Gay doctor

  • interestingch...

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    Jan 21, 2016 7:57 PM GMT
    Does anyone know of any gay GP's or hospital dr's in the UK?
    also does anybody have a gay dr, what are their experiences and do they prefer it?
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    Jan 21, 2016 8:20 PM GMT
    My primary care physician is gay and he's been my doctor for the past decade and a 1/2. I can talk to him about anything and feel comfortable about it.
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    Jan 21, 2016 8:24 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidMy primary care physician is gay and he's been my doctor for the past decade and a 1/2. I can talk to him about anything and feel comfortable about it.


    I have never had that option so obviously keep quiet about it which makes being honest about your life a little difficult, must be nice to have that support behind you if you need it. Also there is the dignity thing in the fact if you have to get your manhood out or whatever, he wouldn't mind, straight dr's still seem uncomfortable about that kind of thing even though they pretend not to be,
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    Jan 21, 2016 8:30 PM GMT
    I would really like a gay male doctor (I did have a gay female doc for a short time). My doctor is amazing though, and knows everything about me and doesn't care at all; he has even joked with me a few times. He is retiring this year and I will need to fine a new one. There are just things would be nice to discuss that are award sometimes.

    Best of luck finding one!
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    Jan 21, 2016 9:03 PM GMT
    headghasket42 saidI would really like a gay male doctor (I did have a gay female doc for a short time). My doctor is amazing though, and knows everything about me and doesn't care at all; he has even joked with me a few times. He is retiring this year and I will need to fine a new one. There are just things would be nice to discuss that are award sometimes.

    Best of luck finding one!


    i think it maybe a lost cause, its not that anything is wrong but it would be nice to discuss things that you can't with a straight one, i'm sure you know what I mean.
    Hopefully if I do he isn't too hot, that could be embarrassing if I had an involuntary reaction LOL, not sure I could handle the embarrassment but would, I guess be more accepted being a gay guy rather than a straight dr
  • Fireworkz

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    Jan 21, 2016 9:49 PM GMT
    I do know one but surely you would have to live in his catchment area?
    I think you need a private doctor as then they are not restricted by geography.
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    Jan 21, 2016 9:52 PM GMT
    Fireworkz saidI do know one but surely you would have to live in his catchment area?
    I think you need a private doctor as then they are not restricted by geography.


    Yeh I know but they might make exceptions for that reason, I know it would mean registering with them. Where is that?
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    Jan 22, 2016 12:25 AM GMT
    I had a gay doctor until recently but had to change doctors because I changed my insurance provider. This time around I decided I didn't care if my new doctor is gay, so long as he's a runner. I have my first annual physical exam with the new doctor in a couple of weeks from now.
  • mystery905

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    Jan 22, 2016 12:52 AM GMT
    That's my fantasy to have a gay doctor 'examine' me icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 22, 2016 12:57 AM GMT
    duluthrunner saidI had a gay doctor until recently but had to change doctors because I changed my insurance provider. This time around I decided I didn't care if my new doctor is gay, so long as he's a runner. I have my first annual physical exam with the new doctor in a couple of weeks from now.


    We have a different system in the UK, I have been to the same GP surgery since I was born, we don't pay and you have to see one within your catchment area although being a public service hopefully they maybe flexible, hope your exam goes well, I want to have a complete health check as I met middle age now. Damn it haha
  • badbug

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    Jan 22, 2016 1:55 AM GMT

    I've never had a gay doctor, but a married straight much older doctor was making way too many sexual innuendos towards me. At first it was funny, then very much creepy. He talked about my balls far too much for my taste. And no, he wasn't hot of course.


    I also had a really attractive female doctor, i am bisexual, and that wasn't too fun. I was at an age when i was just used to every doctor/dentist just being older than me and suddenly this really hot girl comes in the room who is younger than me. It a) made me feel old b) wasn't fun cause i was there that first visit talking about stomach issues. Like yes pretty girl i just met, let me tell you all about my runny shits. icon_mad.gif

  • eM_Jay

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    Jan 22, 2016 8:51 AM GMT
    Do doctors generally have to declare their sexual orientation publicly or am i missing something? How about just find a doctor cause, oh i dunno, they're a medical professional? icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 22, 2016 12:49 PM GMT
    I have a straight male GP. When I interviewed him to be my GP I asked him directly about gay issues and his feeling about treating a gay man....Turned out he was a regular volunteer Dr at various HIV clinics, as well as Team Doctor for a number of College and HS teams as well as for the various ballet and performing arts groups...He was more comfortable with "gay issues" than I was! He even asked me some pery personal questions and gave me suggestions for safer and better sex, ....He is about 10 years younger than me and he truly understands and "gets it"....I think it is a bit hypocritical to demand a Dr be gay to understand a gay man and gay sex.....For all of the talk about "Obamacare" it is still the consumer that is responsible for getting the Doctor that you like as your GP..... and there are some GREAT STRAIGHT doctors out there..and I am sure some REALLY bad gay ones too. Homework...interview, resume and references....its your right.
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    Jan 22, 2016 3:04 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    eM_Jay saidDo doctors generally have to declare their sexual orientation publicly or am i missing something? How about just find a doctor cause, oh i dunno, they're a medical professional? icon_confused.gif


    This is a very naive thing to say. And a HUGE "YES." You are missing something.

    It's not about medical professionals declaring their sexuality. It's about having more in common with your medical provider so that your professional relationship won't suffer because of the strong possibility of having to deal with a homophobic physician. Of course, not all straight physicians are awkward or disapproving. I, in fact, have a female straight physician and I just happened to luck up by finding her when I moved to a new state. She treats me like gold but not because I'm special. She's just an exceptional human being and a super star professional.

    I've had straight physicians in the past and I've had gay ones. I've only had one gay physician that I didn't like but I've had tons of straight doctors who were very insensitive to my needs as a gay man. And many of them were ignorant on matters that mattered to me and my health (as a gay man).


    If for whatever reason you feel uncomfortable with your doctor or anyone treating you then guess what, there are PLENTY of others who you're free to consult. Anyone who will not give you a full and thorough breakdown and help for whatever you got because they're homophobic (or any other thing they may dislike about you) is unprofessional in the first place and you can report that individual to your local healthcare board or authority. You can even sue or just walk away and find another healthcare provider if you like. As for thinking your doc will 'have more in common' with you because you're both gay, that seems like the more naive thing to me. Any real doctor will be able to treat you whether he or you are gay or not. Sorry to break this to you but you don't have 'special needs' just because you're gay; you're flu is still the same as everyone else's.

    Anyway, point is, regardless of orientation there's nothing that stands in the way of being treated by a professional, whatever they're own orientation may be. If there's something you don't wanna tell the nurse because you're afraid they'll judge you then either you buck up and grow a pair or you find medical pro's that are professional and will cure your cold or whatever regardless of who you banged last night. Simple.
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    Jan 25, 2016 4:44 AM GMT
    I've got a gay doc, and before him I had another one (in my former state). It is good having a gay doc, because you can just tell him anything without changing the pronouns. My doc is up to speed on gay issues and is a great guy - around 40, I'm guessing. I've even had gay dentists. Nice when they rest their hand on your thigh, while they work.......
  • eM_Jay

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    Jan 26, 2016 11:06 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    eM_Jay said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    eM_Jay saidDo doctors generally have to declare their sexual orientation publicly or am i missing something? How about just find a doctor cause, oh i dunno, they're a medical professional? icon_confused.gif


    This is a very naive thing to say. And a HUGE "YES." You are missing something.

    It's not about medical professionals declaring their sexuality. It's about having more in common with your medical provider so that your professional relationship won't suffer because of the strong possibility of having to deal with a homophobic physician. Of course, not all straight physicians are awkward or disapproving. I, in fact, have a female straight physician and I just happened to luck up by finding her when I moved to a new state. She treats me like gold but not because I'm special. She's just an exceptional human being and a super star professional.

    I've had straight physicians in the past and I've had gay ones. I've only had one gay physician that I didn't like but I've had tons of straight doctors who were very insensitive to my needs as a gay man. And many of them were ignorant on matters that mattered to me and my health (as a gay man).


    If for whatever reason you feel uncomfortable with your doctor or anyone treating you then guess what, there are PLENTY of others who you're free to consult. Anyone who will not give you a full and thorough breakdown and help for whatever you got because they're homophobic (or any other thing they may dislike about you) is unprofessional in the first place and you can report that individual to your local healthcare board or authority. You can even sue or just walk away and find another healthcare provider if you like. As for thinking your doc will 'have more in common' with you because you're both gay, that seems like the more naive thing to me. Any real doctor will be able to treat you whether he or you are gay or not. Sorry to break this to you but you don't have 'special needs' just because you're gay; you're flu is still the same as everyone else's.

    Anyway, point is, regardless of orientation there's nothing that stands in the way of being treated by a professional, whatever they're own orientation may be. If there's something you don't wanna tell the nurse because you're afraid they'll judge you then either you buck up and grow a pair or you find medical pro's that are professional and will cure your cold or whatever regardless of who you banged last night. Simple.


    No, it's not simple. Medical care is intimate and very personal. You're only twenty-three years old. I've been seeing physicians as an adult throughout my adulthood longer than you've been on this planet. It's quite naive on your part to presume that a 'professional' is going to treat others with dignity and respect; something you've clearly demonstrated here that you have absolutely no comprehension of given your abundance of snide remarks.

    There are tons of women out there that have a strong preference in seeing a female versus a male gynecologist. Although it's not the exact same thing it's a very similar dynamic. Anyone with half a brain and real world experience can easily comprehend that.


    Whatever man, you're entitled to your 'wise' opinion. I would've hoped you produce some good support and arguments for your position rather than pulling out age as if it makes you the authority on all things in existence; but to each their own. I might be twenty three, maybe even egoistic and 'naive'; that's cool, i wont pretend im perfect. I still hope by the time im older my only defense on what i have to say and why i say it is not "im older and you're stupid so shut up or agree with me". Peace.
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    Jan 27, 2016 2:27 AM GMT
    interestingchap saidDoes anyone know of any gay GP's or hospital dr's in the UK?
    also does anybody have a gay dr, what are their experiences and do they prefer it?

    I live in the US, can't help you with your first question. As for the second, my only preference is for a gay friendly doctor, male or female. Gay's OK, too, that's what we have now, but not a requirement. More important is medical skill. And certainly avoiding a doctor who's gay hostile.

    Here's 2 quick funny anecdotes, that I've mentioned here before regarding gay friendly doctors in Florida. My husband got an infection under his foreskin, that needed some topical medications (I hope this isn't TMI).

    I was in the exam room, as we always are with each other. But I was looking away, I didn't want to be intrusive. But the dermatologist called me over, and explained in detail how I was to apply these 2 medicated lotions.

    HUH??? ***I'm*** going to apply them? Who said anything about ME? And the doctor gave me a quick course on doing this procedure on my husband's penis, that I had to demonstrate for him under his supervision.

    What made him think we were so intimate I was a candidate for this? But I didn't object, and did indeed perform the procedure back home. I was shocked he never asked either of us first. Made me wonder if it's so obvious we're a sexually intimate gay couple.

    The other time was my examination by a cancer specialist. He told me to drop my pants and lean over the exam table, for a DRE (digital rectal exam). Once again my husband & I were together in the small exam room. The doctor didn't ask either of us if this was OK, to stick his finger up my bare butt in my companion's presence. Although we aren't legally married, I guess it must be visible to straight doctors.

    So yeah, we prefer gay or gay friendly doctors. I'm very candid with my gay sexual issues with them, even when the doctor has been female. If I can't do that, I might as well not visit the doctor.
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    Jan 27, 2016 2:50 AM GMT
    My doctor is a lesbian. I love her, but I admit I'd feel a little weird if she had to grab my sack or inspect my hole
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    Jan 27, 2016 5:03 PM GMT
    I don't care if my doctor is gay or not , but i am not keen to have a female doctor at all .
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    Jan 27, 2016 5:05 PM GMT
    neffa saidI don't care if my doctor is gay or not , but i am not keen to have a female doctor at all .


    Any particular reason for not wanting a woman as your Dr ?
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    neffa saidI don't care if my doctor is gay or not , but i am not keen to have a female doctor at all .


    Any particular reason for not wanting a woman as your Dr ?


    Probably the same reason why female patients don't want a male doctor or a male nurse.
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    Jan 27, 2016 7:54 PM GMT
    Erik101 said
    interestingchap said
    neffa said
    I don't care if my doctor is gay or not , but i am not keen to have a female doctor at all .

    Any particular reason for not wanting a woman as your Dr ?

    Probably the same reason why female patients don't want a male doctor or a male nurse.

    Many male doctors will have a nurse or someone else present when he examines a female patient. My female doctors have offered to do that, and I tell them not to bother. I trust their medical professionalism, and I'm not terribly shy.

    Some insist on a witness anyway, as a matter of policy and legal protection. Sometimes it's a female nurse. And I've actually said to them: "Why do you think having **2** women watching me get an intimate examination would make me feel more comfortable than having just 1?" But it's all about their own legal liability, not my comfort,
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    Jan 27, 2016 8:09 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Erik101 said
    interestingchap said
    neffa said
    I don't care if my doctor is gay or not , but i am not keen to have a female doctor at all .

    Any particular reason for not wanting a woman as your Dr ?

    Probably the same reason why female patients don't want a male doctor or a male nurse.

    Many male doctors will have a nurse or someone else present when he examines a female patient. My female doctors have offered to do that, and I tell them not to bother. I trust their medical professionalism, and I'm not terribly shy.

    Some insist on a witness anyway, as a matter of policy and legal protection. Sometimes it's a female nurse. And I've actually said to them: "Why do you think having **2** women watching me get an intimate examination would make me feel more comfortable than having just 1?" But it's all about their own legal liability, not my comfort,


    Hence, one of the many reasons why I work in the ICU. The patients are on a ventilator, sedated and I don't have to deal with such bullcrap!
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    Jan 27, 2016 8:20 PM GMT
    Erik101 said
    Art_Deco said
    Erik101 said
    interestingchap said
    neffa said
    I don't care if my doctor is gay or not , but i am not keen to have a female doctor at all .

    Any particular reason for not wanting a woman as your Dr ?

    Probably the same reason why female patients don't want a male doctor or a male nurse.

    Many male doctors will have a nurse or someone else present when he examines a female patient. My female doctors have offered to do that, and I tell them not to bother. I trust their medical professionalism, and I'm not terribly shy.

    Some insist on a witness anyway, as a matter of policy and legal protection. Sometimes it's a female nurse. And I've actually said to them: "Why do you think having **2** women watching me get an intimate examination would make me feel more comfortable than having just 1?" But it's all about their own legal liability, not my comfort,

    Hence, one of the many reasons why I work in the ICU. The patients are on a ventilator, sedated and I don't have to deal with such bullcrap!

    A little simplistic, perhaps? I've had friends treated in the ICU, including my husband for 6 days. They weren't sedated nor on a ventilator. Maybe a little fuzzy from pain meds, but they remembered the experience afterwards well enough that if they had been sexually molested they'd have known it.
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    Jan 27, 2016 9:15 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Erik101 said
    interestingchap said
    neffa said
    I don't care if my doctor is gay or not , but i am not keen to have a female doctor at all .

    Any particular reason for not wanting a woman as your Dr ?

    Probably the same reason why female patients don't want a male doctor or a male nurse.

    Many male doctors will have a nurse or someone else present when he examines a female patient. My female doctors have offered to do that, and I tell them not to bother. I trust their medical professionalism, and I'm not terribly shy.

    Some insist on a witness anyway, as a matter of policy and legal protection. Sometimes it's a female nurse. And I've actually said to them: "Why do you think having **2** women watching me get an intimate examination would make me feel more comfortable than having just 1?" But it's all about their own legal liability, not my comfort,


    I personally do not want a god damn audience, I only want one person present if I was having an intimate examination or something personal done like a catheter put in or taken out, a camera investigation either side, actually had one done, colonoscopy which was pretty awful, had a male Dr, 1 male and 1 female nurse, I felt very uncomfortable having the female nurse staring at my half naked body, I know they do this every day but I'm there for my health which includes mental health too so should be respected for my opinion, if it was a woman having it done then nobody would bat an eye lid if she asked for a female team but I was made to feel like I was being awkward for asking for a male team, one of the nurses although she was being nice said to me I am not interested in your bum, its not about you, its about me, I never ask for anything much and felt it was my right who sees my body, needless to say I was completely ignored and one was present during the exam, I didn't have any pain meds or sedation because I don't think you should unless its completely necessary because of the side effects, it hurts going across the top of the colon by the way but its bearable, like really bad cramp, I was saying ow, ow, ow, repeatedly until they reached my appendix, anyhow the prognosis was much better than expected, the reverse part of the exam is much easier, very weird experience though. I am not sure if my psyche will quite be the same again though after that experience. Passing a kidney stone pain wise is totally off the scale, you would never believe how bad that is unless you have passed one, apparently its the most intense pain a human will endure, worse than stab or gun shot, giving birth or any broken bone, I sprained my lower spine last year and that was quite painful for 3 days but still nowhere near a kidney stone. Wouldn't wish that on anyone.
    Anyway, my dignity matters and they shouldn't make a patient feel awkward by asking for certain requirements.