Would you say this is love?

  • NyRuinz

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    Jan 30, 2016 2:24 AM GMT
    So I have a friend who has been closeted for years, I am the only one who knows that he is gay. He has often told me about guy's he has been interested in, but never has he said he will "come out" for any them. He was always worried about how he would be percieved.

    He recently met this guy and he seems smitten by him, and he told me if they were to get in to a relationship he would come out for him. I was shocked when he said this, and I got teary eyed. He said he would not have any issues walking down the street holding his hand, or kissing him in public. Do you think he is in love? icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 30, 2016 2:50 AM GMT
    NyRuinz saidSo I have a friend who has been closeted for years, I am the only one who knows that he is gay. He has often told me about guy's he has been interested in, but never has he said he will "come out" for any them. He was always worried about how he would be percieved.

    He recently met this guy and he seems smitten by him, and he told me if they were to get in to a relationship he would come out for him. I was shocked when he said this, and I got teary eyed. He said he would not have any issues walking down the street holding his hand, or kissing him in public. Do you think he is in love? icon_biggrin.gif

    You know better than we would. Sounds like he is infatuated, at least.
  • badbug

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    Jan 30, 2016 4:42 AM GMT

    Hard to say what love is really.

    I imagine if it's recent, i don't think i would call it love but it's certainly promising.
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    Jan 30, 2016 4:49 AM GMT
    This is not a lot of information. People confuse a lot of things for love and do a lit of stupid things in the name of love. If forced to give an opinion I'd say no its not love. His coming out hinging on whether he stays with this individual tells me its infatuation. Love causes you to do things because its makes you comfortable with being vulnerable.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Jan 30, 2016 5:25 AM GMT
    NyRuinz saidSo I have a friend who has been closeted for years, I am the only one who knows that he is gay. He has often told me about guy's he has been interested in, but never has he said he will "come out" for any them. He was always worried about how he would be percieved.

    He recently met this guy and he seems smitten by him, and he told me if they were to get in to a relationship he would come out for him. I was shocked when he said this, and I got teary eyed. He said he would not have any issues walking down the street holding his hand, or kissing him in public. Do you think he is in love? icon_biggrin.gif


    Only he knows if he is in love (according to his own perception of what 'being in love' really is...).

    But the new guy has either triggered a long-delayed action plan or has changed something in the way your friend hitherto perceived his priorities.

    A dude who is really worried about how he would be perceived by the others may really not be really fitting into everyone's definition of hotness, so your friend may have had a revelation that he has been consistently ruining his real life in favor of the very fictitious benefits of the general public's perception of him.

    One of the very worst trade offs anyone could ever make.

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    Jan 30, 2016 6:45 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI thought this was going to be another hot thread with all those hot muscly asses that we love. icon_question.gif




    Feel free to bend over and bless the world papi.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 30, 2016 7:46 AM GMT
    hmmm ... my question is are YOU in love ... you sound like you might be a bit jealous
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    Jan 30, 2016 1:35 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI thought this was going to be another hot thread with all those hot muscly asses that we love. icon_question.gif




    Mmmm...what was the question, again?

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    Jan 30, 2016 2:05 PM GMT
    why were u getting teary eyed? Do u secretly love this closeted guy?
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    Jan 30, 2016 4:53 PM GMT
    NyRuinz said
    Do you think he is in love? icon_biggrin.gif

    Possibly in love, smitten certainly. And seeing a gay friend fall in love, to take his first steps towards coming out, can be very beautiful & emotional for those who know him. I wish your friend the best.
  • NyRuinz

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    Jan 30, 2016 5:09 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    NyRuinz said
    Do you think he is in love? icon_biggrin.gif

    Possibly in love, smitten certainly. And seeing a gay friend fall in love, to take his first steps towards coming out, can be very beautiful & emotional for those who know him. I wish your friend the best.


    It really is! seeing him finally get to a place where he does not care what people think is awesome.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 30, 2016 5:23 PM GMT
    I think it certainly could be love. He cares more for this guy than all the reasons he previously had for staying in the closet. And he's proud to show the world that they care for each other and will stand by each other. In some ways, I find it more moving than a marriage. And what a great friend you are.
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    Jan 31, 2016 3:49 AM GMT
    I don't think he's in love. I think he's in love with the idea of falling in love and he may have unrealistic expectations, but it's good that a man can make him come out. Just because you come out, it doesn't mean living happily ever after, there are tons of out gay guys searching for true love. But hey, everyone's journey is different.
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    Jan 31, 2016 4:57 AM GMT
    The current generation has had so much fantasy experience from 24/7 media that they have a tough time navigating real life relationships.

    I had a pup recently tell me that he would never talk to me In real life, that his generation does not "cruise " but he has no problem sending me dick pics and planning a hookup!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 31, 2016 6:35 AM GMT
    Alpha13 saidThe current generation has had so much fantasy experience from 24/7 media that they have a tough time navigating real life relationships.

    I had a pup recently tell me that he would never talk to me In real life, that his generation does not "cruise " but he has no problem sending me dick pics and planning a hookup!

    The recognition of gay marriage and adoption has opened up a whole new possibility of a life to dream of then we had in my generation. I can remember my first love telling me he wanted to marry me ('74). I thought he was crazy. I guess he was just way ahead of his time.