as women, being that men are not women,he wouldn't have created woman, if men were to be treated as such, and I personally find it degrading for men to treat other men as a woman, and by no means do I view women as second class citizens. A good woman should always be honored, and respected, and taken care of, but they are the fairer sex, and not made as men, and shouldn't be treated as men, and the other way around.
This wasn't just with the Athenians/Spartans (Greek/Roman), but also with Japanese warrior culture, the Celtics, Arabs, African tribes, Native Americans, and even the Vikings (though they were much harsh with it ha)
So in other words, though my best friend and I, who have been through a lot together, share the whole strong love/bond with each other and all, I'm never going to have him in my bed, with my ding dong in him, in any kind of way, and he won't have me in that way either, I'm not a woman, he's not a woman, and our anuses are not vaginas so that's a no no. I'll kiss, hug, hold, cuddle, tell him I love him, not caring who is around, but his penis is not going in my mouth, or up in me bum, nor mine his, and we're not marrying each other.
A lot of people think god destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah, because the men were having anal sex with each other. No, it was way more than that, but some people try to make it a whole gay issue, when it is not. What was going on in these two cities would have made Vegas, look like Disney Land ha. Men, women,and children were being raped, people would steal from each other, lust after each other, murder each other, most of all those who lived in the city, and loved, and cared for god were either corrupted, or killed, so he put an end to it by destroying both cities. It would be pretty hard for people today to imagine living in a city, where your neighbors down the block wanted to come up in your home, rape you, your wife, or your kid, and or kill you, it was an everyday thing back then. When the angels came to visit Lot and his family to tell em, they had to get up out of there, he had tons of people banging on his door wanting him to bring the two men out, so that they could "know them better" so I'm sure it was just a horrible place to be, if you were a good person.
God doesn't have hate in his heart for anyone, he's like a father, and we're his children, If my sons do something bad, of course I'm going to be hurt, and or displeased with them, but I'm not going to hate them, and I'm not going to want to destroy them. But if they completely reject me, and have no love for me, and hurt the things I love, then I'd have to reject them.