UndercoverMan saidNot this gay man.
Do you think naturally having kids and raising them, thus having to mature earlier than most gay men is why you don't value looks as highly as most gay men seem too?
No. I realized early on in life that looks are a genetic crap shoot, so I guess that's why I don't place much importance on them. In fact, I am more attracted to guys who have some wonky distinguishing characteristic like a large or interestingly shaped nose or thick full lips (no not Steve Harvey lips) or ears that may protrude a bit or great cheek bones or some other certain je ne sais quoi. I contacted my now husband on Grindr even though his photo only showed his lower face. His lips alone attracted me and I didn't need to see anything else. In fact I didn't see all of him until we met in person. I told him I didn't need to see anymore and that those lips of his were enough for the moment.
I have a good friend who used to tell me I could do better (as far as looks went) than whoever I was dating at the time. I remember the time he told me, "You know, His Name Here, isn't very good looking." To which I replied but you didn't see the smile he flashed me on the dance floor!