What I Could Do?

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    Jan 26, 2016 5:35 AM GMT
    Hello Newly

    Not long ago, I met a man in a Gay Social Network with who I chatted, found pictures and video grettings, we had a very good conection and chemistry and we accorded to meet us some day, but the day did not.

    Daily we said us how was our day? And we shared experiences, long conversations and some fantasies for months.

    But then from one moment to another, he began to avoid me, and his messages turned simple and cold his words, almost we don't wrote us and I noticed that he was not like to begin.

    One day, I asked if he was good and if I could help him in some and if he was angry with me? Besides I asked when we could meet us in person, Then he said me that all was ok but that he was begining to chat with other guy from the same app and he gained his attention but that we could continue being friends, I accepted but we lost some comunication and confidence.

    The point is that time after he sometimes turned to write me like if he never would say me that he said me and like if he would be in love with me or interested, sometimes he chat with me like a friend saying me his plans, his trips and his things and other times he write me distant, or he delay answering when I greet and inclusive he write me telling me the wonderful that is the guy from the network.

    I do not what to do, if end the comunication, continue with the friendship, continue with his game or set the record straight. The problem is that I like him and I felt very well chatting with him. icon_sad.gif
  • badbug

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    Jan 26, 2016 9:44 AM GMT

    Why bother?

    Move on to something else, hopefully better. You will feel this way about lots of people. Eventually you'll realise there is about a million or so people out there that could make you happy enough.


    People get bored, lose interest. The problem you have is you see yourself as having made some special connection, but that connection isn't special anymore for this person. The person you knew, is gone. This new person is someone else and they don't like you as much. It's sad and shitty but that's life. You don't watch the same t.v. shows you did 2 years ago...you don't like the new sweater you got last year as much as when you first got it.....relationships are really not much different. Some last longer than others, but there is no point trying to extend ones that fizzle unless you have some serious investment like marriage or children.


    You really don't need to do anything. Just move on. No need to explain.
  • jeep334

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    Jan 26, 2016 12:52 PM GMT
    Badbug gave a beautiful, insightful and correct response. It's not easy and quite sad, but life does go on. Smile when you have thoughts of your friendship, but pick up the challenge of moving on. icon_cool.gif
  • ASHDOD

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    Jan 26, 2016 1:02 PM GMT
    nobody is REAL until you meet him ,until that ,he's just a picture in your computer.
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    Jan 26, 2016 2:33 PM GMT
    Thanks guys (Badbug, Jee334, Ashood)

    You all have reason, I have to continue with my life, preserving in my mind the good moments with him and after all, letting go.

    And someone will come icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 26, 2016 3:12 PM GMT
    I agree with the others. Until you meet in person, I wouldn't waste much thought on someone these days other than as pen pals. And even then I would have very low expectations because you just don't know if they are real or what their intentions are. Keep things light and you'll be fine.
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    Jan 26, 2016 3:46 PM GMT
    Yes Woodfordr, I agree with you, is crucial the personal contact and in intertet it say many liars sometimes.
  • mjlikeaboss

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    Jan 26, 2016 4:03 PM GMT
    Good for you for choosing to move on. Much healthier that way. Good luck finding someone else!
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    Jan 26, 2016 4:05 PM GMT
    Google his pics. Sounds like a fake to me. You are delusional if you think "chemistry" is something that happens on a computer. Delete the app and meet some real guy
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    Jan 26, 2016 4:15 PM GMT
    mjlikeaboss saidGood for you for choosing to move on. Much healthier that way. Good luck finding someone else!


    Oh, thanks, I will do that. I will follow your advice, the life continue icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 26, 2016 4:18 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidGoogle his pics. Sounds like a fake to me. You are delusional if you think "chemistry" is something that happens on a computer. Delete the app and meet some real guy


    No, is not fake because we sent videos saluting us and we skyped sometimes at begin.
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    Jan 26, 2016 4:21 PM GMT
    OP, the way your write is super adorable icon_smile.gif. Just remember that people can be flighty morons. You're awesome and don't need to sweat losers like that.
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    Jan 26, 2016 4:30 PM GMT
    javelin7 saidOP, the way your write is super adorable icon_smile.gif. Just remember that people can be flighty morons. You're awesome and don't need to sweat losers like that.


    Thank you, so much, what happens is that I treat of be grateful who gives me advices and I value each opinion and word icon_razz.gif

    With respect the man that I spoke I appreciate all comments and the best is let go him without grudges. icon_cry.gif It is the best decision.

  • Fireworkz

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    Jan 26, 2016 5:35 PM GMT
    the thing with online relationships is that usually they find someone closer to home eventually. You can't compete with that.
    Don't invest too much. Have them as friends but look for someone you will meet.

    It is easy to get carried away with fantasies. Fantasies are fun, dramatic and a great story but it's not worth investing too much time in them.
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    Jan 26, 2016 6:15 PM GMT
    Yes Fireworkz

    The intention of the app relationships is create encounters betweer the people who is closer as you say, but one sometimes fall into mistake of wishful thinking when the fantasies are ephemeral.