When "mature" is immature

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    Feb 04, 2016 3:26 AM GMT
    Hi to everybody icon_biggrin.gif

    A real mature man is wonderful (for we like) and when the man is mature but young at heart is even better, a combination of wisdom and energy is perfect, but when the youth is immaturity and when the adrenalin turns on a hazard even for the same person, that's not very nice.

    Sometimes the people think that youngs are intrepid, rebel, unstable and immature, that we only want to play. That's true in the most cases.

    But what happen when the older is the intrepid, the rebel, the unestable and the inmature and when the older is who want to play, to cheat and to use as much as the younger or much more. There are cases that the young guy is the serious, mature or old foggey and the older is like a true child. And that I am saying is independient about race, society, nationality or life style, it's more, would be a not only for the gay people topic, is some general.

    For example I would be happy having a boyfriend much more older than me but that looks full of youth, vitality, with open mind and youth clothing mode and juvenile speech mode but at time who knows how to respect, that be responsible and who never put my life or other life neither his life in danger and never would take advantage of anybody for not knowing really what to want as many have thought that I would do for be too young.

    My view point is we should allow ourselves to cliches or social labels and understand that age is not experience or behavior, and each mind or heart is a world and for younger or older that youth is not the same that responsability sense.

    What do you thing guys?
  • dilfforrent

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    Feb 04, 2016 3:35 AM GMT
    Just from experience, all of the men my age who are actually mature and looking for serious long term relationships don't go for 20 year olds. It's the ones just looking for sex who convince themselves that they are "dating", and those rarely last longer than 2 school semesters worth of tuition icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 04, 2016 3:54 AM GMT
    Even as a child, I was old beyond my years. Not mature, mind you; it's just always seemed that I've seen and heard more than I wanted to have seen and heard.

    Just like age and maturity are not the same thing, neither are responsibility and maturity the same thing. Nor are any of these the same thing as consistency or predictability or faithfulness or strength of character.

    To my mind, maturity is more about balance and perspective -- among other things, the ability to see yourself through the eyes of others -- but I wouldn't really know. Every time in my life that I've thought I've achieved maturity I've proven myself wrong. Personally, I'd suggest using "mature" as a verb, not an adjective. "Maturing" is something you *do*; "maturity" is not attained as easily or as frequently as we would probably like. Worse, maturity does not naturally impart good intentions or purity of spirit or absolute selflessness; using and cheating are not purely something that immature people do.

    It's a great thing to be thinking about at your age. Just don't fall into the trap of thinking you have the answers; if that ever happens (and I personally don't think it happens very often at all) it almost certainly won't be for a few years yet.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Feb 04, 2016 6:15 AM GMT
    Maturity is an essentially cultural trait. A mature guy in Southern California and a mature guy in Greece would not have really that much in common, in terms of usage. So, try as you may be, you cannot really escape the cultural context.

    You may be able to go on a journey of maturing together thoughicon_biggrin.gif.

    If the personalities align to a degree, two guys are likely to start adjusting to each other quickly. You give some. You take some. Here you speed up some, there you slow down some...

    You can find a compatible dude, and mature in sync with him...icon_idea.gif


  • badbug

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    Feb 04, 2016 6:23 AM GMT

    Greece? Who could take that place seriously. They don't even know how to spell. At least Turkey knows how to spell.