Am I gay or bi?

  • Longnight828

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    Jan 28, 2016 12:26 AM GMT
    So the question is straight forward I've been wondering what classifies as gay or bi lately. I have found myself sexually and emotionally attracted to women the most. But I can't denie that I do sexually enjoy another man. But I would never see myself emotionally attached as I do to women. And the more I think about it its not even another man that I find sexually fun. It's just another cock that I thoroughly enjoy. So would you say I am bi, gay, or just flat out a man who likes to occasionally use another man for his hard cock and his hard cock only?
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    Jan 28, 2016 12:32 AM GMT
    all good. i think you perfectly described your self for now. No need to search for a label.
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    Jan 28, 2016 1:25 AM GMT
    Do a kinsey test.

    Or just decide for yourself.

    Or just do your thang and who cares about labels?
  • Longnight828

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    Jan 28, 2016 1:39 AM GMT
    What's a Kinsey test?
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    Jan 28, 2016 1:42 AM GMT
    Longnight828 saidWhat's a Kinsey test?


    http://vistriai.com/kinseyscaletest/

    I'm a 4.
  • Longnight828

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    Jan 28, 2016 1:52 AM GMT
    Got a 4.haha
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    Jan 28, 2016 1:58 AM GMT
    Longnight828 saidGot a 4.haha


    Right on, brother.
  • Longnight828

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    Jan 28, 2016 2:16 AM GMT
    I guess now the hard part is telling my women that I'm bi or finding another women who is OK with it. Because it would be alot more fun to have a women who is occasionally OK with another nice cock in the bedroom.
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    Jan 28, 2016 2:24 AM GMT
    I'd just find a boy...
  • badbug

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    Jan 28, 2016 3:51 AM GMT
    guess now the hard part is telling my women that I'm bi or finding another women who is OK with it. Because it would be alot more fun to have a women who is occasionally OK with another nice cock in the bedroom



    I think that would be easy enough if you are emotionally and intellectually open with the women you are with.

    Once you establish a level of trust and free flowing communication, it's not too hard to figure out what you can and can't share with a person. And it's far easier to reassure them in regards to any doubts they may have if they are used to giving voice to those doubts without too much fear of negativity coming back at them.

    I mean, i guess if you're in omaha you might not do well with fundamentalist christians and if your partner has a bunch of christian-y friends, it's probably likely she wouldn't want it getting out....you've got to know your audience.


    Labels are fun. It's how our brains naturally work. Good/bad/pain/pleasure/tall/short.....technically, if you like a cock in your mouth you are bisexual. No one is going to argue too hard that you aren't and consider you straight!

    You just sound more romantically inclined to females. That could change with time. You could become more attracted to men or less.

    I am going to take that test thingy, never have either.
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    Jan 28, 2016 3:56 AM GMT
    badbug: I'm curious what your score is, based on things you've said on the forum. I know OP had the same score as me, and I'd feel pretty dishonest having a relationship with a woman at this point.
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    Jan 28, 2016 1:42 PM GMT
    I came out at 33. I was married to a woman for 6 years. I have two children. I tortured myself with what you are describing. You have to ask yourself a few questions.

    When you have sex with a woman do you feel like there is something missing? After sex with a woman I just always felt there was something wrong.

    Does it take you forever to get off? I always flipped my wife on her stomach I think because I didn't really want to look at her breasts.

    Are you more sexually attracted to men then women?

    Emotional attachment doesn't replace the sexual part of a relationship. I married my best friend but ultimately it wasn't enough. Unless you have both it doesn't work.

    Personally I believe that everyone has a gender preference and so is there such a thing as bi? Not saying there isn't but I know now that I have sex with men I wouldn't want to have sex with a woman again.

    And if you don't know right now that's fine but don't torture yourself like I did.