First time and the condom broke...how risky it is

  • Shark100

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    Jan 23, 2016 11:44 AM GMT
    Today I met a guy in Grindr, In the past I never accepted invitations from strangers to come over, but this time I did, i told this guy I will just jerk off with him, but one thing led to another and finally I decided to have sex with him, before, I asked him 3 times if he was STI free, and he said he was.

    I used condom and lots of lube but after some time for some reason the condom broke when I was inside him, I knew when it happened as my penis slipped out of his ass, the ring was still around my penis but the actual condom was hanging out of it.

    I was really scared and even when I stopped immediately I am not sure how risky it is, I told him when it broke and he asked me if I was ok, I told him he should not worry because I have had not sex with guys, but even when he said he is STI free, I am really worried.

    I did cum but on his chest, and as soon as I finished, I jumped to the shower and washed as much as I could but not sure what else I should do. Any advise will be really appreciated.
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    Jan 23, 2016 2:26 PM GMT
    It sounds like you'd be incredibly low risk of contracting anything and you got very unlucky on your first time.

    To ease your mind go to the nearest sexual health clinic and ask about post exposure prophylaxis. It's HIGHLY unlikely you would have contracted HIV even if the guy was pos (whatever he said you should assume he was pos to be safe) but if you've taken all possible steps it will save you the worry.
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    Jan 23, 2016 4:46 PM GMT
    Shark100 saidToday I met a guy in Grindr, I do not accept invitations from strangers to come over, but this time I did, i told this guy I will just jerk off with him, but one thing led to another and finally I decided to have sex with him, before, I asked him 3 times if he was STI free, and he said he was.

    I used condom and lots of lube but after some time for some reason the condom broke when I was inside him, I knew when it happened as my penis slipped out of his ass, the ring was still around my penis but the actual condom was hanging out of it.

    I was really scared and even when I stopped immediately I am not sure how risky it is, I told him when it broke and he asked me if I was ok, I told him he should not worry because I have had not sex with guys, but even when he said he is STI free, I am really worried.

    I did cum but on his chest, and as soon as I finished, I jumped to the shower and washed as much as I could but not sure what else I should do. Any advise will be really appreciated.

    So u dont accept invitations from strangers to come over?? Yet you did... so what u said is not even true and a moot point.

    You told the guy you would just jerk off, but you ended up having anal. . . lol
    OK, so get yourself tested. You're most likely fine. The guy said he was STI free, he probably is. ....

    Getting in the shower and "washing as much as you could" doesn't mean shit when it comes to contracting an STI. lol/. just sayin.... what's done is done.

    You'll prob end up being fine. Don't sweat it too much.
  • Shark100

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    Jan 23, 2016 11:32 PM GMT
    Thanks for the reply, I guess it does not make much sense what I wrote, and yeah it was stupid of me to accept to have sex with someone I don't know, and that is why I regret so much now that I did not respect the boundaries I set to myself.

    And you are right, what's is done is done...another lesson to learn
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    Jan 24, 2016 8:34 PM GMT
    What brand of condom did you use? (Inquiring minds want to know.) Suggest you try another brand for your future adventures.
  • Shark100

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    Jan 26, 2016 11:48 AM GMT
    Durex...and I don't think I will try in a near future, i had the worst first experience
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    Feb 26, 2016 10:10 AM GMT
    Hang on, you're the same guy who thinks they got an STI from a handjob recently - what's going on here??
  • Shark100

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    Feb 28, 2016 12:08 AM GMT
    You are right, and Honestly not proud of it. I finished my 4 week treatment of PEP as some of you guys suggested, once finished I was relieved and went to the beach for walk...then this happened. Now You can say I am an idiot...and honestly I feel like one.

    As I mentioned before, all this is quiet new to me, I have had sex with only one guy and let this one guy to touch my penis in less than 2 months. Both of them have ended up in terrible stress and anxiety.

    I have set in my mind that I do not want to feel the same way, therefore I am trying to avoid situations that can tempt to be in physical contact with other men. Just like I did during the 4 period of PEP (complete abstention).

    For some reason my mind keeps bringing lustful thoughts of the encounters and I have a really really strong desire to try again, but knowing what could happen after...it is enough reason for me to stay home.

    I'm trying to discipline myself again as I never thought I would break my rules in this way and once again, I am ashamed of that. Please do not judge me, I already blamed myself and asked myself lots of questions like these:...you do not have respect of your body, you are a disgrace as a person, where are your morals and values, aren't you supposed to be a Christian?, what would your family think about you if they knew?

    I'm a grown up person and I know that nobody decides for me, and whatever I do it's because I wanted to...but I wish this could be easier, I feel lost and I feel like my mind is playing up, The feeling of guilt and shame are there all the time, but on the other side the desire for physical contact with guys comes and go and they are really strong. I am not sure if this is natural once you start having sex...

    You might think this is stupid, and I do not blame you. I thank you for taking some time and read my posts and the respectful comments too.

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    Feb 28, 2016 1:00 AM GMT
    not much mentioned about the partner
    both of you get tested, a few times