altho he claims i'm hotter than he is. which is utterly untrue and only goes to show his self-esteem is kind of low.
I think a good relationship is where both partners feel like they are lucky.
Agreed. And don't automatically assume the hunk is stuck-up. I've had some ask to date ME (the anti-hunk), or who immediately accepted my offer to go out together, because I had other qualities that appealed to them in lieu of looks. Things like humor & personality are almost always popular with guys. And of course being financially independent and settled, not a dependent drifter.
But many of them would also say they had a couple of problems in dating. One was not being asked, other guys being intimated by them, insecure about their chances, not wanting to be turned down. Well, I was turned down often enough that I have pretty thick skin. If a hunk doesn't want me, fine, rejection doesn't destroy me, I move on and try someone else. But I was surprised how many said "yes" right away, maybe you would be, too.
Their other problem is that guys would see them as "meat" and little more. Hunks without brains, or thoughts, feelings or any complex human emotions. A lot of them just wanted an intelligent, meaningful conversation for once.
That's where my ability to talk on many topics helped, not just about this weekend's sports games. Although as my late Mother used to say of me: "Jack of all trades, master of none". But at least I could kick off the chat, look interested and let him demonstrate his particular interest and expertise, be able to follow along a little, let him inform me. Under-appreciated guys really love that.
So hunks also need to be understood, and cultivated in ways that often aren't what people generally would assume. Do that and you can have your pick of them.