Do you ever feel as if there's more to life than being gay?

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    Jan 26, 2016 9:49 PM GMT
    It just seems as if most gay men are really self-absorbed and lost in their fleshly lustful desires. It's disappointing.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 26, 2016 10:00 PM GMT
    Yes... and who cares if other people are self-absorbed? At least we're not all using fake pics!icon_lol.gif
  • interesting

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    Jan 26, 2016 10:03 PM GMT
    Well, there's also more to life than being straight. Besides having sex (sometimes dirty piggy sex with random strangers many nights in a row), I think many gay men also go to work, take showers, go to movies, socialize with their friends, play sports, cook holiday dinners for their families, meditate, go skydiving, travel the world, study languages, in school to get different degrees, and oh so much more, and as I'm typing this, drinking green tea.

    I guess I don't understand your disappointment? If you think most gay men only obsess with other guys and think about sex constantly, then I guess I disagree, but to be fair, I think straight guys think about sex as much as gay guys.
  • dumbbell

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    Jan 26, 2016 10:13 PM GMT
    All things in moderation. This "gay" website is composed mostly of half-naked selfies. This probably does say something about the guys who take them and post them, and those of us who browse through them. Yes, there's more to it, but the "more" is 0.01%; the rest is half-naked (and naked) photos, and comments on these.

    Is being gay a fixation on male physical sexuality? If RJ is anything to go by, it would seem so.

    There are plenty of gay guys whose interest in sex is low, but they're little represented on RJ.

    Gay men tend to be appearance- and sex-focused to an extreme. Just to maintain the types of physical builds that are most admired, in demand, and apparently very common on this website, you have to be very dedicated to narcissism and, frankly, kind of wacky -- but that doesn't mean you have to be that way.

    Jerks will always disappoint -- just try to be a good man and don't hang around with jerks, whatever their sexual leanings.
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    Jan 26, 2016 10:15 PM GMT
    I remind myself I am gay when I come here every so often

    Everything revolves around my business, family and friends

    I just purchased second row tickets for Rihanna in concert, it brings out my inner teenaged white gurl / gay man in me.

    Bitch better have my money
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    Jan 26, 2016 10:21 PM GMT
    Maybe the stigma/discrimination of being gay has burned a dividing difference into our consciousness thereby making it a larger issue with ourselves and society than it should be? Over identification/obsession? (just thinking out loud).

    Besides getting my heart broken, feeling like most people are out to use you as a sex object has turned me off towards dating. That and I finally realized I'm too obsessed with my work to devote the time in the loving relationship I would prefer or my significant other would deserve.
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    Jan 26, 2016 10:42 PM GMT
    Aussie4Love said
    It just seems as if most gay men are really self-absorbed and lost in their fleshly lustful desires. It's disappointing.

    What's more disappointing is your idiotic statement that gay men are "self-absorbed and lost in their fleshly lustful desires". Being gay is a thousand other things, that have nothing to do with lust.

    You come here just 3 days ago, with an empty profile, and you immediately begin bashing gays? And pretend you know anything about us?

    I think you need to take your nutty rhetoric back to your Right Wing sponsors, and tell them you failed here. Because none of us (other than other infiltrators on this site) are buying your crap for a moment. Major fail.
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    Jan 26, 2016 10:46 PM GMT
    Aussie4Love saidIt just seems as if most gay men are really self-absorbed and lost in their fleshly lustful desires. It's disappointing.


    Maybe it's YOU who needs to change his perspective.

    Oh, and bitch, Art has got your ass pegged.
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    Jan 26, 2016 11:19 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    Aussie4Love saidIt just seems as if most gay men are really self-absorbed and lost in their fleshly lustful desires. It's disappointing.

    Maybe it's YOU who needs to change his perspective.

    Oh, and bitch, Art has got your ass pegged.

    Well, thank you! That was very kind of you to say that. Meanwhile, he's floundering on another thread here.

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/4170083
  • tazzari

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    Jan 26, 2016 11:42 PM GMT
    No. I know there is more to life than being gay. If your life is that small, maybe you need a new one?
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    Jan 27, 2016 12:05 AM GMT
    interesting said
    I guess I don't understand your disappointment?


    My disappointment comes from the lack of a holy spirit in most gay men. It's as if many are just living for their lusts, material possessions, and the world instead of for a living God.

    Gay men seem to not have any fear about having sex with whomever they please and they've convinced themselves that it's okay to live in sin. It's disappointing. Perhaps I need to find a gay Christian forum.

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    Jan 27, 2016 12:19 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Being gay is a thousand other things, that have nothing to do with lust.


    Taken from your resume/profile...

    >volunteering for non-profit charities that raise money for HIV/AIDS agencies
    >contributing to the local Pride Center (formerly the Gay & Lesbian Center, or GLCC)
    >run spotlight for drag shows and dress in drag
    >member of a gay chorus
    >spend most of my time staying active in many other ways within the gay community, while having way too much fun!

    Your whole life is based around being gay and what you've done for the world!
    What have you done for GOD? What have you done for other people who aren't LGBT? I'd hate for you to die and be sitting in front of the throne of God as he judges you and tells you straight-up your life meant nothing because you did nothing at all for him, our creator!


    >25-year US Army Officer
    >Military Police Corps

    Taking orders from human warlocks and not from God.


    Are you willing to abandon everything for God? I doubt it. You're having to much fun being a gay man who is too caught up in his own flesh and lustful desires to care about what his creator wants him to do while boasting about the works you've done for the world. icon_neutral.gif
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    Jan 27, 2016 12:20 AM GMT
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    Jan 27, 2016 12:27 AM GMT
    Okay guys, chill. He said it SEEMS as if MOST gay men are self absorbed.

    He didn't say all gay men were, as if it were a fact. I mean seriously, are we pretending the gay community is all sunshine and flowers? We certainly have our share of less than reputable folk.

    EDIT: Okay, I don't agree with the religious implications he was making, but I;m talking about the first post.
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    Jan 27, 2016 12:49 AM GMT
    Aussie4Love said
    interesting said
    I guess I don't understand your disappointment?


    My disappointment comes from the lack of a holy spirit in most gay men. It's as if many are just living for their lusts, material possessions, and the world instead of for a living God.

    Gay men seem to not have any fear about having sex with whomever they please and they've convinced themselves that it's okay to live in sin. It's disappointing. Perhaps I need to find a gay Christian forum.



    Good. Go find yourself some right wing christian-nazi forum, you phony repuke (=republican), and get lost lost.

    Contact the rest of your repuke douchebag brethren on here and take that shit-lot with you too.

    Goodbye Repuke Douchebag!
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    Jan 27, 2016 12:57 AM GMT
    I do apologize if anything I say has angered you to the point of wanting to fight me, but perhaps you should look within yourself and discover why it angers you so much, perhaps you'll find it's because what I'm saying is true.
  • Relajado

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    Jan 27, 2016 1:04 AM GMT
    Which god is this? There are thousands.

    I agree some gay men are focused waaay too much on quick sex and hook ups and not relationships, but sin does not exist.

    Prove a god exists. Provw it is YOUR version of god exists. And THEN and only then start talkimg about judgment or god and telling people to live their lives based on your vision of a god.
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    Jan 27, 2016 1:09 AM GMT
    Aussie4Love saidI do apologize if anything I say has angered you to the point of wanting to fight me, but perhaps you should look within yourself and discover why it angers you so much, perhaps you'll find it's because what I'm saying is true.

    Fight you? As in physical violence? No, that seems to be left up to you religious god-fearing ilk.

    What angers me is religious repukes like yourself trying to interject their morally superior/smug attitudes into our lives.

    So please, spare me your introspective and poorly executed psychobabble....gather up the rest of the repuke douchebags on this site, and mind your own business when it comes to Gay peoples lives.
    Really doesn't concern you and your ilk. ;)
  • Relajado

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    Jan 27, 2016 1:15 AM GMT
    You and your other repukes on this site should read and study more science tbh.
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    Jan 27, 2016 1:16 AM GMT
    Relajado saidWhich god is this? There are thousands.

    I agree some gay men are focused waaay too much on quick sex and hook ups and not relationships, but sin does not exist.

    Prove a god exists. Provw it is YOUR version of god exists. And THEN and only then start talkimg about judgment or god and telling people to live their lives based on your vision of a god.


    There's been many studies done on those who've had NDEs from all over the world and like 98% of them saw Jesus/God/Satan/Hell/Angels/Demons/etc...regardless of the persons religious beliefs. Even Muslims and Hindus and Buddhists didn't see what they expected to see... they saw the Christian God/Jesus. Many of them ended up converting to Christianity.

    To me this just indicates how real the bible is and how everything else is a lie.
  • Relajado

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    Jan 27, 2016 1:22 AM GMT
    Lol wrooong.

    NDE, which are probably produced through halucinations through the same trace chemical deug being released as upon sleep, are actually highly culturally contextual. The most common is tunnel and relatives. Next are religious symbols that are culturally relevant to their society. Of course a large percentage have no such ezperience. Many people have past life memories. Will you use this anecdotal evidence to escew all other religions except whichever one you choose with reincarnation?
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    Jan 27, 2016 1:32 AM GMT
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    Jan 27, 2016 2:26 AM GMT
    Bitch, don't come on a gay men's site blathering on about god. Many men here were raised Christian and made to feel evil, dirty, unworthy of love by the Christian denominations they were raised in. Many, myself included, spent many years praying that God or Jesus would have pity on us and make us straight. We were told God or Jesus answered prayers. I begged Him. I bargained with Him. I prayed. I made sacrifices. I fasted. God only answered with silence and indifference. I did not abandon God. He abandoned me. So take your God talk and go to Take a hike.
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    Jan 27, 2016 3:29 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidBitch, don't come on a gay men's site blathering on about god. Many men here were raised Christian and made to feel evil, dirty, unworthy of love by the Christian denominations they were raised in. Many, myself included, spent many years praying that God or Jesus would have pity on us and make us straight. We were told God or Jesus answered prayers. I begged Him. I bargained with Him. I prayed. I made sacrifices. I fasted. God only answered with silence and indifference. I did not abandon God. He abandoned me. So take your God talk and go to Take a hike.


    God never abandoned you.

    God taught that long suffering is good.

    Denying yourself and having enough self-control to not give into your sexual desires is a great lesson in itself that will bring you closer to him. I recommend everyone to go on a sexual fast for a period of time (at least one month), where you don't masturbate, look at porn, or have sex, or spend time on gay dating apps/sites. You cut it all out of your life for a month. You'll be amazed how much better you feel after a month and how much more control you have over your thoughts and how much more connected you feel to God.
    I've done this before and felt asexual afterwards with no interest in sex.
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    Jan 27, 2016 3:48 AM GMT
    Aussie4Love said
    UndercoverMan saidBitch, don't come on a gay men's site blathering on about god. Many men here were raised Christian and made to feel evil, dirty, unworthy of love by the Christian denominations they were raised in. Many, myself included, spent many years praying that God or Jesus would have pity on us and make us straight. We were told God or Jesus answered prayers. I begged Him. I bargained with Him. I prayed. I made sacrifices. I fasted. God only answered with silence and indifference. I did not abandon God. He abandoned me. So take your God talk and go to Take a hike.


    God never abandoned you.

    God taught that long suffering is good.

    Denying yourself and having enough self-control to not give into your sexual desires is a great lesson in itself that will bring you closer to him. I recommend everyone to go on a sexual fast for a period of time (at least one month), where you don't masturbate, look at porn, or have sex, or spend time on gay dating apps/sites. You cut it all out of your life for a month. You'll be amazed how much better you feel after a month and how much more control you have over your thoughts and how much more connected you feel to God.
    I've done this before and felt asexual afterwards with no interest in sex.


    If that is so true, then why are you here? If complete abstinence is the bees knees as you indicate and we should all deny our sexuality and all of that, WHY ARE YOU HERE?!? If there's so much more to life than being gay, and yes there really is, and you're such a holy virgin, why are you so obsessed with this subject? Go feed the hungry and clothe the naked!