HOW DO i GET OVER HIM!

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    Oct 07, 2007 11:50 PM GMT
    Help. I need quick-easy to follow steps to quit/ get over a crush.
    PS: We see each other in class every day, he greets me with a smile, will turn his gaze quickly when I turn to look at him.... I'm just tired of constantly wondering whether 1) he is gay and 2) he likes me. How do I get over the guy?
  • Squarejaw

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    Oct 08, 2007 5:46 AM GMT
    Tell him you're tired of him stalking you.

    Or that you love him.

    Or both.

    (Seriously, if I knew the magic formula for getting over an unwanted crush, I wouldn't type it here; I'd write a book and get RICH!).
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    Oct 08, 2007 6:10 AM GMT
    The only proven method for getting over a crush is getting it on with someone else. To be fair it is probably best to tell your new beau that you are on the rebound.

    If the "crush" is your first major crush, i suggest you get him alone and try to feel (figuratively) him out. If you put yourself out a bit and get no response, chances are that he is straight and you should head back to the proven method above.

    If you do get a response, push it out a little more. You can always make a scenario where you have an extra ticket to something (cinema?) or something else that you know he might be interested in. Make sure you always get a positive response before going further. Neutral responses are not usually enough as we often let our imagination tell us what we want rather than what is actually happening when the person is vague.
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    Oct 08, 2007 6:13 AM GMT
    here is the link to another thread on this topic ..

    http://www.realjock.com/topic/27549/
  • zakariahzol

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    Oct 08, 2007 3:09 PM GMT
    How wonderful it is to be 20 again. Falling in love just because somebody smile at you. Unable to forget, just because somebody being nice to you. I dont mean to be rude, but at this tender age, you probably have not meet that many men. You are not experience enough to control your emotion .

    I use to be like you. Having crushes with my professor, some guys who teach me mathematic and some goodlooking fellow student who walk home with me. It a phase, you get over with. Maybe you should ask yourself, why are you so interested with him. Or you just lusting for him. If you ask me, probably you should be friend with this guy first, got to know him and if anything develop further then it time to fall in love.
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    Oct 08, 2007 6:44 PM GMT
    So stop wondering... stop him and actually make an effort to get to know him!

    A similar situation happened to me in college. I stared at this beautiful, intelligent guy for almost 2 semesters.... and he'd never look back at me. I constantly wondered if he was gay or even interested. One day, I decided to just stop him in the hall and politely ask him to dinner.

    Needless to say, he accepted, and he ended up being the first person I ever fell in love with.

    You never know unless you try. And if you don't try, don't expect life to throw rose petals down for you.... you gotta take the risks!
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    Oct 08, 2007 6:58 PM GMT
    I agree with egimatic. You have a 50/50 shot of him saying yes. There must be somthing that because you both seem to be checking each other out.

    Asking him out for coffee is safe enough and better yet you can ask him if he would like to study with you for the next quiz or mid-term.

    Good Luck!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 08, 2007 7:44 PM GMT
    I'm such an analyst I'd analize every point of this from how he smiled, to how often and observe whether he smiles at other people..... I'm not kidding.

    I would do as the others above have suggested, I'd invite him to lunch or the like. But when I was in college I was clueless to much of this.. and in fact I would smile and be friendly because I was involved in student government. The fact he smiles and doesn't linger is interesting. Does he do that to anyone else?
    Give us a report on what happens!
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    Oct 08, 2007 7:51 PM GMT
    there is nothing to get over...either make a move and extend a friendly offer to meet for coffee sometime or to study together or just move on...if you want to find out whats going on in his head....make a move...otherwise the best advice is to focus your energy elsewhere....Courage man...COURAGE!!!!
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    Oct 08, 2007 8:00 PM GMT
    Ohy bro, if this is in its begining stages you are in for a little torture. Im only 22 so i admit i dont have that much experience but about a year ago i had this art class in college and i walked in and i saw the hottest kid i ever laid my eyes on. lol. For months i tried to make small talk and got a little response. keep in mind at this point i wasnt out of the closet. I hate that term but oh well. Anyway one day in class i cleverly asked him to send me a text becuase i had no service and i wanted to see if it would get through when i had no service. He said no prob im not sure if they get through when you dont have service. So thats how i got his number and he got mine. But after a few calls to check in about homework on both of our parts nothing ever materialized. I since then met the love of my life ty( now the hottest kid ive ever laid my eyes on). Whats funny though is i had this kid in one of my classes again and he was way more interested this time around. However too little too late. I now live with my boy and am loving life. I guess what im trying to tell you is if you cant work up the courage to talk to him then start watching alot of sports , desperate housewives, and golden girls cuzz those are the only things that kept me sane when i had my crushes. Alot of New York Mets, Chicago Bears, and Desperate housewives. I kind get the sense you are not out. So strike up a convo about sports, music etc. Try to sit closer to him. Then one day just say something. Hey are you into Guns n Roses? Did you hear they are releasing an album. If he likes you he will engage you or fumble with nervousness.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Oct 08, 2007 8:47 PM GMT
    I'm a little confused hereicon_confused.gif

    I take it that you are the one with the crushicon_question.gif

    If so you like him righticon_question.gif

    So why do you want to quit/get over the crushicon_question.gificon_confused.gif

    Is he married or seen someoneicon_question.gif

    If not and you think he likes you, get to know him better, and try and do something together. Maybe drop a hint that you are gay and maybe he will tell you.

    If I had a crush on a guy and he greets me with a smile, I would not want to get over him.

    Well maybe I would, but not in the way you thinkicon_lol.gif

    Or get under himicon_lol.gif

    Mike
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    Oct 08, 2007 10:03 PM GMT
    Find someone else, fast.
  • trebor965

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    Oct 08, 2007 11:11 PM GMT
    stop wiping your ass. it will create an imaginary boundry between you and everyone else. for super effectiveness, stop showering during this time. good luck!
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    Oct 09, 2007 12:10 AM GMT
    We as men are very physically driven creatures. Walk up to him, look him straight in the eyes, and lay a wet ass kiss on him. Before you walk away say,
    " I love you....! "


    Tebiasicon_rolleyes.gif
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Oct 09, 2007 12:16 AM GMT
    Tebias,

    That's nice, but you could get a black eyeicon_smile.gif

    Mike
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    Oct 09, 2007 12:42 AM GMT
    in your class? then facebook stalk him to see if he is or not. if he isnt then thats the best way to get over someone
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    Oct 09, 2007 2:40 AM GMT
    And you aren't sending them mixed signals?
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    Oct 09, 2007 3:19 AM GMT
    Bad choice. Those guys may be crushin on you and having the same feelings. So when you brush them off, it makes them feel like you feel when they don't smile or return your greetings. I agree with wrerick - you're sending mixed signals.

    Don't get over any of them. What is your plan? To date guys who do not look at you, or smile, or make you feel like you have a crush?

    It sounds like you are just scare of having a physical encounter with another guy. You need to overcome your fear. You're like a guy who waits in line for a screaming fast roller-coaster for hours ( or semesters) and when you get to the point of getting in the coaster you start heading for another roller-coaster line. icon_rolleyes.gif









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    Oct 18, 2007 1:00 AM GMT
    i dont think you can get over him it maybe hard but give it time. but if he was your first then its hard to all of the guys out there it well be ok