Am I considered self-loathing if I... Don't find old guys attractive at all? I've been getting many private messages from old guys on this site accusing me of such, but to me it's just preferences. It's like me choosing men over women, in fact the reasons overlap because older men tend to suffer a decrease in testosterone, hence the loss of body hair and more lower-body mass, unless you practically live at the gym. And my preferences are shaped by the media, so don't blame me.
Not necessarily. Depends on your available dating pool, and what you're seeking.
I take a "top-down" approach with a guy. What's in his head first. Also his eyes, I really look into them. I truly imagine I can see into his soul through his eyes. Then I move down to his heart (not his hard, smart asses), which is really the same as his head, but culturally we romanticize it as heart.
Older men have substance, character, finesse, experience, proven tract records, and a thousand other things the younger guys are still working on. I prefer to go right to the finished product. Who might appreciate the same thing themselves.
The rest of him from the head down is negotiable. Perhaps you need to think about your priorities, and your own place in the pecking order of gay society.