When we can get married...

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    Feb 06, 2009 2:19 PM GMT
    I dont think its going to be that far in the future that were going to be allowed to be full blown married, and this isnt a topic to debate if it should be legal or not, but...

    growing up as a kid i alway knew i was attracted to men and the thought of marriage never crossed my mind, i knew it wasnt possible and i didnt know what my family was going to think so its always just been shoved away.

    but now it seems the topic of gay marriage has been out and about and its posible... and its just now hit me that in the future if i dated a guy and we fell in love we CAN get married....and its wiggin me out!

    would u guys ever consider marrying another guy? what would hold you back?
    i guess for me, ive never even had a concrete bf so i cant really see myself with a concrete husband.

    and not to be rude or anything but if this topic was posted b4 years ago i dont really care...
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    Feb 06, 2009 3:26 PM GMT
    Just a few years ago after coming out I had a difficult time when I went online on Valentine's Day and saw images of heterosexual couples everywhere, something I never noticed before. I didn't think I belonged anywhere in this world, or that I ever would, so I'm with you on how unbelievable it is that marriage will only continue to be extended to homosexuals in the near future.

    I have considered marrying another guy, and I did. icon_biggrin.gif Can't think of another point in my life when I was happier than I am now.

    By the way, great topic!
  • ShawnTX

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    Feb 06, 2009 3:32 PM GMT
    Being from Canada where gay marriage is legal, I find it a bit bizarre that this is still a hot-button issue in a civilised country. I turn on CNN and listen with amazement to the proponents of Propaganda 8, their concerns over the downfall of society and the sanctity of marriage if gay people were allowed to marry.

    Apparently to these people, the USA and planet Earth are one and the same...there are no other countries on Earth, other countries that have legalized gay marriage, and what do you know? Society is doing fine and well, the sanctity of marriage as intact as it ever was.

    But I suppose the problem is that people define 'the sanctity of marriage' differently. Britney Spears' 52 hour marriage just so she could stop pretending she's a virgin, people that have been married multiple times, and the hundreds of thousands of wife beaters uphold the sanctity of marriage just because they're straight.

    Ok, so I'm venting a bit here. Yes, the day will come when gay marriage is legal in the US. It was an exciting time in Canada, when our leaders finally stopped paying us lip service, when their actions followed the once-empty speeches of equal rights and being there and looking out for all the citizens of Canada. Now they finally mean it.

    And a funny thing happened the next day...people went on living their lives, society didn't collapse and God exacted no punishments on the people of Canada. Imagine that.
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    Feb 06, 2009 3:39 PM GMT
    Ive always wanted to get married

    I had the view of me and my guy being married with kids.

    Always wanted that.



    Recently someone told they where buying me a ring and planning on marrying me. I was shocked and happy but like always shit happens before
    anything good can happen.

    no marriage for mr onslaught lol
  • Latenight30

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    Feb 06, 2009 3:55 PM GMT
    I see things the way Shawn does. It appears that it's not us THE GAYS who are dmagaing the scantity of marriage.
    The wife beaters and multiple marriages I think has made a mockery of the whole argument. Now I did just read that one of the lesbian couples who were on the record in Mass. are getting a divorce so here we go again.
    I want to get married. I do wedding lighitng and production so I think it would be a blast. And think about it if we could registar at WilliamSonoma, Home Depot, Armani. The ammount we would pump back into the economy would be astronomical.
    I live in Atlanta, which unfortunately for as progressive as the city is, there is a whole state that doesn't totally agree.
    My parents have been married..gosh almost 37 years or longer. So have my partners. I think we would make great role models to the practice.
    Now on children, not interested, never have been. But I do have a few gay couples who have them and they are excellent parents and I know the children will grow up to be great additions to our society as a whole.
  • Delivis

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    Feb 06, 2009 4:23 PM GMT
    Come to Canada, get married, have a jolly good time...and then freeze your ass off...but hey, married!
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    Feb 06, 2009 4:34 PM GMT
    ShawnTX> their concerns over the downfall of society

    Obviously they were right. First Canada let them queers in the military... now they can get married....

    ShawnTX> a funny thing happened the next day...people went on living their lives, society didn't collapse and God exacted no punishments on the people of Canada. Imagine that.

    Oh, that's what you think. For starters, God is sending freezing temperatures - as Delivis unwittingly admits. This will be followed by the hellfire some confuse for global warming. And it's all the fault of them gays.

    Lastly, one day you'll wake up and see that another funny thing happened. People will be marrying their dogs.


    Hey, sign me up. I want a whole harem of dogs!
    (Dogs are loyal for life, so no doggy divorce messes.)
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    Feb 06, 2009 8:47 PM GMT
    What is scary about the gay marriage debate in the USA is the fact that it detracts from the real problems facing the country. An economy that is going down the toilet, a public education system that is "challenged", an expensive health care system that leaves nearly 50 million uninsured, social entitlement programs like social security that are facing bankruptcy in the next 20-30 years, etc, etc.. What are some people worried about? Whether Chuck and Nick can do the horizontal mambo with little rings on their fingers. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 06, 2009 10:10 PM GMT
    Spain and Canada. That´s all I have to say.

    Both countries have hot men and they can marry each other. As soon as I settle into one place I´ll be looking for a ltr and hopefully marry (in Spain rather than Canada I think because of the sun issue)
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    Feb 06, 2009 10:15 PM GMT
    A more important question is...Who gets to wear the dress??
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    Feb 06, 2009 10:23 PM GMT
    you can, stud. icon_eek.gif

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    Feb 06, 2009 10:26 PM GMT
    Cool...should I wax my legs?icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 06, 2009 10:28 PM GMT
    no, back, crack and sack is enough for me.

    Oh, and I presume it´s going to be a kilt. I am not walking up the aisle with you in a little black number. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 06, 2009 10:41 PM GMT
    I always thought I'd get married. I still think it will happen, but I don;t want to think about it until I'm like 30. But you never know. I might meet the one I want to marry beforehand. I think a great deal of young gay guys like myself in this country think they will get married.
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    Feb 07, 2009 3:02 PM GMT
    We've talked about crossing the border and getting married in Canada (less than an hour away). If we lived in Canada we'd have done it, but there's something "wrong" about having to go to another country to get married - especially when it won't be recognized in the USA.

    California opened up another opportunity, but who wants to get married on the other side of the country? It's not like we could actually have a ceremony with all our friends and family. And it's not like Michigan would have recognized it. Still, if not for Prop. 8., we might have done it when we go west this summer.

    Besides, isn't it a bit late to get married after you've been together with someone for going on 13 years? Though one benefit is that if we did get married (in Canada or California if 8 is overturned) it would be recognized in Israel when we relocate there.