Do you ever have the urge to delete all social media?

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    Feb 01, 2016 2:49 AM GMT
    I have a Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and until recently, Twitter account.

    I deleted my Twitter because I really had no followers since not many people I know are on it.

    However, when it comes to other forms of social media, I really am starting to feel like I would be better off without it all. I was never Mr. Popular in high school anyway, so it's not like anyone gives a shit what I am up to. And honestly, I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing either. All of my friends that I actually care about see me on a regular basis, and have my number. Same goes to family members that I am close with. So what's the point?

    The main reason for feeling like this is because I just feel like everything is a competition on social media - who looks better, who has more fun, who goes on nicer vacations, who has a nicer engagement ring, who had a nicer wedding, who's kids are cuter and smarter, etc. It's just getting annoying. I constantly find myself comparing myself to others on social media and feeling less about my life because I'm not doing what I feel like a lot of other people my age are doing - getting hitched, having babies, etc.

    Maybe I sound like a jealous, miserable fuck, but does anyone else feel this way? Is it a red flag to you when someone isn't on any form of social media (in my generation at least)?
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    Feb 01, 2016 3:08 AM GMT
    ant811 saidI have a Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and until recently, Twitter account.

    I deleted my Twitter because I really had no followers since not many people I know are on it.

    However, when it comes to other forms of social media, I really am starting to feel like I would be better off without it all. I was never Mr. Popular in high school anyway, so it's not like anyone gives a shit what I am up to. And honestly, I don't give a shit what anyone else is doing either. All of my friends that I actually care about see me on a regular basis, and have my number. Same goes to family members that I am close with. So what's the point?

    The main reason for feeling like this is because I just feel like everything is a competition on social media - who looks better, who has more fun, who goes on nicer vacations, who has a nicer engagement ring, who had a nicer wedding, who's kids are cuter and smarter, etc. It's just getting annoying. I constantly find myself comparing myself to others on social media and feeling less about my life because I'm not doing what I feel like a lot of other people my age are doing - getting hitched, having babies, etc.

    Maybe I sound like a jealous, miserable fuck, but does anyone else feel this way? Is it a red flag to you when someone isn't on any form of social media (in my generation at least)?

    Don't compare yourself to others on social media. Just remember, all those pics are of the good moments. I mean, it's not like people post pics of themselves having bad moments right? icon_lol.gif

    Social media to me is just a communication tool. Helps me stay in touch with family/friends, when neither of us have time to actually meet. I don't use it to seek validation from random strangers on the internet. My IG account is set to private and I only follow people/things I care about. I also have a separate IG account for eye candy that I only check like once a week.

    FB is ok. But almost all my friends are straight. So my feed is mostly baby pics. Snapchat is pretty awful, in terms of usability. But I keep in touch with certain younger family members through it. Cuz it's what the kids use these days. Twitter is great if you know what to use it for.. it's not for socializing and keeping in touch with people.
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    Feb 01, 2016 5:58 AM GMT
    Social media can be useful if it's used correctly.

    But yes, I have considered deactivating my accounts because I fell into the trap of feeling inferior to my fb friends.

    Of course, what you see on fb is unrealistic. Everyone's life looks happy and perfect on there. I resolved to spend less time browsing on fb and just keep in touch with those that truly matter to me.
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    Feb 01, 2016 6:29 AM GMT
    I just don't have time for it. Nor do I want to know just how crazy all the people with whom I went to high school have become. Why the fuck would people care about the minutia of my daily life? I certainly don't give a rats ass about theirs.

    I did come across a (Grindr? I think) profile over the XXXmas break, when lots of guys were in town, that made me think. This was, purportedly, some hot young stud from NYC. "Your first or second communication should contain your FB, IG, SC, XX, YY, NN (I don't actually remember all of the abbreviations or necessarily know what they stand for). Failure to be on social media is proof that you are a fake."

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  • SilverRRCloud

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    Feb 01, 2016 6:45 AM GMT
    FB does help you stay in very vague touch with the folks you would really not be wasting your time in real life with, but since you happen to know them... icon_eek.gif

    Locally, the FB has its merits. Various local and regional groups provide valuable information and references on services that you may want to contract. It is one of the online market places but the one that groups the folks according to certain affinities which too, has its merits.

    So, nope. I would not be deleting any of my accounts any time soon. And, nope, I would not be attaching any emotional value to what I see there at all.


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  • badbug

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    Feb 01, 2016 7:29 AM GMT

    Yes, all the time. I can be an emotional person and often i get annoyed.

    Is it a red flag for me if someone doesn't do the social media thing? It's certainly a yellow one. It would depend on their age and reasons for not participating when asked. If a 40 year old doesn't, well that makes sense. If a 25 year old, i would assume they murdered people in their spare time. I could of course be wrong but i would be peeking in the freezer anytime i was at their place.


    Like anything, if someone is cute enough or interesting enough or if i am horny enough or lonely enough i am not really going to give a shit if they don't have facebook or not.


    Also, the point is to tell people how you feel about kittens and lunch. I need to fucking know.

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    Feb 01, 2016 8:23 AM GMT
    I only have one social media account and it's Facebook. And the only reason why I keep it is not to look at my friends' postings. I use it to look up the controversial postings of famous people. I'm amazed at all the stupid shit these people posts and even the dumber comments that follow their postings. I am entertained for hours.
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    Feb 01, 2016 3:34 PM GMT
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  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Feb 01, 2016 4:02 PM GMT
    I enjoy TWITTER and use it far more than FACEBOOK. I rarely use FB but do appreciate how it allows you to keep in touch with friends over the years.
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    Feb 01, 2016 4:37 PM GMT
    No to be honest Facebook uplifts me and brightens my day. I'm happy when my family and friends are doing well. I'm not competing with them. We have different goals in life. It makes no sense to to compete with someone whose after a completely different end goal than you are. Half of my facebook feed is people posting and reposting funny memes. The other half is people being happy about their lives. Occasionally someone post something dramatic or sad. Since I know everyone on my feed I understand where they are coming from so it doesn't affect me too negatively.
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    Feb 01, 2016 6:00 PM GMT
    No, because I think before I act. I've never seen much use for facebook, twitter, or any of that other crap, except for their proprietors' profits. Email, the telephone, FAX, and the USPS work just fine for me - and keep the world at a healthy distance. The private life matters!
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    Feb 01, 2016 6:13 PM GMT
    badbug said
    Yes, all the time. I can be an emotional person and often i get annoyed.

    Is it a red flag for me if someone doesn't do the social media thing? It's certainly a yellow one. It would depend on their age and reasons for not participating when asked. If a 40 year old doesn't, well that makes sense. If a 25 year old, i would assume they murdered people in their spare time. I could of course be wrong but i would be peeking in the freezer anytime i was at their place.


    Like anything, if someone is cute enough or interesting enough or if i am horny enough or lonely enough i am not really going to give a shit if they don't have facebook or not.


    Also, the point is to tell people how you feel about kittens and lunch. I need to fucking know.



    Kittens are cute but I hate cats so I know kittens are evil on the inside. I love lunch specially if french fries are involved. You can get me to do anything for some french fries; suck your dick, run for president, murder an enemy.

    The real question is how do I feel about Kermit memes? The answer is; I love them.

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    Feb 01, 2016 6:14 PM GMT
    If I didn't follow my friends on Instagram I'd have no idea what they were eating, when their babies pooped or peed, what gainz they had made in the gym and whether they were a lion or a wolf. I did find out two of my friends had gotten together because I kept seeing the same dog in both of their Instagram posts.
  • interestingch...

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    Feb 01, 2016 6:21 PM GMT
    Using this site is the only thing I do and have ever done, I only use email and phone to keep in touch with the friends that aren't on here, I think there is way too much information out there about people and I don't want my whole life under scrutiny or to keep up with other people because thats just all a bit fake, I value my privacy and want to keep it that way, I don't do hook ups so i'm not on grindr, I don't even have a smart phone, if I want to look anything up online I use my mac, if I am not near it then I wait or ask someone to look something up for me, I don't have a smart phone because I see people constantly on them instead of looking at whats going on around them, its nice to be free of technology I have to be honest, maybe I am a bit old fashioned but I like it that way, keeps me grounded.
    If I want to meet someone for a date then I ask them the old fashioned way, usually at a bar or club, that way at least you know if there is a spark between you or not, you don't get that on grindr. I have never been on a dating site apart from this one but use it as a social thing really, its nice to discuss things you can't with the people you know.
    Long live the real jockers ha.
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    Feb 01, 2016 7:16 PM GMT
    I know how you feel. There was an article that linked facebook use with depression. It really depends on what you are using it for. Subscribe to pages that interest you so that using FB is actually productive. I use FB for research, I even have some of my favorite authors as friends which can be very exciting to communicate and share info with. Its also useful for keeping up to date with bands/music, tour dates, album releases. FB can be a powerful tool if you use it right.
  • leanandclean

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    Feb 02, 2016 1:00 AM GMT
    I don't do any of that stuff.
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    Feb 02, 2016 3:12 AM GMT
    +1

    The only social media I have is this RealJock profile and LinkedIn, for business connections. I can do without the drama of social media. My thing is this... My friends are very close to me, and I pick up the phone and call. I couldn't care less about what people have for dinner.

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    Feb 02, 2016 4:54 AM GMT
    I was on facebook for a short while because my brother and his wife and kids think it's great. His wife is a true manipulative control freak and they all follow her lead.

    She would make these posts that were only understood by the people directly involved. For example, if they were driving to LA to visit some friends for the weekend instead of making a post saying that she'd post "Here we come!" and only those friends knew what she meant. My brother and their two daughters would do it as well.

    Then one of their daughters started sending me email using facebook instead of using regular email. So I'd get a regular email notification from facebook saying I had a facebook message and have to login to facebook to read it. That was when I shut down my facebook account.
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    Feb 02, 2016 5:16 AM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal saidI was on facebook for a short while because my brother and his wife and kids think it's great. His wife is a true manipulative control freak and they all follow her lead.

    She would make these posts that were only understood by the people directly involved. For example, if they were driving to LA to visit some friends for the weekend instead of making a post saying that she'd post "Here we come!" and only those friends knew what she meant. My brother and their two daughters would do it as well.

    Then one of their daughters started sending me email using facebook instead of using regular email. So I'd get a regular email notification from facebook saying I had a facebook message and have to login to facebook to read it. That was when I shut down my facebook account.

    I've noticed that too. It's like people either assume you already know what's going on, and post random shit with no context. Followed by tagging misc people in the comments.. Supposedly, the ones that actually knows what's up.

    I think the funniest FB thing I've noticed is people liking their own posts. Seriously, whackos. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 02, 2016 9:20 AM GMT
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    Lumpyoatmeal saidI was on facebook for a short while because my brother and his wife and kids think it's great. His wife is a true manipulative control freak and they all follow her lead.

    She would make these posts that were only understood by the people directly involved. For example, if they were driving to LA to visit some friends for the weekend instead of making a post saying that she'd post "Here we come!" and only those friends knew what she meant. My brother and their two daughters would do it as well.

    Then one of their daughters started sending me email using facebook instead of using regular email. So I'd get a regular email notification from facebook saying I had a facebook message and have to login to facebook to read it. That was when I shut down my facebook account.

    I've noticed that too. It's like people either assume you already know what's going on, and post random shit with no context. Followed by tagging misc people in the comments.. Supposedly, the ones that actually knows what's up.

    I think the funniest FB thing I've noticed is people liking their own posts. Seriously, whackos. icon_lol.gif


    Its really more of a lesson that everything isn't about you nor meant for you.
  • buddycat

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    Feb 02, 2016 11:20 AM GMT
    I already have. No Twitter, no Facebook, never on Instagram. I am not even on here that much anymore either.
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    Feb 02, 2016 5:14 PM GMT
    xrichx saidI think the funniest FB thing I've noticed is people liking their own posts. Seriously, whackos. icon_lol.gif

    Aw, cmon; if they didn't like it they shouldn't have posted it!   icon_biggrin.gif
    (Although it does seem stupid that facebook allows you to like your own posts.)
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    Feb 02, 2016 5:58 PM GMT
    I think it has declined, but for a while, I frequently encountered small businesses that had no web page of their own - only a Facebook page. You had to log in to FB to get any kind of information.

    Apparently, my crack-ho cousins, who frequently cannot afford phones, communicate primarily through FB. Some of them don't address each other directly, but just leave nasty comments about each other on a third person's page. They can't believe that I have no idea about what's happening in their lives, and somehow think that I'm "dissing them." (I am. Oh, I am.)

    As far as I can recall, I last looked at phazebuk about two years ago.
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    Feb 02, 2016 6:01 PM GMT
    It's only a competition if you a) see it that way and b) try and copy what your "friends" are doing by your posting content.

    I deleted my FB after my accident because I felt like people were keeping tabs on my progress w/out really caring about me. I started a FB account again and this time only keep it to family and friends. For me to add someone as a friend, I need to have either met them in person (and like them), have some kind of connection to them (other amputees for example), or actually chat with them on a somewhat regular basis.

    I use social media for what it's original intent was--to connect with people in a meaningful way and maintain those connections. Friendship is a two-way street.
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    Feb 02, 2016 6:08 PM GMT
    Whether we want to admit or not, we're living in a world of competition. Jobs bfs... Etc. I have facebook, ISG and 2 gay dating sites. Idk, it's fun to read and connect with people. Once in a while i have a crazy stalker psycho that spammed or emailed me relentlessly. I only keep contact with friends people who make an effort with me. Apparently a couple of old college friends and my cousin got mad at me for not acknowledging their babies. Lol ok like i care? I don't like kids. icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif