Wrong place to find love?

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    Jan 26, 2016 6:01 AM GMT
    I see this posted on people's online profiles all the time. "This is the wrong place to look for love.". I'm always puzzled by this. There are very few websites or apps solely devoted hookups. Even Craigslist models itself after newspaper wanted ads. I see this as a sad attempt to justify giving up on love. I personally don't have a problem with guys giving up on love. I do and will always have a problem with people who deny the reasoning behind their own actions. IMHO if you are honest about what you are looking for and you set and maintain healthy boundaries anything outside of a crack house or an escort service is a fine place to find love.

    What are your thoughts?
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    Jan 26, 2016 11:15 AM GMT
    MrFuscle said....anything outside of a crack house or an escort service is a fine place to find love...
    i would set that bar a little higher. that is if you insist on being honest and the healthy boundaries.
  • mjlikeaboss

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    Jan 26, 2016 3:53 PM GMT
    I think that's probably just an expression of frustration with the people who get whiny on here when they can't find a relationship. I don't think it's impossible to find true love on here. Just not likely. If it happens to you, you're very lucky. Frankly, if you find love anywhere you're probably lucky. I certainly feel that way
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    Jan 26, 2016 4:56 PM GMT
    pellaz said
    MrFuscle said....anything outside of a crack house or an escort service is a fine place to find love...
    i would set that bar a little higher. that is if you insist on being honest and the healthy boundaries.


    Would you care to elaborate?
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    Jan 26, 2016 5:28 PM GMT
    mjlikeaboss saidI think that's probably just an expression of frustration with the people who get whiny on here when they can't find a relationship. I don't think it's impossible to find true love on here. Just not likely. If it happens to you, you're very lucky. Frankly, if you find love anywhere you're probably lucky. I certainly feel that way


    That's true for every place on earth for all gay men. We are a small minority. As long as you put yor best foot forward you can find love anywhere except places that make it nearly impossible to do so like drug houses or place where people are incentivized not to fall in love "escort agencies". Since gay strip clubs are just bars where some dudes are paid to wear less clothing a person can actually find love their.
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    Jan 26, 2016 8:05 PM GMT
    The only "place" one will definitely not find love is Hell. The possibility exists for every other "place."
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    Jan 26, 2016 8:08 PM GMT
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    Jan 26, 2016 8:24 PM GMT
    I think finding someone awesome can happen on any website, but it's like lightning striking. It can happen here or on Grindr or at church, but what's the likelihood? I think people saying that, thought, are more than a little jaded about it. Maybe they aren't interested in that so it warns people off who want a relationship or maybe it's because their own search through that venue has thus far been fruitless.

    Randomly, I met my guy on IRC.... But i wouldn't exactly send people to the depths of EFnet to find love.
  • badbug

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    Jan 29, 2016 2:04 AM GMT

    I should think if you are a crack addict, the crackhouse is probably one of the few places you would find love.


    "this is the wrong place to find love"

    To me is almost a warning sign. Don't waste your time with me, i am broken. Or perhaps, pretend to love me and i'll be easy to manipulate because i am very desperate.


    So hmm, i don't know. How old are these people? Do you ever click their profiles? Maybe next time ask them why they would write such a thing.

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    Jan 29, 2016 3:06 AM GMT
    OF COURSE you click their profiles. I click all the profiles. Every site like this is like a zoo, you get to look at the animals and see their list of habits.
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    Jan 29, 2016 4:43 AM GMT
    badbug said
    I should think if you are a crack addict, the crackhouse is probably one of the few places you would find love.


    "this is the wrong place to find love"

    To me is almost a warning sign. Don't waste your time with me, i am broken. Or perhaps, pretend to love me and i'll be easy to manipulate because i am very desperate.


    So hmm, i don't know. How old are these people? Do you ever click their profiles? Maybe next time ask them why they would write such a thing.



    I think the last time I asked that question the person came off kind of jaded so I never did it again.

    Seeing what crack addicts will do for crack I wouldn't trust a person in a crack house with a crumpled receipt let alone my heart.